The other day i was shopping at the gap maternity and well some philipina lady came up to me and she asked when i was due... i thought nothing of it and told her august 23rd... well she then went to say sorry for starring at my belly (i didnt even realise she was looking at me).. anyways... she then went on to tell me that she was pregnant full term and that she had lost her baby right before she gave birth (in march) ...and that she was trying for another one..
i was shocked and i didnt really know what to say to her...
i just told her i was sorry and i wished her luck ...
what would you have done in this situation?...
2007-06-20 01:52:51 · 15 answers · asked by lilmommy 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
her nationality isnt important!...
Never said it was...
2007-06-20 02:02:18 · update #1
You did the best you could- one person would say she was rude, another would say she just needs to talk through her feelings when she see's anothor preganant lady. I think u handled yourself nicely.
2007-06-20 01:58:20 · answer #1 · answered by mysticalheart73 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you handled it well. Sometimes it just helps to say things and she probably felt that as a mom-to-be you would understand her situation. Maybe not the most tactful of things to say to a pregnant woman, but I have had 2 miscarriages and tried to conceive my son for a year and a half and I know all you seem to see is pregnant women. Therefore, it reminds you constantly. Well done though and Best of Luck!
2007-06-20 09:03:04 · answer #2 · answered by trillianv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you told her the right thing. But first of all, why would some random stranger want to tell another stranger about something so sad and personal like loosing a child?. And second, why would she tell you something so negative? When people say things like that, the only leave you with worry that it might happen to you. Dont worry, you said the right thing, but I wouldve been bothered by it! Goodluck and congratulations ;-)!
*31 weeks pregnant!
2007-06-20 09:00:12 · answer #3 · answered by curious789 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess she needed someone to tell...but personally I think that is really selfish of her to say something like that to a pregnant woman! I would have done the same thing, said I'm sorry to hear that and wish her luck...
2007-06-20 08:59:16 · answer #4 · answered by Momma to Kaeden Nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she was sad and looking for another mother who would understand her feelings. I would have done the same thing as you. I know it's weird that someone would do that, because the last thing you want to mention to an expectant mother is the death of a baby, but she deserves sympathy and just needed someone to understand.
2007-06-20 08:57:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said the right thing. I think you feel that you failed to say enough because you were shocked of what she said, so you just said the nicest words you could get out of your mouth. You probably would of said more if you were not shocked, but you still said enough. I would of said something similar, but with the same value.
2007-06-20 09:00:06 · answer #6 · answered by §†reet R¥dA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you said just the right thing, that you were sorry for her loss and hoped she would have luck with her next pregnancy.
If I had been in that situation, I would have said something just like that.
2007-06-20 08:56:29 · answer #7 · answered by Veritas 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what you did was fine. I had something kinda like that happen.. I announced i was pregnant at a lunch with some acquaintances at work, and one of the girls said that she's happy for me, that she miscarried the month before. We all didn't know what to say.....
I think you handled it good.
2007-06-20 08:58:03 · answer #8 · answered by heygirl8379 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Said, "Wow, that's terrible. I hope you get pregnant again soon!" And pretty much left it at that. That's odd she did that and I would have thought it was really weird. I think that you did the right thing.
2007-06-20 09:01:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you did was great. I am a Filipina and I think what she did to you was inappropriate because she gave you something to worry about. But on the other end maybe she just misses her baby and envy you for having one.
2007-06-20 09:13:16 · answer #10 · answered by avie_8 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋