We were very close, I do not know why we did not end up together.
What is he really thinking?
2007-06-20 07:49:36 · 17 answers · asked by sunnydays 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He wants sex. RUN!!!
2007-06-20 07:53:47 · answer #1 · answered by hunting4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know I did something similar to that. After almost ten years I found my high school sweetheart. First we exchanged a few emails and then she called me one day. We talked on the phone for hours. I mostly apologized for the way things ended between us. I never really gave her a reason, I just ended it. Sure at times I wish I had made different decisions, but I'm happy with where my life has taken me. It was good to catch up with her becuase she was such a big part of my adolescence. I told her she was my first love and I will always have a place for her in my heart. Just because I said that or said that I never should have let her go, doesn't mean I wanted her back. At least it didn't for me. Everyone is different.
2007-06-20 16:35:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is exactly what happened to me. Last year, my ex of 10 years got in touch via the internet and we began emailing. He sounded so genuine in his emails and we decided to give it another go. I travelled to where he lives to meet up. The inevitable happened and he made excuse after pathetic excuse following this. Seems he was only after one thing and knew I was silly enough to fall for his charms having just come out of an abusive relationship.
His last text message said "This isn't working, but I don't want to lose you as a friend". Of course he doesn't want to lose me as a friend because if I am friendly with him, I am there whenever he needs satisfation. I never replied.
From that moment I decided to quit following my heart and follow my head instead. I now have a fantastic relationship with a very caring man and am happy, because I followed my head when dating him. I didn't have sex with him, I let him do all the running and turns out he is the best thing that's ever happened to me. He's great with my kids and I hope it lasts.
That is my experience, but that isn't to say yours will be the same. You could have a user and abuser there, but then you could have the genuine article. It's hard for anyone to answer because they don't know him as a person, whereas, you do.
The only advice I can offer is follow your head not your heart.
2007-06-20 15:23:35 · answer #3 · answered by Chaley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can only guess at what he might really be thinking. but since he didn't look you up in all those years i think it is just a frivolous thought from him. he probably had bad relationships after you and he now realizes that you weren't too bad. (don't we all stop every so often and look back at our life and the choices that we made? we think what if i would have done this instead of this?) i wonder what you wish he meant by saying this? are either of you now married or commited?
2007-06-20 15:00:55 · answer #4 · answered by adelaide 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he contacted you so he must have been thinking about you. That's what my ex did but I already knew he has feelings for me. Try hanging out with him as friends first so you can read him better. Talk things over about whats been happening with each other.
2007-06-20 14:53:40 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
As a guy been there it means he holds a candle for you rather than to you ie likes what you had a future people have to measure up to you........well done :)
Do not get hopes up though going back can lead to disaster more often than a happily ever after
2007-06-20 14:54:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is re-elevaluating his life, or never really had closure, or that you were his first love and that is something that will never leave your heart, or unhappy where he is in his life and thinking about the what ifs. Anyway you look at it take it as a compliment and that is it. Then go on with your life.
2007-06-20 15:00:09 · answer #7 · answered by caligal68 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the only way to get a definitive answer is to straight out ask him. he could be playing little games..or he could be genuine. It strokes a man's ego when women still love them. You obviously ask this on answers because it has gotten to you..and you still may have feelings or probably never got true closure. Ask him!!!
2007-06-20 15:48:28 · answer #8 · answered by amasmomma05 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He either wants to get together or he wants to know what happened. The only way for you to know what he is thinking is to simply ask him.
2007-06-20 14:58:18 · answer #9 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your gut instinct.
Why would he tell you this if your happy with him? He not hear what he said? Talk to him about it and tell him how you feel. Really, there is no reason if no kids are involved.
Tell him he hurt your fellings by saying that.
Good Luck!!
2007-06-20 14:57:34 · answer #10 · answered by Charley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he still has feelings for you. Maybe he never got closure when the relationship ended. I think he is looking for a clue into your current feelings for him.
2007-06-20 14:52:47 · answer #11 · answered by tangerine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋