Do you think that they are still trustworthy?
or should the husband move on and find wife number 2?
2007-06-20 09:41:10 · 35 answers · asked by stick it to my heart 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Fool me once...shame on you
Fool me twice...shame on me
Move on.
2007-06-20 09:43:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I would be the first one that says leave on the first cheat! Once a cheater always a cheater. That's a quote that I toss out there every day, however, I hate it! I mean it shows that I'm a bit superficial. Almost bigoted toward cheaters. But, how many times have I been wrong? Maybe once (so far). I mean I'm at a 99.99% for correct advice in this situation. So I "can't" give anything else! The needs of the one do not out way the needs of the many. Tell the husband to run for the hills!
2007-06-20 09:55:01 · answer #2 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They both need counseling.
Trust is earned. That wife would have a lot of work to do to rebuild trust. It's possible for anyone to change, they just have to want to and be willing to work hard to fix themselves. There's always a choice, no one made her betray that trust.
Regardless of any problems within the marriage, she didn't have an excuse. There is something lacking within the cheater, a self esteem issue, a lack of boundaries or such.
The wayward spouse needs to look deep within and work on themselves.
It's up to the husband to decide whether or not he will stay with her. Some marriages can and do survive this type of destructive self indulgent behavior. It takes lots of work from both to heal after such damage, but if can be done.
2007-06-20 11:28:57 · answer #3 · answered by joyh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure of the trustworthy part, but have you asked her what's going on? It's truly hard to get past it, but people have....Is it something that you can live with and be able to move on from or will it just eat you up every time you think about it.....Unfortunately no one will be able to answer your question other than yourself. My first husband cheated on me and in a weird way, I was thankful (way after-wards) that he chose her over me. We divorced and I'm thankful that I didn't have to go living with wondering "ok....he's 5 minutes late, where were you!?"
2007-06-20 09:51:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there are some deep underlying problems here. Something in the relationship must be lacking. It is possible for her to change but you are going to have to get to the source of the problem. You have to ask her why shes doing it. Make her tell you all the things she feels are wrong with your relationship if it's worth fixing do it and you will be happy.. but you might just find out some real truth that you dont want to hear.. its possible she can be trusted again but not without solving the problem! Don't just forgive and forget..
2007-06-20 09:46:22 · answer #5 · answered by Chris10 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its up to the husband , but there seems to be a pattern to this womans behavior, personally i would move on but there are people who have stuck with a marriage and its happened more than 2 0r 3 times.it would take a long time to regain that trust though
2007-06-20 09:45:55 · answer #6 · answered by shenika1us 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she has cheated on you twice that is grounds for divorce.
Getting a divorce can be expensive but if the person in question has proven herself to be unfaithful then it is probably best if the husband get himself a good lawyer and dissolves the marriage as soon as possible.
2007-06-20 09:49:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heck no, they're not trustworthy they not only did it once but twice!! He should move on and find someone who actually knows how to be faithful.
2007-06-20 09:44:58 · answer #8 · answered by urstruly8604 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are they trustworthy (meaning worthy of trust), I say no. Can you trust someone that has violated the most sacred of promises that can be made between two people? That is up to the individual, but for myself, I would not even waste the time or effort, I would be gone.
2007-06-20 09:46:33 · answer #9 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
once a cheater, always a cheater. Obviously she wasnt really apologetic the first time she cheated and you found out....... so no. I'd say she's NOT trustworthy AT ALL.
Good luck, hope you dont have too much drama divorcing this chick.
2007-06-20 09:46:24 · answer #10 · answered by it'sjustme79 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
find wife number 2 ....sometimes people change after the first affair and the couple can make a go of it but if she cheated twice then you can see the pattern and know that they probably arent going to stop
2007-06-20 09:44:50 · answer #11 · answered by mmedina96 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋