My husbands friend cheats on his wife, should I tell her or stay out of it.?

Question

I'm not really good friends with them but they have an adorable little girl and I've only met her a few times. My husband will come home and say that his friend is going to houston for funeral details, or his friends going to Austin to visit with old freinds and some family his freind makes these things up just about every weekend just so he can cheat on his wife. I don't want to get in the middle cuz I don't want to see thier family fall apart but I feel like she has a right to know and I feel like she just deserves better. Please advice.

Answer 1

You should write her an anonymous note and leave it on her doorstep, outlining your suspicions - do it when you know the scumball husband isn't home, and she will try to call him and maybe catch his cheating butt...His wife deserves better...wouldn't you want someone to tell you if it was your philandering husband or boyfriend??

Answer 2

Wife Cheats With Friend

Answer 3

Well dear,

Instead of telling his wife, as a friend, why not you and your husband sit down with him and talk to him, ask him if there is any problem with his family, if not, do not indulge in lust and love that will cause tremendous pain to his wife and kid, a man can only stand on one boat, not two. Ask him politely, what happen if his wife is also having an affair while he is away, can he take that into his heart? See what is his reply, if he ask you to mind your own business, so be it. At least as a friend you have done your part. .

Question is do you want your husband to have such friend that is unfaithful his lovely wife and kid at home? I am afraid in time to come, your husband may even be lure into cheating you thru him. Tell him that you and your husband do not like to continue having a friendship with a man who cheat on his wife. Poor wife, must be damn lonely while he enjoys life, not fair?

On the other hand, if he heels your advices, you do a good deed without hurting anyone. Perhap you can organise an outing/picnic or holiday for both you and his family ya. Applause and support him on his willingness to change. Some men are covered by lust and sex, perhap it is you that can remove that covered and open up his mind to realise his mistakes.

An individual must be conciously disciplined, follow by his family, his career, his town, his nation and his world, any hiccup in the system will ultimately destroy and hurt life. In his case, as a start, he is already indiscipline. Sad.

As a family friend, hope you and your husband is able to persuade and convince him ya.

Answer 4

I'll probably be flamed for this, but damn the torpedos.... My advice is to try to accept that it isn't your business, your responsibility, or your place to interfere in their lives. No matter how well-intentioned, there is a very good possibility that any action you take will result in more harm than if the situation is left alone. However. If you believe that he is putting her life in danger or permanent risk, i.e. disease or other danger, then it changes the situation. In that case, it is your duty as a human to alert her to the danger. Only you can decide if your friend is in danger or not, and I think that is the only scenario in which it is your responsibility to act. You should discuss it with your husband again, especially before you act, if action is required. Another option, if you are less inclined to be direct, is to be a little slimy for the greater good. From a pay phone, get a random female to assist you in calling your friend at home and asking for the cheater by name. Have the anonymous assistant explain that she just found out she has Hep-C and she doesn't know if you can get it from oral sex, but he should be tested just in case (modify for your purposes, of course). If that sort of whammer doesn't kick her into action, then nothing you say to her will either. Personally, though, I'd avoid lying to expose a liar. Best of luck in a difficult situation.

Answer 5

Just stay out of it because sooner or latter she will discover her husband all on her own. If you bring this up it will cause problems with your husband and his friend. On the other hand I would not want my husband keeping company with this guy....he sounds like he may be a bad influence. Not that you can't trust your own husband but I wouldn't want us getting caught up in the middle of their marriage problems. I would tell my husband that I am uncomfortable with the whole situation especially now that you know and feel bad about his wife and child! Let him know that you don't feel that he is right and you do not care about his character on his dishonesty and lying! Tell your husband you would appreciate it if he would try to avoid him and that you 'd rather not get involved because his friend makes you angry and you don't like the way he views marriage. Let your husband know that this would never be right for you and that you are so glad that he would never be like his friend! I would avoid this couple at all costs ......the wife will figure him out in due time......he won't get away with this forever.........trust me his day will come sweetie.

Answer 6

Ashley, don't tell her anything!

I think she already knows, she's just in denial.

How many weekends can this man be away from his family, while his wife happily packs his bags and kisses him goodbye?!!!

I don't think so!

Every woman knows when her man is cheating! There are plenty of tell-tell signs!

His wife is becoming suspicious of all the weekends away in other towns without them!

It's not business as usual!

It's only a matter of time before she confronts his philandering ways!

He is literally hanging himself!

Time is of the essence!

Answer 7

You don`t actually have proof of it yourself. If she confronts her husband about what he does while away in Houston he will come up with something he won`t just admit cheating so you don`t really have anything tangible to tell her. If she was your very best friend and you had seen yourself her husband in a very 'embarrassing' situation with another woman it would be different. The one situation you're talking about now is a ' stay out of it '. situation.

Answer 8

How do you know what is really going on in that house?Your 3rd hand information does not give you the right to interfere.You are a Budowsky,What kind of man are you married to anyway, and why would he have a friend who cheats on his wife.Is he trying to deflect attention from himself.Get the log out of your eyes before you scrape the speck out of somebody else

Answer 9

I really and truly think that u should tell the person because if u were a true friend u would tell her because it is a hurtful feeling when everybody knows that your husband is cheating except u and anyway if she was a real women she she already knows he cheating.

Answer 10

if someone came to you and said your husband was cheating, would you believe them? often times women want to be delusional about their relationships. why risk creating drama by calling out that man? this could cause drama between you and your husband because it may ruin his friendship with the cheater.

his wife may know and not really care or if she doesn't it's not your place to make it known. cheaters always get caught cause they get greedy the more they get away with it and soon, they aren't able to cover their tracks. if that family collapses, it's his fault and their business, not yours.

here's a word to the wise. i would pay more attention to your husband. it's been my experience that cheating can spread like a plague among groups of men. when my husband cheated, three of his other friends were all doing the same thing. men are simpletons who constantly seek approval from each other and from other women. your man may be creeping or prepared to do so. just worry about what's going on in your relationship.

Answer 11

It depends on if YOU are a friend of hers! If you do not know her, then PROTOCOL dictates that you MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS.

If you have only a social knowledge of one another, say you two attend the same parties, school functions for kids, etc., then you may want to have lunch and ask her this: If you had knowledge of MY HUSBAND CHEATING, WOULD YOU TELL ME OR WOULD YOU FEEL IT BEST THAT I FIND OUT ANOTHER WAY? She will then respond and you follow her wishes. Women who would tell, would also WANT TO KNOW and VISA/VERSA. KEEP IN MIND, SOME WOMEN KNOW AND 'CHOOSE' NOT TO DEAL WITH IT.

Once you have done that, TELL NO ONE THAT YOU WERE INVOLVED. NOT YOUR HUSBAND, NOT HERS AND ASK HER TO KEEP YOUR COUNCIL PRIVATE, CAUSE YOU HAVE TO GO HOME and YOU DO NOT WANT HER PROBLEMS INTERFERING IN YOUR MARRIAGE.

ALSO, tell her ALL YOU KNOW, but no SPECULATIONS! BE SYMPATHETIC AND NOT JUDGING OF HER MAN. IT IS NOT YOUR PURPOSE TO HAVE A HUBBY BASHING PARTY, BUT TO MAKE ANOTHER SISTER WAKE UP.

GOOD LUCK