i need confidence. People are always constanly putting me down and making me feel like crap. They pass comments cause i'm skinny, that i'm slow(takes me long to understand something) and they always get away with saying anything to me. It hurts me and i just feel like yelling at them but i can't. I know it's so dumb but i always think of a good comeback after the situation and miss my opportunity. So any suggestions to gain confidence or anything? THANKS:)
2007-06-20 11:10:24 · 19 answers · asked by x0x-summer-x0x 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Bless your heart...ignore the heck out of those people and surround yourself with people who only bring you up and who love you for the person you are. Try thinking of all the things you love about yourself and write them down..think about times you were happiest and the people who made you the happiest and always surround yourself with them. Sometimes bad people can bring you down and make you feel hopeless. So honey, move on from them. YOU ARE GREAT, God made you who you are and he made you to shine...so go ahead and shine, and when someone makes fun of you, smile and say thank you and forget about them!
2007-06-20 11:15:24 · answer #1 · answered by blpc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just listen silently to people that give you "crap" as you put it, and ONLY respond, (IE: talk freely) to those who have NICE things to say. Yelling in frustration is no good for you or the listener. Try not to let your mind wander too much when around people. (Tuning people out is a bad habit we've all picked up from sensory overload!) It can get you in an awkward situation if someone important to you has just asked you something important. Good luck!
2007-06-20 11:18:46 · answer #2 · answered by bubblelator 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a "you" day. Go and get pampered! Go get your hair done, go tanning, get your nails done, go shopping for new clothes... Just spend some time and cash on yourself and it will make you feel like a million bucks.
And geez, I wish I was skinny. They're probably jealous and just want to be like you... And for the slowness, you don't always need to "burn" back. You are like me; I can never find something to say in return. But I look at it this way: at least I'm common sense and book smart. I don't need catty comebacks to make myself look good to everyone else.
You are awesome. Don't let anyone tell you different.
2007-06-20 11:17:35 · answer #3 · answered by theewokprincess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was like you when I was young. Once I learned how to be assertive and say exactly what is on my mind, you wouldn't believe the respect I started getting.
But you have to really really reallyyyy work at it. It doesn't come naturally.
Practice little by little saying how you feel to people you know won't hurt you, then start trying it out on other people.
Also, it helps if you stop caring so much what other people think of you.
2007-06-20 11:13:43 · answer #4 · answered by getusedtoit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are the people putting you down your friends? If so, they really aren't. Believe in yourself and do your best to make something of yourself. You're not dumb because you take your time to read and comprehend things, you're skinny, so what? It doesn't matter to the people that are your REAL friends. Stop spending time with these people and spend time with you and new friends. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
2007-06-20 11:20:04 · answer #5 · answered by Jump Master 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi my name is Aleisha
maybe if u just let your self know that know one it ugly in GODS eyes and that u are always going to be loved by some on. People that say negative things about other people are mad because they can't be u. U have to learn to not pay those people any attention because when u let them know what they said hurt u they will only do it again....U hurt them by letting them know that they are only saying words. Be kind to them and u will be being the better person.
2007-06-20 11:20:06 · answer #6 · answered by lol....what eva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to have the same problem. more like freinds passing notes and saying crap about me. But I got over it b/c it only matter how you think of yourself not what your freinds think. the reason they are doing this is b/c they can't find it inside that there is something actually wrong with them. hope this helps
2007-06-20 11:13:58 · answer #7 · answered by princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually people who put other people down they are the one with insecurity and jealousy problem they did that to other people so they can feel good about themselves.I suggest you don't care be super proud of yourself don't listen to them if you think you are skinny eat more.Be happy smile more dress nice talk positive that will bring out your confidence.
2007-06-20 11:15:06 · answer #8 · answered by @NGEL B@BY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was the same way.I just learned to ignore, what people said that was negative.I just keep telling myself that I'm a good person,that they don't know me as well as I know myself.
Good Luck. LOL. God Bless.
2007-06-20 11:15:35 · answer #9 · answered by Klingon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
screw them all they are just totally insecure! probably because your way hotter than them. I like skinny girls and so you take your time understanding things. everybody comprehends at a different rate of speed
2007-06-20 11:14:11 · answer #10 · answered by ethan22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋