Single women and artificial insemination?

Question

Every time i look in the womens studies category a guy makes a rude comment and some woman makes a comment of not needing guys and that the sperm bank is only a drive away. Isn't it a little selfish when women actually do this? I mean why would you want to have a child when you know you can't give it every thing you possibly can? Pleasy don't bash me im simply asking a question.

It's doable and possible but why would you do it unless you have to. Why would you put a child thru the emotional distress?

waswisgirl1 im not saying they can't be good parents im just saying that it's not fair to the kid when single women decide that they wan't a kid with or with out a man. It has to be hard for fatherless kids on days like fathers day im sure they feel crappy and rejected. I mean being a kid and not being able to mention the word dad has to b hard. I don't understand how someone would willingly put their child thru this. I mean when they start asking questions about their daddy do you really think a kid wants to hear that they came from some strangers sperm.

Answer 1

Raising children is a tough job for two parents. Women who choose to raise a child on their own are self-centered children themselves who cannot foresee the unintended consequences of such an egocentric decision.
Few women who would condemn a child to such a life have never bothered to research the facts surrounding children raised in a single mother-headed household. The results are quite pronounced and evident but they would rather focus on their wants than the child's needs.
It seems they are simply playing house and with devastating results especially for the children involved and society in general.
These women cannot sustain a balanced and loving relationship with a member of the opposite sex yet they think they can raise well-balanced children. "Brainwashed egocentrics" is the term that comes immediately to mind.
By the time they figure out they can't do it all, can't be all, it is too late and society will suffer the result of their failed experiment.

Answer 2

I am a 31 year old woman and have never been married. I have been in a 3 year relationship with a guy who doesn't want to have kids. I have always wanted to be a mom but I put that feeling of having kids of my own aside but the feeling of wanting a child is too strong. My maternal clock is ticking and I really do not want to wait on finding a good guy to have a baby with so I am going to do the artificial insemination. I want to have a baby not for selfish reasons but because having a baby is a natural urge in some women. I have a very supportive family who is willing to help me with anything. Some women are fortunate to find their sole mate to start a family, but some women like me are not so fortunate, so why can't we be as happy as a married woman is by being able to be a mom?

Answer 3

A man's sexuality is the sexual act while the woman's sexuality is producing a baby. Men's eyes will dilate when they see a naked woman. Women's eyes dilate when they see a cute baby. When we study "third world countries" we see the Westeren men buying sex (brothels) while the Western women buy the babies (adoption). Incidently, women spend 3000% more than men for their desire (baby).

Not all women want babies, just as not all men want sex. The percentage of these gender types are rare, but exist. With birth control, we are seeing an increasing trend of more women disliking babies and their "interal clock" chiming, making artifical insemination a multi-billion dollar industry. It should be noted that these women are usually in relationships however, are fertilly challenged (it could be the man's low sperm count, or the woman's reproductive system).

My personal opinion of reproductive technologies (from Viagra to artificail insemination) is that the end's don't always justify the means. While the desire to overcome infertility is certainly legitimate, there are still important moral considerations to take into account.

As good as the desire for children is in itself, it doesn’t justify any and every means of “getting” a child. For example, kidnapping another person’s baby is wrong no matter how desperately a couple wants children. So also, morally, is manufacturing children through technological procedures. In both cases, we’re dealing with a ‘good end’ (the desire for children) but a ‘bad means’. Which leaves me asking these questions: Is a child a gift from God? Can a gift be demanded? Do people have a right to children at any cost? Do people have a “right” to children at all?

Answer 4

I"d much rather have been brought up in a loving home by a single mother or single father than brought up in a totally screwed up abusive home by a heterosexual married "Christian" couple like I was.

So many men and women are divorced and widowed, do you think their children should be taken away and given to a couple with 2 parents? If a couple is poor, or uneducated, unskilled, or disabled, do you think they shouldn't keep their children, since they "can't give them everything they possibly can"?

If a single man or woman thinks they can be a good parent to a child or children, more power to them. I'd much rather see one parent make a commitment to being an excellent parent than watch two decide to make a baby and "see what happens". So many people don't think twice about having children, and it's obvious from the number of neglected, abused, and raped children that they never should have had a child.

Answer 5

Well it is selfish but some women are just desperate. Feminism messed many of them up and rendered them unable to form an healthy loving male female relationship.
I guess for a woman the desire for a child is a strong impulse. I find it far more selfish if a woman send a perfectly good father away over petty reasons and then uses the children to put pressure on the father.

Answer 6

So many times Dads aren't around anyway, and the kids can still be OK. I think if she has family support and can afford a child, then it's OK. You never know what the future holds, and some married women end up widows anyway. So she should go for it if she has lots of loving family members and has a lot of energy.

Answer 7

Even with artificial insemination, you can give a child everything possible. You just don't choose to.

Raising a child completely alone is impossible, but when you have people willing and eager to help you, it's not that selfish at all.

Answer 8

i agree with you 110% but the funny thing is they most women that says that would want some kind of child support some how or want to goverment to help some how

Answer 9

Personally I do not think that a woman should raise a boy with out a father.. It just is not fare that a boy is raised with out a role model. Hell, how can you teach him to pee standing up?

Answer 10

A woman can raise a child alone just as well as any couple can raise a child together. It's a LOT harder but it's still doable. It takes a ton of self-control and discipline but it's still doable.