If so, how?
2007-06-20 15:29:58 · 16 answers · asked by luvsick143 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Of course, and negatively. Depression affects everyone in contact with the person who is depressed (mentally ill). He needs to get help, immediately.
Greg (doofus), depression is not "caused" by another person, it is an individuals reaction to what is happening, how they handle life or fail to properly handle life. Placing blame is a cop out.
2007-06-20 15:34:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you asking? Are you the husband who is depressed? Or the wife?
Depression is a treatable mental illness. It is safe to say that a wife will be affected a depressed husband. He will have any or all of the following obstacles to happiness, and some that I forgot to mention because I am not a doctor:
1 no self-esteem
2 overwhelming sadness and hopelessness
3 no or diminished interest in sex
4 excessive alcohol consumption, or drugs
5 sleeping all the time
6 seeming lazy
7 not caring about anything, including his appearance or attractiveness.
If you are not asking the question hypothetically, and you are the wife, your husband will need all your love and understanding to recover from his illness. Having said that, you will need to be looking after yourself as well.
2007-06-20 22:37:24 · answer #2 · answered by Pagan Dan 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sure it does...the best thing he can do right now is work!! Give him a project to do start to finish...don't critique it at all. A man gets depressed when he is not producing things w/ his hands. Also being around other men doing "guy things" will eleviate this because of all the testosterone. Don't baby him at this time. Challenge him.Don't try to make him "talk about his feelings". Guyz don't do that. Also men get depressed if they cannot financially support the family. Are u a princess demanding material things?? Get a job. The best advice my sister in law evah gave to me: Let a man be a man. You take care of all the "woman" stuff.And improve on your looks. Look hot to put the fire back into him.
2007-06-20 22:51:28 · answer #3 · answered by Mee-OW =^..^= 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most definately! My now ex-husband suffers from depression, it took him years to admit it, during those years he verbally abused myself and our kids. During the day and in public he was the nicest person you'd ever meet, but come night time he turned to drink and EVERYTHING was my fault. His workday, something misplaced, work etc. . .
The wife takes the brunt of it to protect the kids, the wife believes she can work things out and tries her hardest to do just that, and all the while the husband gets worse.
The wife has to realize that she can't help her hubby until he his ready to help himself, some hubbies aren't ready to admit they are in a depressive state until it's too late. Like mine!
Depression shows itself in different ways.
2007-06-20 22:55:00 · answer #4 · answered by Marion W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depression, unfortunately, affects everyone around/invovled with the person who has it. A spouse who is depressed for example - the effects fo depression can be quite troubling for the entire family as they no longer want to be around people, work, get up, etc. This can trigger a great deal fo financial problems, as well as emotional issues for the entire family becasue of one person. A person who suffers from depression often will shut out everyone in their life. They become shy, quiet, withdrawn from normal activites (want to be by themselves instead of around anyone at all times). They tend to have no desire to care for themselves and sometimes must even be reminded to bathe, shave, etc because they just don't care. As far as affects upon his wife....she might feel that she is to blame or that she has done something to upset him as a cover for his not communicating or wanting to spend time with her. She may have to take on a job - another job in order to support them as he no longer has the desire to do so. She may even make up excuses for his behavior to the kids, family, employers, etc as that he is sick, tired, having a bad day,e tc in order to cover for him. Depression does not only affect the person directly, but everyone else feels it as well. If you knwo someone who has / is suffering from depression, the best thing that you can do is seek them help.
2007-06-21 01:24:50 · answer #5 · answered by lilbeamlover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! reason being your are one and you are affected by his mood and what he dose or does not do. Every one around him will be affected but the wife will fell guilt most of the time for not being able to help fix it.Please get help asap. It could get worst and cause problems that can not be fixed. Depresstion is a long and lonely and fustrating place to be get help.
2007-06-20 22:42:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES YES YES. My husband and I divorced because of his depression. He couldn't work or function as a member of our family. He basically dropped out of life. I tried to be helpful and supportive, but he refused to seek treatment. After 3 years of him not working or doing anything with us as a family, I just couldn't do it anymore. Fortunately for me this was his wake up call and he got treatment and got his life back together. We have been reunited for over a year now.
2007-06-20 22:43:25 · answer #7 · answered by htaylor1021 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. It can wipe out his sex drive, make him bitter at anything & everything & will cause friction between the 2 of you. If serious enough & untreated, it could lead to him losing his job, having suicidal thoughts and emotionally crippling him. That being said, it will DIRECTLY affect you. Get him to talk to a counselor and if necessary, get him on anti-depressants.
2007-06-20 22:36:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everything my husband goes through affects me. If he's sick, I have symptahy pains. And especially if he's upset or down about something. It's hard to be happy when your signifigant other isn't. But by communication, you know, just talking about feelings, etc, sometimes that can help. Be there physically and emotionally for him. Let him know he can turn to you, but don't pressure him to talk about his feelings. Men tend to think they shouldn't have sad feelings, they think it's a sign of weakness. Just be there for him. Good luck.
2007-06-20 22:42:49 · answer #9 · answered by TwyztedChyck 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your mate is depressed that will affect your entire relationship badly and you most likely will also become depressed.
2007-06-20 22:48:21 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. Ed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋