I am married, have been for a year. I am bisexual and my husband of course has always known this. I went on vacay recently to visit my "girlfriend" (yes my husband didnt care), he said he was fine with it as long as it wasnt some random girl (ive known her for 6 years). So me and her did our thing, I come back, tell him everything of course and now he doesnt want me to do it again.....ever. What changed his mind? And am I the one in the wrong for doing this?
2007-06-20 01:53:52 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Even though you are obviously in an open relationship . . . some things are better left unsaid. You probably have crossed a line with too many details. He probably needs some time, so don't force the issue now. Good luck!
2007-06-20 02:00:44 · answer #1 · answered by Matt G 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it crosses the line when it affects your relationship with the person you vowed to be with until death. Maybe he thought he was OK with it, until the meeting actually happened. You cheated on him, plain and simple. The fact that you had "permission" beforehand doesn't change that.
Let's say he decides he has issues with monogomy, and wants to have a girlfriend on the side he meets up with, only every once in a while, to fulfill that need and is faithful to you the rest of the time. He says it helps your sex life. Would that be ok with you?
I'd say respect his wishes and lay off the girlfriend, or divorce him and be single and free.
2007-06-20 02:42:19 · answer #2 · answered by misguidedrose18 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep you're doing wrong. Though he thinks it's kinda hot, you're not sharing this experience with him and he feels threatened that your relationship may turn into something more serious that will exclude him. Maybe you'll decide you don't need him anymore and only want women? Either way you married this man, and you need to be faithful to him and leave this woman alone.
2007-06-20 02:12:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What changed his mind? Your attitude. (not going to rag on you, hear me out)
He was hoping/expecting that when you came back, you would tell him that despite having a fun time, you missed HIM and realized that HE was more important and HE was better and etc
He had a romantic vision of how your going off with your girlfriend would make you love HIM more and you ruined that vision. It might have been unrealistic or silly of him but I'm betting that's how he felt.
2007-06-20 02:11:21 · answer #4 · answered by Cassandra G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is alien to me! If my husband went away to do "his thing" with a man or a woman - I couldnt hack it. I dont understand the point of marriage if you are not committed to one person? What is the point in your view? He is probably so hurt, jealous and confused. Give him some commitment. This is not fair or right in my view. Poor guy. Dont walk all over him.
2007-06-20 02:01:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one, deep down, wants to share their spouse with another human being. He doesn't want you sharing your heart with another human being hon! Perhaps it makes him insecure that you feel the need to be with other people... I know it would break my heart if my future husband approached me with a similar situation.
Be sure to attend to his needs as well as your own, or you will find many difficulties will pop up in your relationship.
2007-06-20 02:08:13 · answer #6 · answered by aerishkigal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you married if you are with someone else?? I don't blame your husband for being mad. You need to make your mind up of weather you want to be with him or her.
2007-06-20 02:06:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you may be bi, but you are married!! Your hubby is prolly feeling neglected!! How would you like it if he was bi and had a guy on the side??
2007-06-20 02:04:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would not be to happy with you, if you want to keep this up get a divorce.
2007-06-20 01:58:36 · answer #9 · answered by kim t 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you told him too much. you had fun with him and he did not like that. maybe next time have him come alone . does he know your gf? maybe have them meet or something?
2007-06-20 01:58:56 · answer #10 · answered by Randa L 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋