Everything happens for a reason??

Question

Or does it? I used to believe in this, but after I got heartbroken, I changed my oppinion. On a more philosphical level, people would LIKE to believe there is a reason to everything, especially religious ones. Like the most fundamental reason of all reason and that is that we people are on Earth for a REASON. What if there is no reason? I guess for some people this concept is hard to grasp. So if there is no reason to life, then there is no reason to someone breaking up with someone. Isn't "everything happens for a reason" just a helping method when your heart is so broken you feel like you are going through hell and hope is all you have left?

Answer 1

This might hurt, but if your heart was broken, it's possible that you weren't the best person you could have been. If you were, then the heartbreaker wouldn't have let go AND if he did, you wouldn't have cared because you were everything you could have been, so shine him.

Take the opportunity to find out who you really are and enjoy the life you were given.

ps- I've been there and it's awful, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. For me it was in Paris.

Answer 2

I totally believe everything happens for a reason people i believe have hardships and bad things happen to them so that they can help someone else through the same hard time or bad thing. I have had my heart broken many times and i am i glad now because i would never have met the wonderful man i am with now. If i don't believe that everything happens for a reason then what the hell are we here for, like everyone is running around like crazy people for nothing.

Answer 3

I don't believe everything happens for a reason. I do believe in random events. However, I do also believe in random events. I am a devout believer in God, so here is my interpretation of reason. If you are an atheist this won't work for you.

Mankind is perpetually evolving mentally to a more Godlike state. This means that we are becoming more conscious of the world around us, among other things, To this end though there must be stimuli to illicit this growth. A thing can not be and then simply change. A tree needs sunlight to grow, but also it needs the space to spread its branches as well.

In the same way man needs his space when given stimuli. So, events occur and we make choices that determine how we react. That's free will. However there is always consequence for those choices. For example, you have beans for lunch instead of salad and now you are flatulent in the big meeting.

Now at the same time I believe in fate, or better to say I believe in the hand of God. Whether on an individual level or as a species as a whole I believe that God, if he sees us going down a bad path, will try to nudge us along the right one. Some refer to these as signs, but they don't have to be as grand as a bleeding statue. Take the situation where a girl just gets her heat broken, and as a result goes to jump off a bridge. Unfortunately the bridge she chose is being repaired so she decides to wait until tomorrow. On the walk home she comes across an old friend that helps her get over her grief. That's reason for you. Sometimes god sticks his finger in to help us along, but he does not control or determine reason. He leaves that to us to mess up on our own.

Sorry for the long answer, but this is a subject I've given a lot of thought to.

Answer 4

Ooo, bad breakup... which oviously made you think a lot. If there would be any reason for this breakup, it must be you could recheck yourself in many different direction, which seems like happening right now.
Other reason I can think is, you may be able to realize how many people, other than your ex-boyfriends loves you and try to help you to get over sad time...!It' totally your choice either you believe reason of everything or not, but I can tell you can learn your lessons from what happened already.
Oh, cheer up girl, go out and buy prettiest summer dress, do your nails! You don't need a guy who don't appreciate you...!

Answer 5

It is a simplistic way of saying that everything has a cause (or chain of cause and effect) or that there is a "purpose to everything under heaven."

The reason you connect to someone only to experience heartbreak - can have a multitude of causes, from the expectation of abandonment/rejection from a childhood experience (tends to replicate when we enter young adulthood), or our ego connecting with someone inappropriate out of "familiarity," or our authentic Self "knowing" its not right at a deep intuitive level and sabotaging it, a past life experience - maybe the rejection was the other way around last time, etc. etc..

We are all complex organisms, and grief over loss is our most difficult challenge in every life. It has be lived through and its reason or purpose may not be understood for many years. Every loss is painful.

Answer 6

Heres the deal...Purpose, reason and truth...ARE ALL MAN-MADE CONCEPTS!

Things happen for the REASON (if you want to call it that,) that they were likely to occur...If it benifits your state of mind to think "(X event or conversation) + (I was thinking about trying to do Y tomorrow...) = (I was "meant" to do Y tomorrow!) then if event "X" makes conditions benificial to success at "Y" then you can tell yourself that THE REASON "X" happened, was to facillitate your doing "Y." Or you could just forget that crap, and take advantage of "X" happening to do "Y", and save your pondering time for cleaning the basement, before the deadly fungus growing in the corner down there starts developing a primitive but sinister intelligence...

It is only when people are programmed to think in circles (the universe works its wonders in a SPIRAL pattern...Theological inventions simplify this to a circle, instead of infinite progress, all you get is a stationary "rut." But explainations take less time when all you have to say is "God is awesome!" TO EVERY QUESTION ASKED...) that these questions arise...The human with no religious prejudices takes things as they are, things happen, sometimes what we do influences the things that happen, sometimes they don't. We can't always tell what will or won't change the future, and whether it will be good or bad...But we learn...

"Purpose," is what something is designed for, and sometimes people start thinking, "well, what am I FOR?" But people are NOT DESIGNED, we exist by virtue of our ability to survive and reproduce...If God designed us, then we exist to kiss his *** and make sure everybody else is lined up to do the same thing...Pretty shabby way to live if you ask me.

"Reason," is also a creation of man, like religion, and is used in a similar fashion...We use reason to explain things, 1+1=2, and often whats actually happening is you get an answer that "sounds good," but misses the mark (1 cloud+1 cloud= 2 clouds, 6 clouds, rain, ball-lightning?)...The main purpose of religion and reason is to get people to stop asking questions...Not to enlighten.

Answer 7

it's not that you're not the best person you could have been!
you are who you are. well, i guess people can change but that definately doesn't mean you changed for the worse!
i believe that things do happen for a reason. obviously a lot of things suck and are hard to get over, but once we do heal from it there could be a lesson we can learn, or maybe it will prepare us for something worse later on in life? anyways, i think if life didn't have heartbreaks and other sad or aggravating things we wouldn't really know what it meant to be truly happy would we?
i hope your heart heals soon! =)

Answer 8

Sounds like someone really broke your heart. I'm sorry.

Every individual has their own meaning of life. It's whatever you want it to be! There is no single meaning to life.

Well if nothing happens for a reason then you gotta have faith in yourself and whatever Deity you choose to worship (if religious).

Although it may seem like the end of the world, it really isn't. Maybe you could treat your breakup as a learning experience. Maybe that could be the reason for the breakup.

Well good luck. :)

Answer 9

I think you are confusing reason as fate ( a predetermined outcome) rather than consequence ( a result of an action) . Events are not always fate, but every event is a consequence of some other event. Everything does happen for a reason, the only question in your relationship that you have to determine is what events let to the heartbreak.

Answer 10

Hope is the most deceptive of all the conditioned thought traps. You have created a 'timeline' in your mind based on the memory of 'you' experiencing events. Your culture told you to take this timeline and find a meaning or create a story. You are told to 'hope' that a 'projected timeline' you are fantasizing about called 'future' will give you something called 'happiness' and this happiness is the 'answer' to the imagined 'misery' you are experiencing now based on your current 'timeline'. This thing called 'happiness' is the imagined existence in unending pleasure without pain.

The pursuit and preoccupation with this pursuit is the cause of your misery.