he's not really my bf.... not even my friend, but i don't want to loose his "friendship"... to make the story short...
I started "going out" with this guy that i really like, but nothing too formal, as his wishes... however he kept making me "test" to make sure i was "ok" for him (I wonder what for, if he's not aiming for nothing serious) and wrote me several times by xellphone text messages that the cared for me, though he never showed too much care...
this made me go into a emotional roler coaster ride... because i do care for him a lot... anyway, I've done a lot of things for him, one of them, and i don't consider the most important, is that i lent him some money, about a month ago...
anyway... most of the times that i've called him latetly, he doesn't answer. I do know he's very busy (work, graduate studies, recent father death) but for someone he supposedly cares for, I'dn't expect less than a text message. i can be anoying sometimes, by calling 3 to 4 times in a row,
2007-06-20 09:23:11 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I'm telling him that i did that just to see how much bs he could take from me... he never told me it bothered him until last sunday, when he wrote me it did, and that maybe he didn't answer me just because he definately didn't want to talk to me... I didn't try to contact him once last week, only last weekend
i answered him that as he didn't want to talk to me, and that i thought this was not the way to do it, that i needed the money back... he got pissed off, told me that tomorrow he would and asked me for some his things that i had
I wouldn't want to loose him as anything we are... i'd really want to keep his "friendship"... how should i react tomorrow?
2007-06-20 09:40:21 · update #1
i mean, i could cut back on the needy part... cause i'dn't want to end up as a "too needy" person... definately, i'dn't want us to be bfs, just "friends" if that exists...
2007-06-20 09:44:09 · update #2
This guy is a jerk. You deserve better, go on!
2007-06-28 00:08:52 · answer #1 · answered by spielberg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say hes using you. It sucks I know. My last boyfriend, (Before I admitted to myself I was gay), used me like that too. You should just forget him. I mean, your not gonna be a 'too needy' person, if you remember not to be. It doesn't take much, just a feeling. Anyone who makes go on an emotional roller coaster, isn't worth your time. It's hard enough having emotions, you don't need someone taking advantage of them
2007-06-20 16:58:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being taken for a ride alright and not a good one - the guy does not sound like a stand up guy at all. Honestly don't YOU think you deserve something better? DO you want a relationship that causes you to have to write strangers for answers?
2007-06-20 16:45:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try and get the money back and just move on, and chalk it up as a lesson learned!
2007-06-26 05:14:41 · answer #4 · answered by ziggy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being used, cut your losses, and try to move on, it is a hard lesson to learn.
2007-06-20 16:49:32 · answer #5 · answered by kanei 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's using you. Move on.
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2007-06-20 16:38:05 · answer #6 · answered by km 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but you're being used.
Cut your loses and find someone who will treat you as you deserve.
Peace :D
2007-06-20 16:31:22 · answer #7 · answered by Threshin 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he is using you get your $ and move on
2007-06-26 07:25:52 · answer #8 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋