What would you do if someone screams at you whenever you tell her something?

Question

A year ago I met this Thai lady and later decided to do Thai food business. She only does the cooking while I am doing the sales & marketing. We have just started a month ago. All this while before we start the business and now, if she is in bad mood she would talked angrily at the top of her voice. And now whenever I feedback to her about something, she would get angry and start screaming loudly saying " I don't want to listen, don't say". Many people start staring at her, she just goes on and on. Do you gather that people would think that I am scared of her just because I don't shout back. The reason I have learnt if one person is screaming loudly and the other joined in is also mad too. She wants people to listen what she say. She can say when what she likes but not other people. She has no good word for anybody except herself. Two workers quit saying they couldn't stand her any longer. Should she see a doctor? She really looks mad when she scream. Can someone advise

Answer 1

.....Many, many people need to see a doctor. I call them the "walking wounded" of humanity. But most won't, and I doubt that she will either.

If it were me, I'd do what the two employees did. I would take my marketing and sales skills somewhere else. Relationships don't always turn out the way we hoped. The dark side of a person reveals itself. You need to have satisfaction and joy in your work. You can't change her and you can't tolerate that kind of abuse in the workplace.

Answer 2

She may be good at what she dose but she isn't comfortable with how things are going.

You have to find out what her limitations are & work with her strong points

Some people just don't have people skills. If this partnership is going to work she needs you for your people skills & you need her for her cooking skills.

You have to listen to the customers, the help & to her. This is where your people skills come in to play. You need to protect her from the customers & the customers & help from her.

You are a team. Just ask her straight out if she wants you on her team. If she dose then you need to set down with her & tell her just how you feel things should go. You need to listen to what she needs to get from this relationship.

You both should be open & honest about this. You are two different people that need what the other has.

The point is that the two of you can be so much more than each of you alone. If you agree on that you put up with each other & then what the team becomes is bigger than each of you alone.

This isn't going to be easy but it sure is worth doing.

This is a test. If you can make this work good things will come of it.

If It don't work out & you truly tried, you will still be a better person for it. Then go out & look for another partner

Answer 3

I have a friend who used to get unbelievably angry and shout in public places. It happened when she was anxious or hungry. One day I very calmly said "You look really scary when you shout". It seemed to change our relationship...I don't feel its personal anymore and we seem to be able to talk about her anxieties and angry attacks. She now takes antidepressants that ease her stress levels.

Don't shout back at your Thai lady, be calm and quiet and persistent. People only tantrum as long as it's getting them something. Good luck (c;

Answer 4

It is sad but true those that need the most help usual don't have a clue. I would tell her the help is leaving and the customers will be next if she doesn't stop ......

I don't think you can continue running a business like this.

Diane

Answer 5

I would get a lawyer and find out your options for getting rid of her as a business partner. She sounds totally toxic. I can't see any other option other than having a mental illness warrant put on her if she threatens to harm you.

Answer 6

scream back at her-see how she likes it