heres the deal,I have never dated women and have always been with men but knew that something wasnt right.Now that I have come to terms with it,I dont feel comfortable pretending anymore and can not make myself feel any affection for a man.I was in a restaurant a few days ago and saw a girl, who was gay, and was completely taken with her. I have never felt this way about anyone, man or woman.We talked and chatted for awhile and I found out that she has a girlfriend,very serious,for the past 2 years.I am upset but at the same time I am completely amazed by her and have never felt this way.I have never been with a woman,but after realizing these feelings,am I gay?She also is giving the signs that she is wanting to get to know me much better,she is ALWAYS flirting. but she has a girlfriend so is this bad news?I cant describe the feelings i have,its like after we met,i became crazy about her.Do I leave her alone because she has a girlfriend?or continue to go with it and see/flirt with her?
2007-06-20 02:24:31 · 13 answers · asked by Layla 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I know your not going to want to hear this but yes you should leave her alone. Getting in a relationship with someone who is already in a relationship is wrong, and way too stressful. I was seeing a married woman, I’m not going to say it was a mistake and I regret it but it caused me a lot of problems that I could have avoided but if your willing to take that chance – good luck.
2007-06-20 02:36:35 · answer #1 · answered by ♀ǐcƏ_ƇơĿƉ♀ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all you want is sex then go right ahead, but be ready for the heartache & lonliness that go along with a futureless fu
Do The Right Thing
Good Luck
2007-06-20 03:30:57 · answer #2 · answered by Cheryl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you need to be comfortable with the thought of dating another woman. It's up to you. Secondly, do you think this lady is really wanting anything to do with you or just flirting to be doing it? There is nothing wrong with the up front approach. Ask her why she flirts when she is in a relationship. Let her know that you have an interest in her. See how she responds. She will let you know one way or another. The difference is that she is already comfortable with her sexual preference. You, on the other hand, are still debating on the inside. That is where your confusion lies.
You may not ever know unless you press to find out. Then, you have to worry about the possible breakup of the other two. If the other is looking at you, then they were already destined to break up anyway or she wouldn't be looking elsewhere.
For the record, I do not approve of any gay lifestyle. I do approve of people being happy. If you being with another lady makes you happy, so be it. Just sucks that you are now one more lady off the market for a great guy to meet.
Good luck with it. I'd actually like to know how this all works out.
2007-06-20 02:40:36 · answer #3 · answered by Squiggs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm no expert on religion but if you feel strongly about your religion and you cannot imagine life without either I don't see why you should have to give up one for the other. Life can be a balancing act. I wish you luck with this, as sometimes religion and bisexuality/ homosexuality don't very easily mix. But that shouldn't mean that you can't do it. Just remember - there's no such thing as 'can't'. (just a small point - religion isn't inherited or anything, so weren't 'born' a Christian. You are a Christian who was born bisexual)
2016-05-20 07:29:13 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This goes for both homosexuals and heterosexuals.
She's got a chick? then leave her.. there are plenty of lesbos/bisexuals out there. Now that you discovered this new side of you. go out. clubs. bars. that are purposly put for bis and les. go have fun!. lol.
pehaps you'll even meet a chick you're gonna fall in love with. you never know.
I know this is hard to do because you like this gal so much.
But you gotta back off, she's flirting with you cause everyone has the right and is allowed to flirt.
Just go with the flow, see what happens. but DON'T force anything or give anything away.
good luck ;)
2007-06-20 02:33:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the answer, if it was a boy you would have to just leave him alone, it's no different with a girl... it's the right thing to do..
Maybe tell her (in private) that it's too bad she has a girlfriend because you are attracted to her, but tell her your life long friendship is more important, and you just had to get "it" out there because it's been driving you a bit nutz...
it's better to have her as a friend then not at all..
2007-06-20 02:30:28 · answer #6 · answered by n_maritz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her come to you, but be prepared for the possibility that she might not. Don't try to win her over from the other girl, that usually just ends up in hostility and hurt feelings. Don't avoid her or ignore her, but don't specifically go to see her either. Behave as if she's just a normal friend, and just wait and see how it goes. If it doesn't work out, I'm sure there are plenty of other opportunities for you in the future. Good luck.
2007-06-20 02:34:29 · answer #7 · answered by Iggy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go there. If you were her girlfriend would you want someone hitting on your girl? No you would not. If this is your first time to be with a woman then find one that can be with you the way she should, and not someone that will just hit it and quit it because she has someone else at home.
2007-06-20 02:33:13 · answer #8 · answered by irishlady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say be her friend because she might be able to introduce you to a friend of your own or you never know things
might work out I am not saying try to come inbetween them but hold off and you might meet someone who is just right for you
good luck
2007-06-20 02:53:58 · answer #9 · answered by kay b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id recommend making friends w her. But youre going to have to find another girl to initiate you into the scene as a love interest .
2007-06-20 15:28:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋