a priest. I had heard that if I married this man out of the church it would not be recognized by the Catholic Church. I figured that if it did not work, and at the time I was young and stupid, I could divorce him and later if I decided to marry again, I would marry in the Catholic Church because I was under the impression that the other marriage was not a marriage anyway. It eventually did not work out, but I had waited to long to get it annulled. I was therefore stuck with him for sometime, in missery,my bag that's what I get for trying to be slick and have it both ways. My question is how do I get forgiveness for this? Make a formal confession. Is it as simple as that? Have I caused him to go to hell, by divorcing him? I was faithful to him while I was with him, and he did have an affair while I was with him. Would he be able to remarry or have another woman? I have no intentions of ever getting married again, but could I? Or would we be living in mortal sin if we did?
2007-06-20 14:58:25 · 8 answers · asked by Brenda M 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You cannot send another person to hell. You are only responsible for your actions.
You can be forgiven all things. Just talk to a priest.
I suggest you look into having the Catholic Church issue a declaration of nullity for your marriage.
The Catholic Church believes that God does not recognize civil divorces.
Jesus said, "Therefore what God has joined together, no human being must separate." (Mark 10:9)
However there may be hope of a declaration of nullity.
The term "annulment" is a misnomer because the Church does not undo or erase a marriage bond.
Rather the Church issues a declaration of nullity when it discovers that the parties were not truly joined by God and hence a full spiritual sacramental marriage as understood by the Church was not present.
Then the parties are free to marry for the first time.
Approach the appropriate person your in your parish who has been trained in the process. If you encounter difficulties, you may go directly to the diocese.
Be prayerful, honest and patient. It takes a while.
With love and prayers in Christ.
2007-06-20 16:56:43 · answer #1 · answered by imacatholic2 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The Church does not recognize marriages outside of the Church. A civil marriage (which is what you had) is treated as though it never existed. It is looked at the same way as if you were just living with him and it is seen as a sin. You can go to confession and just confess and everything will be fine. Your ex can do the same if he chooses.
Since the marriage was never recognized, you can get a divorce and remarry in the Church. If you had married him in the Church you would have to get a civil divorce or annullment AND a Church annullment if either one of you wanted to marry in the Church in the future.
If you remarry outside the Church it will be "living in sin" just the same as your first marriage. If you remarry in the Church, you will be fine.
2007-06-20 18:58:11 · answer #2 · answered by Coco28 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Check out this source below. It will answer a lot of your questions. You are still a Catholic; however, you cannot take Communion in Church.
""5. What is the status of a divorced catholic who marries outside the church?
A divorced Catholic who marries outside the Church is still considered a member of the Catholic Church; there is NO EXCOMMUNICATION for such an action. However, Church practice has been that a catholic who marries outside the church may not receive the sacraments for the Eucharist and Reconciliation. This is for two reasons: first according to Church law, Catholics must marry before a priest and tow witnesses in order for the marriage to be recognized by the Catholic Church. Second, but more importantly, the Church teaches that marriage is a sign of the unbreakable bond of love between Christ and His Church. By establishing a new union, the person is no longer giving witness to that unbreakable bond of love. Therefore, objectively they are living in a way that contradicts the Church's teaching about the sacramentality of marriage.""
2007-06-20 16:40:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Under Society & Culture you will find a category 'religion & spirituality' you will get more interesting answer if you repost your question in that category.
The last thing you should worry about is the soul of your husband. As per the New Testament every sin (except one the worshiping of Satan) can be forgiven is the person ask for forgiveness to God and is remorseful.
I am Catholic, I married at Church and i`m divorced. Last week I was listenning to the Cardinal Turcot and he was saying that the Catholic Church is open to divorced people and gay, Christ came for the sinners right. Well here we are.
2007-06-20 15:11:36 · answer #4 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite the pickle you got yourself into honey, but there is good news. The church will not recognize your first marriage, nor condemn either one of you for it. My cousin is a priest and I stump him with this question all the time. I ask him about something being done outside of the catholic church and he tells me God won't recognize it. But then I play devil's advocate and say "well, isn't God watching everything I do?" and he has no serious answer. I was raised Roman Catholic and that is a pretty cut and dry religion, although I no longer practice all the rituals of the catholic faith, I do attend services and do keep God in my life. In end, I think that is all that really matters honey. Keep believing and you'll be okay.
2007-06-20 15:10:27 · answer #5 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all i can tell you is that you CAN have the marriage annulled, but it could take a long time. it took my dad almost 20 years to get an annullment from his first marriage. he and mom married in a lutheran church because the catholic church would not marry them. after the annullment, they redid their vows in a small ceremony in the catholic church.
personally i don't believe God would punish anyone for wanting to be happy.
2007-06-20 15:20:26 · answer #6 · answered by I'm so crafty, I make people 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-08 15:06:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best bet is to explain this to a priest. You'll get your best answers there.
2007-06-22 11:22:29 · answer #8 · answered by Danny H 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋