how do YOU devolop an *individual* personality?

Answer 1

I have struggled with a lack of self confidence in my life, and something that has helped me with MY own individuality is to find someone I admire, whether it's their style of dressing, the way they talk, or the attitude they have, and immitate them. I know it sounds strange for that to be a way to develop an *individual* personality, and believe me I'm not saying to be just like them, but it can be a great jumping off point. Find someone that you think is strong and self confident and has qualities that you like, want to have, or want to be like, and use them to figure out who you are. Then when you get in that uncomfortable situation think "what would George Lass do?" and it helps you to get out of your own cycle of self doubting and puts you in a mindset of someone who has confidence and strength. After a while you don't need to think so much about being like someone else because you are able to re-train your mind to automatically go to that self confident place when you get in a scary situation.

Answer 2

A lot of times it depends on the people around you.
Whether or not they ALLOW you to grow as an individual.
If you are grown-up, then choose wisely who you will allow to influence you &/or allow growth.
If you are a child & feel stifled, then talk to your family about wanting more interactions that would help you to assert your independence.
Becoming an individual takes a lot of time.
It is usually very subtle, you don't notice the changes, until someone will make an observation about you, as an individual, for the positive.

your personality is said to be set by the time you are 3-5 years old. But personality is changing with all the experiences you have. For example:
You would not be who you are if that dog did not chase you when you were 8.
You would not be who you are if the school bus driver forgot your stop.
Everyday events change who you are, very subtley.
WE ARE ALL INDIVIDUALS, EVERYONE EXPERIENCES DAILY EVENTS DIFFERENTLY.
Links below talk about how our personalities *individually* are developed.

Answer 3

Self consciousness.


Alfred Adler (1931)

What Life Should Mean to You

Chapter 2. Mind and Body
MEN have always debated whether the mind governs the body or the body governs the mind. Philosophers have joined in the controversy and taken one position or the other; they have called themselves idealists or materialists; they have brought up arguments by the thousand; and the question still seems as vexed and unsettled as ever. Perhaps Individual Psychology may give some help towards a solution; for in Individual Psychology we are really confronted with the living interactions of mind and body. Someone's mind and body is here to be treated; and if our treatment is wrongly based we shall fail to help him. Our theory must definitely grow from experience; it must definitely stand the test of application. We are living amongst these interactions, and we have the strongest challenge to find the right point of view.

http://www.marxists.org/reference/subject/philosophy/works/at/adler.htm

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erick_Erickson

hope
will
purpose
competence
fidelity
love (in intimate relationships, work and family)
caring
wisdom

Answer 4

Individual personality is already there. It takes growing up to get to know who we are, and growing up takes time. You are already your own person, you are unique- one of a kind. Don't worry about "developing" a personality,as you grow older you will discover yourself more and more. At the moment just focus on achieving your goals.

Answer 5

Do the things beyond the control of the Nature and challenge anything valuable.

Answer 6

Be who YOU are. Don't be what others want you to be. Don't be like others jsut to be like them. Take the best of what you know of others and try to genuinely incorporate those traits and qualities into your personality. Think about how you feel, what you want, what makes you tick, what makes you you. Also think about what you don't like, what you think is bad, what disgusts you, what upsets you, what thrills you, and you will find your personality. Actually you probably won't know what your personality is until you are at least 18. Trust me. It takes at least that long to begin to KNOW THYSELF . . . . . .

Answer 7

Be your self, and do the right thing. Be positive, never keep the negative feeling inside your heart (such as revenge, hate the other people, etc), coz it will only make your heart dirty. When you keep your heart clean, be nice and do the right thing, somehow it will affect your inner beauty, it will reflect on your face and your face will be shiny. :)

Answer 8

question everythig, dont be so quick to join a group. you almost have to be sucpiscious or stubborn that your personality is whow you want to be. don't change accordign to what ppl want. stay strong, and rememebr that you are the only person who can b you, and vice a versa, and that trying to be like others is silly b/c you can't.

Answer 9

One way of developing an individual personality is to be original. Meaning you don't pattern your action and thoughts they way people want you to be. One must feel free to act, say and think they way he wants to. Sometimes you have to take the risk but the fulfillment is you did it your way. "just do it" is also one way of developing one's personality.

Answer 10

yes