If a man has sex with a man, but not in a gay way, will women still want to be with him?

Question

Look: I had sex with him, and it was just him and me, but I did it in a really manly, heterosexual way. I don't think it should be considered gay just because we're both men.

So I swallowed and everything, and I let him penetrate me, and penetrated him too. And we've done it lots of times since. I especially like kissing him.

But when we do this, we do it in a heterosexual way, even though we're both men. Why is this so hard for people to understand?

Answer 1

Look I'm a straight woman and I am an absolute sucker for men that make me laugh.

You have just made me laugh so much I nearly pee'd myself so I'd still want to be with you. Definitely!

Answer 2

There's no way you couldn't be with him in "a gay way." Unless he has a vagina and boobs, you didn't do it in a heterosexual way. Just because gay men have sex doesn't mean they giggle and do weird stuff. Gay men are perfectly capable of having manly sex. Not every gay person is effeminate. And yes, if the woman is the open minded type, she might still want to be with him, as long as both men are free of STDs or you weren't cheating on her.

Answer 3

By "not in a gay way" do you mean the man takes the "masculine" role and sticks it in the other man, rather than having it stuck in him? If so, I believe that is actually the essence of gayness - wanting to stick it in a male rather than a female.
Now if it's wanting to have a penis stuck in him, then that's different, as it's just something extra that a woman can't do for you. Notice how men are starting to catch on to the joy of pegging, where the woman wears a strap-on and buggers the man. And is the man doing it that way to get the sensation of what he thinks would otherwise be gayness if the real thing was probing his rear? No doubt. So I'd say the "bottom" line is that if you like something stuck in you, it's not really gay to have the real thing up there. Gayness is when YOU put the real thing in anything other than the luscious female that wants it done oh so badly.

Answer 4

If there was no penetration, I suppose you could look at it that way. If your honest with yourself, there's no way any kind of sex with another man wouldn't be gay. What you have to ask yourself is, did you enjoy this experience and would you do it again? If you say yes to either of these questions, I think you have to take a closer look at what it is you really want. As far as the woman issue, I don't think a lot of them would mind, but if your bi, some women would be mistrustful of you, but that's just my opinion.

Answer 5

You live your life as you want to dude, and choose the partners that you want in future, be they guys or ladies.

It's not compulsory to inform everyone of all of your partners, nor experiences and experimentation. Men and women have experimented with same sex sexual experiences since way before you and I were born. Studies show that the majority of people can have same sex sexual interests, and these are just the regular people that we meet around us.

Your past is your past and you can create your own future, helped by goals and some luck along the way. Feel good about yourself for having experimented, and put it down to experience or keep your options open, if you choose this. Don't let others put you down.

Keep all of your sex safe, and avoid unwanted pregnancies too, as these can cause a minefield of trouble for all concerned, let alone the poor babies.

Good luck! Rob

Answer 6

If by "not in a gay way" you mean anal sex, but "allowing" all other forms of sex (oral, and mutual petting), the answer is still going to be same, which is: "no" from women, unless the woman is very opened-minded. Regardless of the gender of the persons involved, it still comes right down to it (the basic), sexual contact is still sexual contact and if it's between two men, it may make a woman question whether or not the man would be using her or not. No one, male or female, wants to think that their partner could possibly be cheating on them with a member of their own sex.

Have a lovely rest of the day.

Answer 7

If you have sex with another man, then you're gay. Even if you have thoughts about having sex with a man you're gay. Unless you just go through the motions and actions of a gay man then you're still straight. There's a difference of being gay and having gay sex.

Follow? I sure can't, but this make sense to some of these gay people.

Answer 8

How can a man have sex with a man and it not be in a gay way?

Uh, sorry dude, but two men having sex is pretty much the definition of gay sex. I mean, there is a chance you are bi but it sounds like you are just trying to deny it too much so I say you are gay.

Answer 9

Like my answer to your last question do you think that perhaps because you're straight acting/looking and that he is that you consider it in a "manly way".

But one person having sex with another person of the same sex is gay sex. I'm afraid there's no denying that.

Answer 10

Ok, let me RE answer this since I RE read it. Yeah, you cant have sex with another man and have it be NOT gay. There is no way that that can be a heterosexual act. Im sorry

Answer 11

how do you have HOMOsexual sex in a HETEROsexual way?

are you trying to say that your bi?
how do you now have gay sex in a gay way?

I might be able to understand if one of you was dominent and the other was submissive, but if your both blowing each other and penetrating each other, it's simple you are having sex with a guy, doesn't matter how you do it, it's still sex with a guy.

it's nothing to be embarressed about.

but if neither of you are guy why do you get it on with each other?