Help On Crossdressing?

Question

I am only new to crossdressing and i need help. I am only 14 and i live with my mother. Needless to say she doesn't have a wig and my feet are twice as big. I can't buy these things because i have nowhere to hide them. I also don't know how to put make-up on or take it off (other then lipstick ). Any help welcome.

Answer 1

Make friends with a girl or two who is willing to help you. Perhaps your own sister or cousin, or maybe the sister of a friend.

Since you are only 14, and have some while to go before you can live on your own, you may want to discuss this with your mother. Maybe you think she would just throw up her hands in horror, but she may be more understanding than you think, especially if you start by asking her help to dress as a girl for Halloween. After she gets over that, you can point out that you felt really good wearing those clothes, and maybe buy her a DVD of "Ed Wood," to see that it really is OK if she lets it be. Do you have anyone in your family or among her friends who might be able to help you talk to her about it? It would be so much easier if you didn't have to hide from her.

You might point out that the classiest drag queens in San Francisco can make a pretty good living singing and dancing in clubs. If she's not too straight-laced to object to night-clubs in general, she may not mind the cross-dressing if it's for a job. Some of the best even get movie contracts!

Answer 2

Is it wrong? Depends on what you mean by wrong. It is considered a "deviant behavior" when compared to the societal norm. While deviant, it does not mean it's wrong, just that it goes against what society takes as "normal". If your family is accepting of it, then you need to make the decision on stoping or not. You're not the first or the last crossdresser that will stop and purge, then a few months later, start dressing again. That can get expensive. You can still get a good job, get married and have kids. By indicating you want to get married you have indicated that you still like girls and want to have sex with them (which produces kids). You will need to come clean with your prospective wife and make sure she is at least tolerant of cross dressing behavior. Don't wait until after the wedding or think that she'll change her attitude, that's not a good thing and it more than likely, won't happen. Be honest and caring with your chosen spouse, understand that they might not like it, but it they really love you, they can tolerate it. You need to discuss when or even if to tell the kids. I know what you mean about looking good, it's a great feeling. You may grow out of it, but you may not. Don't stress over it now, let the future come as it will and understand that you are not the first cross dresser who feels special and pretty in a cute dress and heels.

Answer 3

You're got some good advise already, but I thought I better let you in on some important information concerning your brain.

Your brain is your number one sex organ. Yours is specially hard wired such that when you crossdress it sends out some neurotransmitters which give you a sensation of well-being, pleasure, sexual gratification and self-identity. Its like being on drugs. Trouble is you can't stop it. Its similar to an addiction and you'll want it more and more often.

If you give in to it, you will start developing a female alter-ego. You'll even give "her" a name. You'll even fall in love with "her". If you get married, then your wife will complain that she feels like your second love. Your children will be told not to mention daddy's secret to their friends or they will be ridiculed. This will make your children lose respect for you. As you get older you will try ever harder to maintain a feminine illusion but this is get harder. So you'll consider surgery. You may even give up your wife and family to pursue your first love.

So in the end this means that you must get some control over your crossdressing or it will control you. You need to place limits over yourself and what you will permit yourself to do. Otherwise you will be in a difficult life.

Answer 4

Goodness, what a lot of hate you've been offered here...

Please don't take any of it to heart, you're not doing anything wrong, and you're not hurting anyone.
But I don't think I can offer you any practical help; It's very difficult to do this while you're living at home, and keep it secret, and you're too young to join most crossdressing groups - for their own safety, they won't take anyone under 18.

If you're in the UK, you could try contacting the Beaumont Society; http://www.beaumontsociety.org.uk/, or you might like to look here; http://www.lauras-playground.com/teens.htm ; they have a section devoted to teenage crossdressers, which might be useful to you - it's a good starting point.

Answer 5

Take up drama. Wearing a dress and tights was something that I had to do several times for characters in plays, particularly for historical settings. When your school does Julius Ceasar or your church a Bible story. I can't tell you how many times it miffed me when my "costume" came from the women's wardrobe because it resembled a period piece. Doing that you would get to wear a dress, in public, and people would be happy to see you in it. Frankly, it took me some getting used to but you ought to enjoy it like a duck in water, right?

Answer 6

Well, first off, congratulations for exploring that side of yourself. That's cool. Most kids at age 14 are so concerned with be like everybody else that they forget (or don't care) about themselves.

My advise to you is to spend time researching why you feel the way you do. Keep a journal. Start a blog and talk to others like you. But unfortunately, you're right, you can't experiment right now. You live under your parents (moms) roof and they support you financially. So your very limited on what you can do.
However, if you feel that your mother is open-minded enough, you can talk to her about it. But I have never heard of such a thing...mother's being open minded about your situation that is.
So, do a journal, blog and try to meet others online that feel the way you do for now. There is PLENTY of time after you move out on your own to explore further.

Answer 7

Problem with being a teen and Crossdressing, it opens you up to world of problems. Do not forget what happened to Gwen Araujo who was killed for who she was.

I am not saying stop. By no means. Just be very careful.

There are numerous great websites out there that can help you in Crossdressing. One that comes to mine is TGNow.com. Hope this helps.

Answer 8

believe me, its a pain in the butt to get dressed up in women's clothes. be glad you're a guy and don't have to mess with all that garbage.
I am a woman and only once in a while do i actually enjoy the process. most of the time it's just a big user of my time and it gets old pretty fast. wish I had the kind of job where I could just dress comfortably

Answer 9

I think this lifestyle can bring you a lot of trouble.Anything you make in secret will be reveal one day or another.The only advise I can give you is travel to scottland where you can dress like a school girl and still be a proud man.

No seriously, you too young for this.Do you think you yourself that you are a women trape in a male body or you do this just because it excite you.

Wait until you 18 years old and travel to a big city where people coulnt care about what you do

Answer 10

Sounds strange, but consider it....
Join a theater group in the area. You get to interact with people who know makeup, make a lot of new friends, and learn the ins and outs of costuming.
Good luck :D