Ladies and Gentlemen what do you think is the greatest obstacle between the two genders?

Question

Goes without saying that there are countless issues and that too dependant on situations and circumstances.

But never the less we can atleast try and explore the root of it all or perhaps the biggest issue or problem and then try and find an answer to it.

Since we are going to be sharing our views i would like to express mine----RAPE !!!

In my opinion this henious act is the root cause of gender gap and much of illwill.

What do you think??

T1 and morgan j very important inputs from your side.

Morgan i really like the way you put the unselfishness aspect into perspective.

T1 trust issues in relation to rape! you have been successful in putting into words what i was searching .

Answer 1

Women have children. Therefore, women will always be at least a tiny bit dependent on the good graces of society, the government, her family, or men. Choosing to be financially dependent on a government check (or dependent on a baby-sitter and a boss) is no less dependent than being dependent on one's husband. The people who get pregnant and have babies in a society will always be in need of special consideration because of this. As far as I can tell, women can work *with* men on this, or against them.

Answer 2

I think it's a culmination of all the generalizations, biases, and assumptions we have about the opposite sex. The 'traditional' roles are what we assume are normal and therefore when someone steps outside of that we think it's wrong. Both sexes need to be more open minded and look at people on an individual basis.

Money being the root of all evil, I would say in a nutshell that the pay differences between men and women has been a sore spot for a very long time. If John and Jane both want to be X, then they should get paid the same starting wage and have the same opportunities for advancement. It is our social slant of traditionalism that inhibits our freedoms as individuals.

Answer 3

Respect & Trust once that is taken away from any relationship
there will be problums. I know some Men & Women who bad mouth each other and stab each other in the back.

Respect is so important not only for one gender but for BOTH. how can you solve any problum when the parties don't respect each other? how can we expect our Children to help and value each other when the adults act like babies?

Once both genders learn to value and love each other and want to help each other then maybe we can live like God has wanted us. we need each other we have to live and work with each other. we have to find a way to stop all the mistrust and all the fighting.

And one last thing we need to remember that being a Parent a Single Mother or a Single Father or a Married couple is HARD. it's not easy and we need to be able to help any parent and stop blaming one or the other for the problums of our Children yes Men have been hurt by their wifes who divorced them and took away everything they worked for. but a LOT of women have been hurt the same way. should we just forget them? we need to value BOTH and try and help them and show them someone cares about them. I hope this makes since i am very tired tonight. Take Care and God Bless

Answer 4

I think the single biggest issue between men and woman is the issue of respect. Everything goes back to respect. We do not respect each other. Things in the world have gotten all wacky. The media portrays men as idiots most of the time...think about sitcoms with the husband breaking things, blowing things up...Everyone Loves Raymond...all he does is try to get out of being emotionally available to his family. And women...well, we found out that we don't "need" a man (hey, we may not "need" them but I sure do want one) and they figure the only way they can dominate us is physically so violence against women is on the rise. Mean while, families and marriages, and even the world in general would be so much better if we would begin to respect each other.

We are different, let's respect those differences. We have different dreams and goals...we think differently. So let's put that to work for "us" rather than against us. Instead of ridiculing someone for thinking differently, just allow them to be.

Not all men are like the guys portrayed on tv. There are bright, thoughtful men out there. There are guys who know how to fix things. Men who take responsibility for their families emontional and physical needs.

Answer 5

1. Communication. When one of them states that they need something and the other dont give or do it. So #2 is Respect. we need to respect that we are different and accept each other for who we are. #3 Priorities are different. Men may think that lawn needs mowing, women think a day with family at the park is more important. These are just simple examples of course. I think rape is a disgusting, horrible violent act, and this would give some kind of Trust issue between men and woman. So #4. Trusting

Answer 6

The greatest obstacle between the genders is making an assumption that someone of the opposite sex is either…
1) going to act just like your sex
or
2) going to act just like every other example of the opposite sex has in the past.

Both genders are fundamentally different: logic vs. emotion. We need to understand that. But also we cannot forget that every person is an individual and isn't necessarily like everybody else.

Answer 7

Trust, or lack of trust is the underlying obstacle between m & f.
All love requires total, free, and selflessness that flows both ways. Too often a door is closed on one of these and this haults the trust. Without trust, nothing can be "Total" in sharing a intimate experience ... without trust, freedom is taked from the experience (rape dwell in the lack of freedom) ... and without trust, individuals are inclined to get their own selfish desires before giving to others.

You say rape ...well, the real issue with rape is the rapier's trust in themselves. They don't trust themselves enough to look past their lack-of-control. Another factor is that the rapiest has "Enslaved" themselves to desires instead of freeing themselves of this anguish ... The flip side, is when forcing sex, freedom of the rapped is taken away from them.

Answer 8

I'd say the workings of the female mind, men like to be able to figure out how things work, we will never understand how the female mind works, thats for men to women, the other way round though I'd say it would proberly be that women like to go slower in a relationship and men who seem really nice will push and push and they want to go slower and thats hard and i can see that myself

also i think as friends there are no obsiticles, many of my friends are ladies, and they really do like to know about my personal life! and im always getting advice but there you go. also i think they like having a guys perspective on things.

Answer 9

I think selfishness is the main problem. Both genders are becoming more self-centered and caring less for any partner or potential mate except in what thet person can do for them. I find that sad.

Sure it is old fashioned to want a woman to take care of me and to meet my needs. In exchange I can spend all of my energy caring for HER and meeting her needs.

There is nothing in the world so satisfying as caring for some one else and having that love returned makes life worth living. It is the one sure cure for depression.

Answer 10

Assumptions. One of the biggest obstacles in my relationships has been assuming I knew what my partner wanted, felt, thought, needed, desired, said, or did and vice versa. Worse, was when my partner assumed I "should" know what they wanted, needed, etc and they refused to tell me, because I should "know", if I "really" loved them. A recipe for disastrous miscommunications, hurt feelings, resentment, anger, and later contempt and despair.