2007-06-20 10:59:42 · 30 answers · asked by × 7 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
people settle in life...
they just settle for what is there in front of them.
for all the wrong reasons..they feel that it's expected of them..by family..freinds..society....
marriage should be about passion..love..joy..happiness....
not social standing..money or power or position.
2007-06-20 17:42:39 · answer #1 · answered by manhattanmaryanne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think some of them fear loneliness and money or success plays into the equation. From the perspective of a man that has stayed single longer than I should have, I would have to say that being ready for marriage and meeting the right person isn't always so easy. I know guys that have desired marriage before they even fell in love and yes they ended up divorced. Some of my friends are on their 3rd marriage and I have never even tried. It isn't that I am ugly or unattractive and I am not gay, I don't get exposed to very many opportunities. As far as other people go, who knows? I wouldn't want to sleep with somebody every night that I didn't love and respect.
2007-06-20 21:18:26 · answer #2 · answered by The Walker 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of people have issues with low self esteem and they marry someone just for the sake of saying that they're married. Somehow this makes them feel acceptable to society because someone married them. They also feel that someone else might never come along so they jump into a loveless marriage. It's not a wise thing to do because first of all you'll be miserable and secondly you'll most likely end up divorcing - many times with children involved and that's not a good thing for anyone. My advice to people thinking of marrying someone they don't love, please wait. There will be someone else later in your life-maybe just around the corner. Meanwhile try and be happy in your single life. You may miss it one day!
2007-06-20 18:15:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a multitude of reasons that people marry someone they don't love. Or stay with someone they don't love.
I think what it boils down to is relationships are hard. They take a lot of work and care to maintain. The old cliche is true: "You get out of it what you put into it". Most relationships start off great with starry eyes and beating hearts. Wait about six months to a year. Thats when things get real and the newness wears off. Now you have to make the effort. Love dies because nobody wants to do the work to maintain it. What was once seemingly effortless is now difficult. People don't realize when they start off its going to be tough one day. So alot of us either get out before it gets bad, or we stay with the person because of the many reasons the other responders have listed.
I have been with my fiance for almost three years. We work hard at our relationship and our love is stronger than ever. Simply because we make the effort to love and care for each other. Why do you think they call them PARTNERS?
2007-06-20 18:14:17 · answer #4 · answered by richelleygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why? LOL! Simply because, that's how the things are in India, when you are in your 21, your parents find a guy, who they think is rich, educated, and from respected family, and they get you married off, someone you don't know, someone you don't love, an absolute stranger and there is nothing you can do or say, because you have no choice, that's how the girls are raised back home, your parents think for you, they talk for you, they decide for you, you have absolutely no say, whatsoever, then they hand you over to this man, who takes over and starts dominating you, girls are puppets.
Its sad but true.........:(
2007-06-20 18:17:34 · answer #5 · answered by Naaz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it might be because they don't know they don't love them. They haven't taken time, or they haven't been in an emotional healthy situation long enough to discover what they love. They think they love someone based on their limited life experience, but as they mature they discover that they have no idea what love really is.
I remember standing in back of the church on my weddking day and having the urge to run away. I didn't but often wonder if I'd be happier today if I had.
2007-06-20 18:06:11 · answer #6 · answered by JustAskin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) They're tired of searching and decided to marry the person they're with
2) They're too afraid that they may never find the right person if they keeps searching so they settle
3) They believe it's better to be with someone who loves them more than they do that person. It provides a sense of security.
4) Cultural tradition dictates that they need to be married at a certain age
5) Circumstances out of their control in which they feel it's better to be with that person, such as an unexpected pregnancy.
2007-06-21 13:08:49 · answer #7 · answered by Caribbean Belle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They must do it for security, or they think they can't get anything better. I don't think I could do that. What about the people that ARE married and don't act like it...I'd get a divorce before I'd sleep alone or stand for being cheated on.
2007-06-20 18:04:52 · answer #8 · answered by wwhrd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
great question.
I think most start off in love... truly in love. But while some are lucky enough to grow and blossom with each other over the years, the vast majority grow apart.
Some stay married, thinking it's better to be with than to be alone.
Other stay because of obligation...children...
Others stay, deluding themselves by thinking things will actually get better...
2007-06-20 18:03:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think sometimes people are just comfortable in their situation..even if they don't even love the person anymore. And it's terrifying for them to think of being alone, so instead they'd rather be in a loveless marriage.
2007-06-20 19:39:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋