I am 37 and my husband 44. We have a lovely 3 month old daughter. We do want another baby and because of our age don't want to wait too long as it may be difficult to get preganant again plus the complications as you get older. Are we mad to try again so soon? It is completely knackering to have two children under the ago of 2?
2007-06-20 05:09:49 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
It is difficult with two children under the age of 5. But when they get older it gets easier as they entertain each other. Plus it would be kinda nice to get all the sleepless nights and dirt diapers out of the way at once instead of having to redo just when you thought it was over.
Face it-you may not be able to get pregnant if you wait. You obviously want the child so any incovenience would be small compared to the joy of another.
2007-06-20 05:13:00 · answer #1 · answered by chickey_soup 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my cousin got pregnant with her second child when the first was only 5 months old. in her words, "i didn't have a chance to ever enjoy the first, or the two of them together for that matter!". The problem is that the first year or 2 is extremely critical that your child has your complete undivided attention. There will be times when your daughter will just cry because of being attention starved, and you and your daughter would be better served if you were able to drop what you're doing and spend time together... this isn't possible with 2 infants! If you're changing one diaper, how to you keep the other happy and out of the mess while you're busy? How do you hug and hold 2 babies crying at the same time? Rhetorical questions, but real situations that would be very trying. Assuming you're in very good physical condition, your OB may concur that up to 40 is relatively safe. I don't know how moms with twins do it, but it's something you certainly don't want to choose to take on! The good news is that at 37, you hopefully have much greater patience than a 20 something mom, although my cousing was 30-32 when she had her 2 and right now she's waiting for both to get out of diapers before considering their third. She's really looking forward to the next one ;-)
Best of luck to you.
2007-06-20 05:18:17 · answer #2 · answered by chris m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two children under 2? I had 3 children under 2. It's managable and great in the future when they grow up together. My daughters are a year apart and it's all about splitting the time up between toddler and the baby. Now at 5 and 4 they are the best of playmates. (I hope its the same when they are 14 and 15) :) Try Again. It's worth it!
2007-06-20 05:14:56 · answer #3 · answered by Momma K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not a nightmare it can be a hand full but they grow up so fast and there are two parents you can help each other out. I have two sons and they are exactly 2 years apart they share the same birthday and it was kind of difficult but me and my husband got through and my boys are very close they can learn together , play together , and they will always have some things in common because they are so close in age. Also you always know that they can take care of each other and they will be in the same school.
2007-06-20 05:48:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a nightmare but it certainly tiring the first couple years. After that.. its great.
Mine were 18 months apart, That first year was a challenge, but I think I would do it all over again given the chance.
They are very good friends with each other now and have a lot of the same friends, they kep each other in check most of the time. They've have been and still are.. each others best ally and worst tattletale.
2007-06-20 05:25:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a foster parent and I have or we have a 1,2,3,4,7,7,11, & 12. That is after all the July & August birthdays. I'm surviving. Go for it. It will be hard while they are little, but like someone already said it will be easier once they are older than if they were farther apart. Before last year we had two boys that are 5 years apart. They would play together, but that's to far apart and as the oldest one got older he didn't want to play with the younger one as much.
2007-06-20 05:19:39 · answer #6 · answered by plh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 7 yr old daughter, a 22 month old daughter and a 6 week old son and at times it is hard. You just have to be able to give each child the love and attention they need. When my son is asleep, I spend as much time as I can with my girls, so they don't feel left out. Everything else can wait in life, but your kids can't.
2007-06-20 05:20:01 · answer #7 · answered by sunflowerlizard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell ya its crazy. 3 months is easy compared to when they can walk and get into everything. Also its very expensive double expensive if you have 2 girls.
Keep all your effort into one child will help that child be more successful.
I would wait till that child is older and see just how much more harder it is to chase something around and now remember how hard it was to walk around when you were pregnant.
Don't get greedy with wanting at least 2 children be glad that the one you have is healthy and put all effort into the one you have. There should not be a rush.
2007-06-20 05:17:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend does it and is pregnant with number 3 can you believe it! It'll be ALOT easier if you get both kids on the same schedule. Don't worry you'll do fine, but if you're concerned about your age and the close age of your children consider waiting and adopting, then you can pick the approximate age of your child and don't have to be concerned with a "later in life" pregnancy. Have a happy family!!
2007-06-20 05:15:57 · answer #9 · answered by boitchick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend has an 11 month old and her 2nd is due in 3 months. It will be hard at first, but much easier as they get older. Plus, being close in age should make them closer as siblings. (For example, my brothers are 7 and 9 years older than me, and we're not very close.)
2007-06-20 05:13:51 · answer #10 · answered by MBK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋