Would you be FURIOUS? What would you do?

Question

My husband left me and the three kids six months after he started having an affair with another woman ( I discovered this after he left.)
I asked him to leave me the car. He wouldn't. He then bought himself a luxery car. So then he had two cars and I had none.

I eventually bought a car for me and the kids.

Anyway, he has given the car to the girlfriend's mother ( who I also understand is a home wrecker)! He couldn't leave it for us ( the kids are little and need to be driven to school, doctor's appointment, etc.)

I still have a key to the car and as I live in a community property state, I can legally just go and get it. Part of me wants to do that. The other part says that this is God's way of showing me that I am better off without this azzhole.

What would you do?

Answer 1

Tell him u will race for the car.

No drifting allowed.

Answer 2

I love the Lord, and I know in some instances He can direct us to just "let things go" but in regards of this car, this is more of a legal issues than religious or moral. If the car was purchased by you both as man and wife, he has no cause to take it and give it to someone else. Are you two legally divorced or did he just leave and no one has filed? If that is the case, then you need to file. It's marital property and should be included in the assets to either be liquidated or divided out. I would say that if you have the keys, go get the car, put it in a safe place and then call him and let him know you have it - so he won't report it stolen. Then immediately call a lawyer. It's one thing for him to leave you and take property, but to take the sole car from you and the children and give it to his girlfriend's mother, that's reprehensible. Know having said that, there are two sides to every story, you may have done something to warrant his refusal to YOU to have the car, but what kind of father does that to his children! No matter what he should have thought about them. But I hope you follow my advice and get legal help with this. Good luck.

Answer 3

First of all, I would be uspset at the fact that he is not really thinking about his kids.
There is a few things that you can think about before getting revenge on getting the car back. Who owns the car?? If he is the owner of the car, and it's in his name, there is not much you can do. There is if you are a co-signer of the car and under 2 names because you are both owners.
As for the car he bought himself, I would set it on fire or pour paint in the insides interior and the engine. Make sure to drain the oil then pour it right down. I told my boyfriend if he ever cheated on me I would do that to his car. Just jack it all up. =o) I hope I helped

Answer 4

Easy. Call an attorney. You owe it to your children to make sure your husband (hopefully soon to be EX husband if he isn't already) provides for them in every way he can, and an attorney is the best way to do that. That may well mean retrieval of the car, but don't do it on your own. You may not be as legal to just go get it as you think. Even if you don't get the car, you should at least be getting some cash. If he can afford a luxury car, he can afford to support his children. Call an attorney. Good luck!

Answer 5

Do not just go and take this car.

If you are intent on reclaiming the vehicle, you need to take proper steps to secure the vehicle and not put yourself at any potential risk for arrest. You have more than just yourself to worry about and just because you think you know what the community property laws are doesn't mean you couldn't create a lot more trouble for yourself than it is worth if you do anything to acquire this car that isn't through proper channels and authority.

Answer 6

I think if you go get the car, it will start a war. I'd choose your battles. Since you already bought yourself another car, what good does it really do you to have that one ? I'd say wait for the divorce settlement, and be sure to bring the car issue up in court. I'm guessing that the judge won't like your husband's decision at all, and will award you/punish him accordingly. Believe me, that will taste MUCH sweeter.

Answer 7

I would bring this up with your lawyer, and address it in the property settlement. I wouldn't just go and get the car--after all, you have transportation, right? Wait for the legal property settlement, don't take things into your own hands, as tempting as it sounds. Don't lower yourself to his level, it's not worth it in the long run.

I'm so sorry for everything you're going through. I wish you and your children the best of luck during this difficult time.

Answer 8

That's a tough one. I'd consult a lawyer. I took the high road when I was abandoned, but a part of me wishes I'd done things differently. It's not like they appreciated my kindness and extreme show of morals.

Bottom line is that he's screwed you and HIS OWN KIDS! That's BS! If you can legally I would either legally take his luxuary car or repo the other one. Why should HE be on easy street and furnish the hussie's mom a car? But really I'd go to a lawyer and try to get him where it hurts!

Answer 9

If you bought a car for you and the kids then screw hima dn PROVE to him you can do it on your own and you don't need him. He's a jerk and remember what goes around comes around. Went thru this same situation and guess what his girlfriend cheated on him and got pregnant and put him out on the street. He now lives back at home with me and the kids after long talks about what was best for our children we are not togeter we do not share a room or have sex but it is working for us.

Answer 10

I would get an attorney with the biggest dorsal fin that you can find and let him go to town. I wouldn't even give this loser the time of day anymore, if there is any contact that needs to be made b/w you and him - make him go thru your attorney. Document everything and you will get what you deserve. UGH. Sorry you are going thru this - Just stand strong and know that you are ssooooooo much better off without him - if he can do this to you and your kids, then he is going to get what is coming to him.

Answer 11

I would love to say go get the car, but I can bet that he would just turn around and come get it back and then you guys would be doing the back and forth thing with the car.

I would just make sure to ask for anything you feel you deserve in the divorce and make sure he pays child support and then move on with your life. If there is such a thing as Karma, she will end up cheating on him.