can you love someone alot older than you i mean 25yrs.
2007-06-20 08:42:34 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Of Course you can. You just need to prepare for the fact that your spouse will be a senior citizen long before you are. If you can live with that then good luck
2007-06-20 08:46:32 · answer #1 · answered by mark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend is 8 years older than I am. If we have a disagreement, it usually turns out that he's right. He's simply been alive longer and knows more. If I was a weaker person I might end up with an inferiority complex because of this. That's just an 8 year difference between adults. Larger gaps can create strange power dynamics but if you're aware of them they can still be overcome.
I get the impression though, that you're quite young and if that's the case, I would advise against a relationship like that First of all, you're still learning what love is all about. Perhaps you have an infatuation with someone older because they seem very mature and together or what-have-you. The dynamic that is likely to form if this becomes a relationship is that of teacher-student. You're better to have relationships with people your own age simply because you'll be dealing with equals, with no-one taking the upper hand.
If you are old enough to be aware of these challenges then by-all-means, date whomsoever you like.
2007-06-20 16:05:30 · answer #2 · answered by Terra Nova R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can love anyone. Age had nothing to do with that. However, making it work when there is a large age gap is tough and it takes a lot of work for both people to make it successful. If you are in that situation, be sure to have frequent talks with your loved one to make sure you are on the same page. You will also have to learn to tune out the snide comments from others, I'm sure there will be plenty. Best of luck!
2007-06-20 15:46:25 · answer #3 · answered by Jessi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
People can fall in love with just about anyone! With age there is no barriers or boundaries...except if old men are messing with young children, then it is pedifile and illegal.
Our society seems to be changing as it has throughout the generations.
Old men seem to be leaving wives of their youth, for younger women and starting the family ipods all over again.
Having a younger woman at their sides seems to make them popular amongst their peers and gives the men a "knick in the old dagger" so to speak.
Consequences of their actions...the uprise of second families and having to chase around young children when they should be in retirement and enjoying having had raised a family previously.
Oh yeah...young girls...viagra only works for a few years...and then age starts taking toll...Wouldn't it be better to date men who will last for many years to come? Play on words.
Real love outlasts the odds of sex and seduction. If you think you are in love...would you still be if there was no sex or terms of endearment in your lives? If not, it's not love it's lust. Younger men have healthier drives and are longer lasting. They can move quicker and carry heavier things...like sleeping children. Do you want to be someones knick in their dagger trophy, or would you like to fall in someone who can fall in love with you without the first family baggage?
A trophy eventually gets laid on the shelf with the first trophy. Love lasts an eternity.
2007-06-20 15:59:41 · answer #4 · answered by cadvadvocate 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I don't think so. Some matches are just made for each other, regardless of age. Love is blind and knows no laws [but pedophilia is disgusting XD]
BUT, on the same note, if you're closer in age to the person, it is possible that you will be going through similar life experiences and will be better able to understand each other.
Just my thoughts, though.
2007-06-20 15:47:54 · answer #5 · answered by serpentilewitch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can *I*? Not romantically I wouldn't think (he'd be 67) but I can't speak for others.
That's a very large age gap...that person is old enough to be your parent. Are you sure it's love or is there a security/dependency there as well?
If you are of legal age, then it's your business really. Just because something doesn't appeal to some people doesn't make it wrong...do what works for you.
2007-06-20 15:47:26 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure you can. You can love anyone you want. Unfortunately in today's society, things like that aren't easily accepted. If you move along in a relationship with that much of an age gap, be prepared to face the prejudices.
2007-06-20 15:46:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how old you are. If your 20 and he is 45...then yes. It makes a huge difference. My guy is 12 years older than me. It took 10 years together before we started to relate. We first stayed together because we had a baby...Now it is okay but when we were younger it was really hard. He was wiser than I was. It takes time to mature. You need to find someone to mature with..not daddy
2007-06-20 15:48:07 · answer #8 · answered by Windy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can, but it depends on your age, the other person's age, and whether you are in the same place (emotionally) in life. a 20 year old probably would not do so well with a 45 year old, but i think a 30 year old and a 55 year old *might* be able to pull it off.
2007-06-20 15:47:17 · answer #9 · answered by Simmy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello!
yes age is a main factor in relationship because when ur partner is older then u then atleast u respect him/her.
and where is a respect that relation is very very nice.
but the difference of 25 years is not bad but more then 25 is not.
2007-06-20 15:48:58 · answer #10 · answered by teena michal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋