Okay, my girlfriend told me she has had sex forced on her by her ex boyfriend collectivly for the past 3 years. He's never quite forced her to have sex with her, but made her feel like she's had to once or twice, and countless times fooling around and it's ALWAYS made her feel uncomfortable. This kid is a clepto in my opinion. And her other friend is in the same position, but he is more abusive with her. They each broke up with him a couple years ago, but he still trys stuff with them once and a while. I'm told he's afraid of me, so he won't go after my girlfriend but what he doesn't understand is that ******* with her friend is still a way of f**king with her, and they both know I'm not letting that fly.
They don't have any evidence of what's been done to them, so they're afraid if they say something, nothing will come of it and just make matters worse. I want to kill this kid, and I'm afraid of what'll happen if he EVER touches her again. She told me not to tell..but..I need help
2007-06-20 05:16:00 · 1 answers · asked by j_a_dore 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Settledown guy your not just dealing with a f'ed up ****. This is also a consequence of their own behavior. Sorry to say it like that but its true. Understand that for them to stay in these type of relationships, to have been in this type of relationship, your dealing with some very confused ladies. Very. See they've apparently got it thru there heads that they should love something they shouldn't. Or rather that they don't really know how love works. Which most people don't but beyond the scope of your answer. Ether way they don't know how to have healthy relationships, thats the problem. Not him. There well always be people like him. The best thing you can do is make them strong aganist people like that. Let me throw an old chinesse proverb at you, you make sense out of this you'll be a long way to solving all of your problems. Great friends can become great lovers, lovers rarly become great friends. SO MAKE THEM UNDERSTAND, if he isn't being a friend, he sure isn't being a good lover, it just doesn't work that way. At the core of any true, deep, meaningful relationship, is a friendship. IF they actually believed that, they wouldn't of disrespected themselves so much and let that jerk in. Help them, not him. If she still lets him in, then let her go, sometimes inorder to be a good friend you have to stop the sweet hearted disney crap and cut them off. If there wise to you, care for you, believe you, they'll be back and if not, there a waste of your time.
2007-06-20 10:09:03 · answer #1 · answered by Brutal Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋