Today I had a handy man in my home laying some floors. In his conversation he commented how his first wife was the reason WHY he never became anything more! I guess he wanted his AA and well she had a kid (his) which created all kinds of problems. I have a Problem when the First Wife usually gets the Slap, when there are problems..What about all the Good they do? She stayed home and raised his children, and he met up with another woman whom he is now with, how wrong is that? Who LOST more? His AA degree or her Marriage?
Oh and he's getting married to his lover.....who Won?
2007-06-20 15:08:37 · 20 answers · asked by Mona Lisa 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have been happily married for 24 years and have a wonderful son who is now 22 and a daughter who is 18. Without my husbands compassion and understanding, our children would have never become who they are today.
I couldn't imagine them dealing with a nasty divorce...I think it is one of the most selfish things a parent can do to a child....
2007-06-20 15:23:30 · update #1
I think they both lost something special, a marriage. It's not fair to the children and parents should think about the mental health of their children before breaking up.
2007-06-20 15:17:19 · answer #1 · answered by cardo11 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
AT THIS POINT, YOU ARE ASKING US TO HELP YOU GOSSIP! THAT IS NOT WHY I AM HERE.
I don't know this man nor his wife. But, I do know that, even when children are in a home with a husband and wife who are CLEARLY not getting alone, UNHAPPY, AND THE HAVE EXHAUSTED ALL AVENUES TO MAKE A GO OF THE MARRIAGE, THEY ""SHOULD GET A DIVORCE'''''.
You ABSOLUTE SUGGESTION that people stay together for the sake of the children is a joke! IT IS BETTER TO HAVE 4 UNHAPPY PEOPLE THAN TWO PARENTS, SUPPORTING THE EMOTIONS OF THEIR CHILDREN, SHARING CUSTODY, AND EVERYBODY IS ADJUSTED AND HAPPY.
Come off your high horse, so your marriage stayed for the kids, and that is GOOD. Don't allow any sacrifice you choose to make be a STANDARD for the world. There are Abusive families, Drug using families and Incest families that need to part ways and keep the kids interest as first importance.
So, who lost? I DON'T KNOW AND DON'T REALLY CARE.
IT WOULD BE DIFFERENT IF YOU WERE LOOKING FOR EMOTIONAL SUPPORT, COMING FROM THIS RELATIONSHIP; ON THE CONTRARY, THIS IS JUST PLAIN GOSSIP!
2007-06-20 23:12:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Okay don't even worry about what that guy said, obviously he's ignorant not because of his first wife, but because it's in his genes. Come on if he wanted to go and get a degree he still could. My mother had me at 17, 22 years ao. And without her parents, she went right away to biz school and got her AB. So no excuses for a man who had a wife to help him with his kids.
We all have free will, and I bet he used his free will to go to the bar or hang out with his friends, no one stays in the house all day. So if he could have done that he could have went to college. And if he was smart enough, he'd realize he still could and could use a student loan or public aid to pay the house or apartment bills. Again I say obviously its not the woman's fault and he's just too dumb for his own good, and blames it on others.
Oh well.
2007-06-20 22:18:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Who ever said life was fair? You sound like a first wife who feels she got slapped. The best revenge is to live well. You can't know who won until you meet his ex wife and see how she fared in all of this. Maybe she is the lucky one for being free of the man who blames his failures on others.
2007-06-20 22:20:14 · answer #4 · answered by mafiosu 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
His first wife didn't keep him from moving on & making more of himself. That was totally on him. If he had no more drive than that, that's on him & he can't blame her. He doesn't sound like he's worth much of anything & no great catch for this next wife either. He didn't amt. to much to begin with & isn't going to amount to any more. Just hope if the kids are young, he at least has the backbone to support them. That's one important thing. No, it's not fair, but a lot of things in life aren't fair...But he does have a responsibility to his first wife & at least not to stick her w/no support for them.
2007-06-20 22:21:05 · answer #5 · answered by Sue C 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Who won? The first wife. She's rid of the loser. See, I think everything happens for a reason. Maybe he and the one he's with now are perfectly matched (maybe they're both losers).
2007-06-20 22:26:09 · answer #6 · answered by TwyztedChyck 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everybody loses in a situation like this.As to who's fault it is,that's another thing altogether.
2007-06-20 22:13:46 · answer #7 · answered by Klingon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he is totally embarrassed of himself and is very insecure. He is playing the blame game so he won't have to look in the mirror and say I am a looser. I have a problem with people like that and believe me they know it LOL...
2007-06-20 22:18:40 · answer #8 · answered by caligal68 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
the wife 1 she got rid of the jerk ( sounds like what happened to my aunt) probably he was 2 timing her
2007-06-20 22:37:00 · answer #9 · answered by dave 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What about THEIR marriage and THEIR lives and THEIR education? Its two people not one. That is what marriage is all about.
2007-06-20 22:21:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋