I knew a boy at work who suddenly began to be very kind to me, even if we could rarely meet along the corridors of the office. Whenever he saw me at the phone, he always asked me if I was talking with my boy-friend; when I was absent for some days, when I came back he wanted to know where I had gone and with whom. When I once asked hime why he was so interested in my boy-fr, he remained speechless and it was very embarassing. He always looked at me with sweet eyes and a big smile, but I didn't trust him because he was aware of being handsome and he was very nice with all girls, especially the most attractive. But what I couldn't stand more was the fact that, besides paying me many compliments, he never simply asked me to have a coffee with him to try to have a "normal" conversation. So I decided to ignore him, and he in turn began to avoid me, even if when it casually happened he looked at me with a strange expression of sadness and reproach. So I returned to be nicer, but when
2007-06-20 06:57:02 · 12 answers · asked by ClaJ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I tried to speak to him , he seemed embarassed and wishful to be left alone. One day he told me that he had decided to change his job. He looked for me twice to greet me and told me that his ex girl-friend had left him because his job took him too much away from her. I didn't show to be terribly upset, but the day after I got a friend of mine to give me his telephone number and I sent him a message telling him that I thought he was a very nice and sweet boy, I was sorry for not telling him before and that I would have liked to know him better. He answered only the following day, saying that he was sorry for answering so late, but he had had a very busy night and he was already engaged. Now it's four months since I saw him for the last time, but I can't forget him because I don't understand if I've been so stupid to think that he could be in love with me, or if my behavior was wrong and I deserve all this sorrow. I only would like not to be so sad.
2007-06-20 07:05:40 · update #1
Well from whatever you've got finished in your story, it seems to me that he's the type of guy who likes the attention of girls and knowing that he's good looking adds bonus to him. That means that he's not necessarily interested in going out with you, not even just for coffee and a simple conversation, but to pop up on you every now and then and ask you question like the type he did, I would say was mainly to stir you up into being attracted to him. I've known of guys who are like that. They mean no harm, but they do enjoy the attention. To just continue being a friend (or a friendly acquaintance) would do no harm, just as long as you don't get your hopes up for anything else.
People can be so cold... there is only so much she can write in the first box.. give her a break... she's most likely completing her story as we speak.
Ok, after reading the 2nd half of your story.... Don't let it bother you anymore. You didn't do anything wrong. When you first started ignoring him, his feelings did get hurt, but you say you continued being nice afterwards, so things apparently continued well, and now he says he's engaged. Let him be and move on. Do things that get your mind busy so that you don't think of him too much and eventually you'll be able to move on with your life. Think about it this way, it's best this way than if you had actually gone out with him and then he had broken your heart for someone else. At least you will mend your heart a lot sooner than if that had been the case. Good luck.
2007-06-20 07:07:39 · answer #1 · answered by Faith . 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he seems like he was interested in you and because of all the other girls in his life due to him being popular he felt like he had to always be attached to someone even if it wasnt the right person for him at the time so he could keep up appearances and not be alone, since he's engaged now he has already made a decision of who he wants to be and he'll have to live with it even if he still likes you or anyone else now or in the future...
2007-06-23 12:27:33 · answer #2 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your scrambled answer exposes your naivety . if it was meant to be then you would of acted on impulse. its an experience not love. now you feel pity and are lonely today. tomorrow brings new opportunity and love when you least expect it.
2007-06-20 15:57:34 · answer #3 · answered by sutes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a player!! Stay away, noone like that could be trust worthy.
2007-06-20 14:01:08 · answer #4 · answered by mom of 3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
clara J, Are you a soap opra writer fishing for feedback from real people ?
2007-06-20 14:06:29 · answer #5 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a weirdo, you're well shot of him.
2007-06-21 22:56:51 · answer #6 · answered by EdinItalia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you ve missed the boat
leave it now
he 's happy
2007-06-25 13:31:19 · answer #7 · answered by ~*tigger*~ ** 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like you need some counselling, why do you care?
2007-06-20 14:08:26 · answer #8 · answered by tommie r 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
unfinished and too long.
2007-06-20 14:00:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
essssaaaaayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy
2007-06-20 14:26:23 · answer #10 · answered by emax69x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋