I have been diagnosed with manic depression. What shall I do?

Question

Me and my husband have been married for 7 yrs and he said I have put him through hell with my mood swings and different personalities. He now says that he is tired of it and he don't know what he wants to do. He has been hinting at a divorce yet still sleeps in the same bed. I am stuck and really don't know what to do. What shall I do?

Yes I am going to a psychotherpist, on medication and yes we do have children. 3 boys whose ages are 6, 4, and 2.

Answer 1

Well, I would say to you both that now that you know what the problem is you can work on it. I think it would be very premature for him to leave now just when things might get better.

How might they get better you ask? Well, you have a diagnosis, and this condition can be treated with medication (and possibly some therapy). A mood stabilizer that works for you may make all the difference in the world. Once the medication gets into your system and begins to work, your husband may come home from work one day to a whole new woman. You'll probably like you so much better too.

I'm excited for you both. Go get well and live a long and happy life with this man.

Answer 2

If you want to keep him have a talk. Tell him you are aware that you have been awful to deal with. Apologize and offer a game plan for how you are going to make it the way it should have been all along. Get medication, counseling and then put effort into being the best person you can be and not indulging the disease.

I have known manic depressives. When under control they are very unique almost genius personalities. You have alot to offer. But you gotta get on top of it and keep it under control.

Answer 3

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Good Lord, 3 boys at 2 year intervals, that would make anybody unstable.

First suggestion: don't get pregnant!
Second: get some time away, find somebody to watch the kids and take a vacation with your husband.

You sound like you are probably under a lot of stress and so is your husband. Try some relaxation techniques, maybe some yoga or meditating.

I hope you can recover, your husband and boys need you.

Answer 4

I was diagnosed as bipolar when I was in my 20s. I did the counseling thing, medication. What I think really helped was having people around me that loved & supported me. I am now 41, and handle everything much better. No meds, no shrink. There are times when I still do get depressed (mainly spring) but having loved ones around helps. Btw, I know it is torture for you too, the ups and downs. Please-get help. Sometimes the first thing is not the best, but keep trying until you feel better!!
Good luck!!!!

Answer 5

Get on medication and seek marriage counseling. If keeping your marriage together is what you want. You dont mention any kids. They always make the decision more difficult. The line about "staying together for the children" is BS. If you are in a loveless marriage, constantly fighting, staying together does not help them. Two separate homes where there is nothing but love and no fighting is better than them hearing you "duke" it out all the time.

If there are no kids, maybe you can work it out, maybe you cant. But you have to know what you want.

You certainly need to follow your Dr's advice and either get on or continue with any meds he/she has provided. Are you seeing a therapist? Psychologist or psychiatrist. If not, ask for a referal.

Answer 6

Okay, you have been diagnosed, so now you need to get treated for it. There are some very effective treatments out there that can help. The meds can be just as bad for some people as the Bi-Polar disorder and you have to judge your case individually and work with your doctor. Talk to your husband and ask him to help you, not run from you. I am married to a Bi-Polar woman and she does not use any medications, I have just learned to deal with her drastic mood swings. I can fully understand your husbands frustration and his wanting to just be free of it, because it takes a great deal of patience, understanding and forgiveness to live with someone that is Bi-Polar. Don't ask him to stay if you are not going to try, you have to do your part.

Answer 7

What ever happened to the saying For Better Or Worse, In Sickness and In Health ? I don't think those vows apply in this day and age. People really don't take their vows seriously when they marry. Are you taking anything for it? There is alot of medication that helps depression these days, have your Doctor put you on something, I've heard medication helps!!

Answer 8

Over the last five years I had begun to have increasingly withdraw into a downward spiral of depression..

But now with the method I can fully focus my energy and thoughts into a decisive line on how to make my life better constantly. And it works like magic! I'm beginning to attract people to me once again and things have just been looking up since then.

Helping you eliminate depression?

Answer 9

You need to separate for a little while. He should love you know matter what. Get your own place and figure out who YOU are and what YOU want. I am manic depressive too, and the only thing that helped me was to find myself. I have been through two marriages and two divorces from having all these mental health issues. If you separate and not divorce both of you will find out what you really want.

Answer 10

Sweetie, you should go she a psychologist and a counselor. The psychologist will help with medications for that illness. The counselor will help with everything else. I also think you and your husband should go to marriage counseling. The thing with the marriage counseling is the counselor will be able to help your husband understand what you are going through and you both should be able to help each other through this.