I was just wondering how many of you have been Instant messaged by men you didn't know and replyed.? How many of you got into online relationships that you shouldn't of because of being married? Did it help your marriage or make you think why you was doing it in the first place.? Just wondering how common this is.
2007-06-20 06:39:56 · 25 answers · asked by norielorie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow! It's amazing how many judgemental people answer these questions first of all!! It is normal instinct to reply to the IM and to feel drawn to anyone who is giving you something your relationship is not. The thing you have to weigh in your mind is the fact that with online relationships you never really know the person no matter how much you think you do till you were to maybe live with them. In order to find that out, there is a ton of up ending of your current relationship that would need to happen. You have to ask yourself if it is worth it. If there are children involved it is especially difficult. The grass isn't always greener and the deeper you get into an online interest, the harder it is to separate real life vs fantasy.
Step back before you talk too much in IM is my best advice..and Judgement Free!
2007-06-20 07:25:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married -- you betcha...
1) I do not allow anyone to IM me...so there is no question about replying.
2) I have gotten into no relationships that would put my marriage in jeopardy.
3) I can only see this as a destructive force between a wife and her husband. And, yes you need to look at why you are doing this.
Marriage is a sacred vow between a couple and anything that causes discord is wrong. Now, if one spouse is abusing the other the abused needs to get help. If it is just problems between a couple, such as lack of affection, too much work to do or that lull that comes from being together so long....All this is workable...Therapy, counseling or even a spiritual adviser can help. First step is admitting there is a problem and the next is either fixing it or getting away from it....Ultimately it is your decision and do you love your husband and family enough to work it out and stop your cyber relationship OR do you continue and risk everything...Is this cyber relationship worth it ? Only you have the answer. And I do have many male friends, but it is just that--you know?!
Peace be with you.
2007-06-20 07:30:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st question: Many times.
2nd question: If your talking romantic on-line relationships....3. HOWEVER, my husband knew about them and actively participated in them too. All other on-line relationships were/are not romantic and therefore not wrong in the slightest. My husband also knows about these friendships. Being married does not mean I can't have friends.
3rd question: Actually the 3 romantic relationships (mention above) did help our marriage. It made us re-evaluate what was important to us and our marriage. In the end we realized that, for us, we had to find fulfillment with each other and not seek it outside the marriage.
At that point in our marriage we were considering open marriage. We had researched it, and were toying with the concepts. The on-line relationships were a stepping stone. Something about each relationship rubbed us wrong. We thought at first that it was just the person/people we were talking to. Then realized, no, it was us. We just aren't made for that type of lifestyle.
2007-06-20 06:58:28 · answer #3 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 04:25:24 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is something that I would never do. I delete all im's that are from men. My husband did get involved with someone online it almost ended our marriage. If your married don't get involved with anyone online or elsewhere if you want to keep your marriage.
2007-06-20 15:03:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that sadly we live in a world where married people don't value their marriage and sometimes do things that start out innocently and end up leading somewhere else. If you feel that your husband is not giving you enough time, tell him. Or better, why don't you do something for him, surprise him with something he likes, or his fav food and maybe it will make him realize who much you love him.
2007-06-20 06:49:42 · answer #6 · answered by texas girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have received IM from men and would have small talk with them. it the conversation took a wrong turn i would end it. I never had an online relationship with anyone. I don't trust pics and if your happy with your mate that really shouldn't interest you.
2007-06-20 06:48:53 · answer #7 · answered by stacy_branch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people ask such questions when they are finding some justification for their own behaviors. So I am guessing that you are in a on line affair situation hence the question. It happens mostly to people who are trying to fill a void in their empty life or trying to fulfill a fantasy or in a troubled marriage. well I hope you find your answer.
I suggest you call of your on line relationship and work on making your marriage stronger. good luck.
2007-06-20 06:53:07 · answer #8 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were happy with your marriage, you wouldn't be trying to date online nor instant messaging other men.
2007-06-20 07:12:23 · answer #9 · answered by 0000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see nothing wrong at all with having male friends I always have gotten along better with men then women. I didn't let it turn into an online affair did I talk to them openly yes once I knew them did I go to them for advice yes. I made it clear to start with that it would be nothing sexual between us.
2007-06-20 07:09:57 · answer #10 · answered by SexyMamaTo3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋