When I was 13 I started to date an older guy and we feel in love. Well now I'm 18 and I'm engaged to another guy, the guy I feel in love when I was 13 wants back together. Ever since I broke up with this guy, he's all I think about. I don't wanna break my engagement because I know that he will treat me better and it's a all around better relationship. Though I love the guy that I dated when I was 13 more than the guy I'm engaged too. I'm really confused on what to do or how to handle this. Both of them wanna get married to me and promise me the best. The guy that I was dating when I was 13 asked me multiple times to get married during the 4 years we was together. How can I try to get over this and continue my relationship with the guy I'm actually engaged to, without thinking about my ex?? My yahoo messenger name is boazchic07, aim is BabyGurlLOLJK...if you need additional information.
2007-06-20 06:26:30 · 6 answers · asked by boazchic07 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm going to be straight with you, and tough...
I could not but notice the number of times you used the word "I" in your question and following details.
"I'm in love with the wrong person..." is absolutely correct. You are in love with YOU and are afraid to commit, just in case you don't choose the best one...for you.
Love is about giving yourself to another to fulfill THEIR life, not receiving from them in order to enhance your own life.
BF#1 is your "Ex." Let him stay an Ex. Forget about the "what ifs..." of the past, and move forward to "what can be" for the future.
( 35 years experience in commitment. )
2007-06-20 06:38:19 · answer #1 · answered by Bobby Jim 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're 18, you're so young. You have the world by the balls :) Don't worry about what other people want...what do you want?
And you simply said you love your ex more, there's your answer. There is no better relationship either, any relationship will work if you and the guy are in it together. If that's with your fiance, then so be it or if it's with your ex, though you think it will be a worse relationship, remember he's grown and so have you, maybe it will be better than before if that's what you're referencing it by.
Who do you see yourself raising a family with and growing old with? If it's both, then that's a problem, if it's 1 of them, make the decision, remember either way someone is getting hurt. OR if you dont' see yourself with either of them when you really think about it, move on. You have many years and there are many guys out there
WOW THAT BOBBY JIM ABOVE ME ANSWERED IT PERFECT!!!
2007-06-20 13:45:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T get married I got married 5 yrs ago and I think I made the same mistake. I love my husband but I don't think I'm in love with him because I constantly think about the other guy. And I know my husband knows it too we've tried very hard and continue trying to make our relationship work out we even moved to another city but my thoughts and feelings haven't changed. So do yourself and your fiancee a favor and don't get married at least not until you get your feelings straight.
2007-06-20 13:49:38 · answer #3 · answered by cory22bal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't marry the one you are engagged to, because you do not love him and the marriage will be based on a lie and you shouldn't go back to the other one if he didn't treat you right. But if you think you can find love before the marriage, then go ahead.
2007-06-20 13:32:15 · answer #4 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u r doing wrong
u played with life of 2
i think age of 13 is not very mature age to love or understand someone. i think that younger guy is just lookin at ur wet and tight pussi to penitrate into if he know abt that older guy
i think i can help u if u r at IM and can chat with me
i need to ask few more questions and i can sort out ur problem
if u r really in prob. then u can contact me
send me through mail or iM when u can chat according to indian standard times
my mail id is coolandbrightashu@yahoo.com and IM name is coolandbrightashu
i am waiting
2007-06-20 13:46:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get married to the one you are engaged to if your whole heart is not in it. It is not fair to him
2007-06-20 13:37:09 · answer #6 · answered by EmmaNicole 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋