Do you think some women should?

Question

Okay i am a married woman who has 3 kids i have noticed self confidence and feeling good in general to helps me a lot with sex.So here is the question do you think women should meet men half way when it comes time to getting in the mood ?I am talking out maybe doing stuff to make yourself feel better about you even if its something small to get the mind set ready to be in the mood.Do you think some women rely to much on the husband to get in the mood?I have noticed female friends complaing they are never in the mood even with loving hubbys who try to romance them.

I think the getting in mood process should be a 50/50 thing.

Answer 1

Do I think women rely too much on the husband to put them in the mood? Well... I am a father of two, my youngest monster is 8 months old. I have spent the last 8 months feeling unloved, unwanted, unattractive, and yet on the rare occassion that my wife DOES want to make love to me, I am THERE!!! Jonny on the spot with the foreplay, the mood lighting, the whispered words in the ear, the erection, the whole nine yards and more baby!!!!

So you tell me what my answer is ;-)

In the 1800's men were pigs, women had no rights in the bedroom, and men didn't care. In the mid to late 1900's that started to change, and men realized that if they loved this delicate flower, the bearer of their children, the reason for their very existance, then they would try their damndest to make her feel like more than a blow up doll in the bedroom, and they would do whatever it took to shower her with affection, orgasms, and even sex toys, if need be, to make her happy. I am sorry to report that this has led us to the 2000's where we seem to be sliding into a reversal of the 1800's but this time it's the women that don't care. *shrugs* but hey, it's early in the century yet, there may be hope if enough of you laadies read this.

YES meet your man halfway. Realize that your concept of sex, and his are similar, and yet really different on a lot of levels. HE NEEDS to be close to you. And I respectfully submit that if you care for him as much as he does you, you would try to make that happen more than it does.

Answer 2

I think some of the new problems women face is that now they are just as equal, most of the time, earning the household money. But still are expected to get dinner and take care of the kids, clean the house. Men are also I noticed are less likely to work and expect the wife to take care of them. Men are afraid to open the door for us, I guess either from fear that we will yell at them that we can do it ourselves, they don't give nice compliments due to fear that we will charge them with sexual harassment. We are lucky to find a man that cares enough to want to be at home, and is a little old fashioned about taking care of us but still allows us to be an equal. I also think that women are pressured to look a certain way, because of false advertising that Hollywood has shown us with the perfect women. When in fact this is an illusion that without 50 people working on her for 5 hours will never achieve.

Answer 3

Yes! The biggest obstacle to us guys trying to initiate "the mood" (even when we're not just being blunt and asking for it) is that the female in the relationship is never clear on if it's even a valid move to be taking at the time. We get gun-shy, then. This opens up the girl-girl conversations onthe phone about "he just never seems to be inthe MOOD, anymore..." Alot of times we are to blame. The same amount of times, the girl is. Meeting halfway is not only fair, it's sexy! We love it!

Answer 4

Is this you carla? You could be my wife. She is very rarely in the mood. When I try to be romantic (bath and candles) nothing. I've about giving up trying...and just wait for her to be in the mood...which results in less and less sex.

I'd do anything...shower, scrub the kitchen floor, if it would help get her juices flowing. Once I get her going, she always ends up satisfied. Anymore its me that has to fake it, because lately even the foreplay isn't reciprocal and once she has peaked, my time is short before she becomes disinterested.

It is indeed a two-way street. Write your hub a note...let him know he has a date tomorrow night...have him pick up some wine, (at a place near a flower store :) )...have his shower warm and ready when he gets home, and wait for him in bed. Anticipation will get both of you going.

Or, something my wife has done (see she does at least try now and again), after you go to bed, call his cell phone with a booty call. It was unexpected and very hot time.

Good luck...

Answer 5

yes, i defenetly agree on women meeting their spouse half way into intemaci..not only should the husband do all the work in bed..i think that the women should also so their part most of the time..plenty man dont need help, they have learned how to make their own women happy but i do agree with u plenty of women are not in the mood plenty of time i have heared that often...

Answer 6

Yes you should take the initiative and go with it. I my self come on to my husband more than he does me it seems. We have a great sexual relationship. The rest of our relationship is great. We take everything we do as equals. If you want more sex try teasing him, but watch and see how he reacts he may not like it, in this case just flirt around with him. I flirt on the phone, instant messages, email and in person as do I tease him and he loves it. It helps keep the romance alive. You will find he will do the same to you.. Have fun with each other, enjoy your selves. It will be rewarding in more ways than one.

Answer 7

After having kids, sexual libido sometimes goes down for both partners. It is often that these couples go to therapy for other relational issues. Biggest complaint I have heard is that he or she does not initiate. IT really does take both spouses to put the effort. Otherwise the sexual relationship will become stagnant. Before focusing on sex, focus on being together again ( doing things together).

Answer 8

Absolutely!! A woman's husband is not responsible for her do-all, end-all happiness. He wasn't put on this earth to serve her - sexually or otherwise, and vice versa. If the couple values physical intimacy (and in my opinion every couple should), then it's BOTH parties' responsibility to ensure that happens.

Good thought! I totally agree, and am sick of whiney "he never lights candles anymore" complainers, too.

Answer 9

Yes, women should AT LEAST meet men halfway! Men get tired of being the ones to initiate intimacy and can feel like their wife doesn't want to be with them, if she doesn't do SOMETHING once in a while.

Answer 10

50/50