Example: somebody betrayed you & from then on you don't trust anybody at all....
but then you are pushing away people who are possibly good & have no intentions of hurting you..
get what I'm saying..??
2007-06-20 10:40:13 · 17 answers · asked by × 7 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
darkgoth...obviously you have a lot to learn dear.....
2007-06-20 10:44:49 · update #1
It's called transference.
Boss yells at man. Man goes home and yells at wife. Wife yells at children. Children wind up in therapy.
It's a vicious cycle......
Besides, misery loves company, right?
2007-06-20 10:52:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's because we as people tend to build a wall around us after being hurt and betrayed by others. Once we build that wall up we tend to make things even more difficult for other people to try to reach us and connect with us as we are wary of being hurt all over again as we end up losing trust for humanity after somebody does soemthing that wrongs us.
2007-06-20 10:43:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 04:46:46 · answer #3 · answered by kianes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I;ll just answer the highlighted portion of your poll..lol. It's human nature to feel wanted and rejection tears into feeling of trust and security which low self esteem persons do have trouble adjusting to.
2007-06-20 10:45:07 · answer #4 · answered by ☮ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ ☮ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because it feels like we let someone into our private space and they have caused the damage, and when others try to come close to our space, because it is already hurting, we don't want to feel the hurt again. So we push them away.
2007-06-20 10:45:54 · answer #5 · answered by throw_away_your_television_2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a defense mechanism , since that person knows how bad it feels to be in that situation, the easiest way to handle it is not to be in that spot again
2007-06-20 10:56:40 · answer #6 · answered by Luay14 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the inability to let go of the past situation and wanting revenge and wanting that person the have the same pain they inflicted on you !! Once one realizes that what goes around comes around all will be good ..
2007-06-20 10:48:23 · answer #7 · answered by jgilbertdo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand. I think it's because when somebody hurts us, we take it personally, and it changes our mood. When our mood changes, we usually show our mood through our actions. We express our mood to everybody because our mood is expressed through what we do.
2007-06-20 11:02:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yer, its normall when people you really trust like close friends let you down, its easy to feel that way!!! I know what it feels like. its good to learn, but its painfull. Jesus never lets me down, thats why im a monk ( tounge in cheek) no he wont ever let me down. Will he let you down? : )
God bless
2007-06-20 10:44:40 · answer #9 · answered by Partisan of Christ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes the only way to make us feel better is by making others suffer like us
2007-06-20 17:44:24 · answer #10 · answered by NoLongerHere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋