Im 17 and pregnant and my fiance is 24 how do I tell my mother?

Question

My Fiance lives with me and my mother and we share a room. We just found out that I'm pregnant.How do I tell my mom, and can she put him in jail if he has lived with me for about 4 or 5 months with us sharing the same room?

Answer 1

Well if your mum let you share a room she must have known you were sleeping together. Although 17 is young to have a baby I'm sure you will have your mum and boyfriends support.
And to Melissa (top contributer) her boyfriend is not a pervert, Im sick and tired of people thinking age matters so much! I am 21 and my fiance is 35, whats the big deal?!

Answer 2

First of all, if your fiance lives with you and your mother and you share a room, your mother would have to be pretty dim to not realize that you are sexually active. As for the "jail" issue, only an attorney would be able to advise you for sure. Every state has different laws concerning statutory rape. Some states have very tough laws and others are more lax. My guess is that she won't be so quick to put him in jail since she is enabling the relationship and permitting it to happen under her own roof. By letting him live there and share a room with you, she is essentially giving her consent.

Basically, if you are "mature" enough to have a fiance, live with a man, have sex and get pregnant, then you should be mature enough to talk to your mom about the pregnancy. If you can't handle that, then you have no business having a child or getting married. You can't just be a grown-up when it is convenient, especially now that there is a child involved.

I hope everything works out okay for you all. Children can be a lot of hard work, but they are truly a blessing.

Answer 3

You just tell her. Honestly, she shouldn't be that suprised if she allowed her teenage daughter to not only date, but to live with a 24 year old man under her roof. Considering the situation she's allowed, I somehow don't see her becoming that upset or wanting to press charges. Personally, my parents would have pressed charges for a 24 year old even trying to date me at 17. Good luck, it's going to be a hard road for you in the future. Not trying to be mean, just speaking the truth from a parenting & money standpoint. Babies aren't cheap or easy. Just remember this lesson & what you'll go through when your child is a teen & make responsible decisions about dating & living arrangments, much like what should have been done for you.

Answer 4

If your mother is surprised you've conceived after condoning your boyfriend not only living w/you but sharing a room....

Legally she can probably press charges however any judge who hears that she allowed the two of you to "shack up" isn't going to waste time on that case.

The real question here is are you ready to have a baby and will you be able to provide a good life for a child? Is your fiance responsible? Does he have a job? Right now, you need to think less of your mother & yourself and more about the life inside of you.

Answer 5

First of all yes he can be charged with rape since you are under 18.

Secondly your mother is a straight up moron.
Who lets their minor daughter date a grown man? AND let the man move into her daughters room. I'm sorry but that is bad parenting.

Tell her you're pregnant and if she reacts a way you don't like than say "well you're the one who let us sleep together so obviously I was going to end up pregnant"

However why weren't you thinking of birth control? your fiance is old enough to know better.

What are you going to do with a child at 17? They're not a doll. You don't just dress them up and play with them until you're bored and toss them out.

24 and 17...that's just wrong.

If I had a 17 year old daughter and a grown man came near her he wouldn't be going near another young girl again because I'd give him the beating of his life!

best of luck with the pregnancy. just know that I'm saying this from a professional view point since my career is early childhood education and I know a lot.
Because you are young- don't expect an easy pregnancy and labor. It's really tough on your body. So make sure you take all the vitamins and take parenting courses, etc etc etc and SAVE ALL YOUR MONEY. children might not seem expensive but when they're your own they are VERY expensive!

Answer 6

well if she allowed him to sleep in your room it (the sending him to jail thing) should not be an issue. BOTH of you sit down and tell her and do it soon so she can help you and your fiance.
Hope This Helps!
Good Luck!!
and to all the dum-dums(thats the nice way 2 put it) in the qustion it states its her fiance,duh that would be why hes there(im pretty sure)

Answer 7

you will just have to be adult about it and tell her.

she could put him in jail if you under 18.. BUT the fact he lives with you and in the same room not much will happen im sure of it. no court would do anything about it because she allowed it..

i do not agree that any normal 24 yr old would be interested in a 17yr old..
my husband and i met when i was 17 and he was 23. we are now married,own a house, have stable jobs and currently pregnant with our first... 5 yrs later we are still together and happy...
to me age is just a number if your at least 17. i was a senior in hs at 17.. anyways.. dont pay attention to the age and what ppl think...
your together for a reason..

anyways just get prenatal care, be honest with your mom, and i hope you have a happy and healthy 9 months

Answer 8

Honestly, any parent's first reaction will probably be shock, disbelief, and anger- and it is to be expected. You might want to explain to your mom (after the shock wears off) that you really need her help with any decisions or arrangements that you may need to make.

One thing that should be of concern is the fact that your boyfriend (who is of legal age) is with someone who is not. It's not even a one or two year age difference, but a 7-year difference. More likely than not he is breaking the law, and since he is an adult, he is liable for any consequences that may occur because of this.

In short, he should've known better. And so should've your mom!

Answer 9

You'll have to tell her...she obviously knows you're having sex, so just tell her, "Mom, you know my boyfriend and I were using *insert method of birth control here (I damn sure hope you were using birth control)* but I just got a positive pregnancy test and I really need to go to the doctor. Thank you for your support." And depending on the laws in your area, yes, he could still be imprisoned for statuatory rape. In most places if one is under 18 and the other is over 18 and more than 2 years older than the minor, it's considered rape. But you'll have to check out your own area's laws about that. Speaking from experience, you need to let her know about the pregnancy SOON...she will regain trust in you a lot sooner and support you much more if you are honest with her rather than lying to her and hiding it from her for months.

Answer 10

Every state is different on that. But I believe if your mother lets him live there you should be fine. When i told my mom i was pregnant all i did was leave her a voicemail that said mom please call me back i have to tell you something. Then by the time she heard that and called me back she basically had it figured out so i didn't really even need to tell her. I found out that was a way easy way to tell most of my family.

My dad for instance is very strict so i called him while he was at work and told him Dad i need to talk to you, what are you doing tonight. By the time i saw him he'd had all day to think about it and calm down that he was fine when i saw him.

Good luck