i am nearly 5 weeks gone and this is constantly on my mind, also my first daughter was born with multiple birth defects and i am constantly worrying that this baby is not developing properly. what can i do to get over feeling like this?
2007-06-20 01:44:24 · 19 answers · asked by Kelly 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You're gonna be just fine.
I had my first baby last year and I didn't enjoy my pregnancy at all because miscarriage was all I worried about. Don't make the same mistake.
The chances of both your children having the same birth defects are low, unless there is a definite genetic reason your daughter was born with birth defects.
They say that once the baby's heartbeat has been detected theres a 90% chance of the pregnancy being successful. Can you request an early scan? Given your daughter's condition it might be worthwhile.
As I'd had trouble getting pregnant and was being investigated by a fertility clinic, I had a scan at 7 and a half weeks and I saw my son as a little jellybean with a tick-tick heart!
He's now nearly 20lbs, 6 and a half months old and a beautiful, cheeky little monkey!
Just tell yourself that your little bean is developing well and safely, try to be as healthy as you can avoid anyhting that could harm bubs and you. Do you work? Take time off if you need to. Rest up and put yourself first as much as you can. you'll be just fine! xx
2007-06-20 05:44:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm now 31 1/2 weeks. Now that I know my baby would be able to survive if born my fears have just now slowed down. I had a m/c last April. I was 8 weeks. I know it's really hard and know how you feel. You are constantly worried that you might do something wrong. It's horrible to say, but it kind of... takes the innocents of it all away. You can't let yourself fully accept that the baby will be fine. Hang in there and just leave it to God. I'm sure it will all be fine this time.
Best of luck!
2007-06-20 02:12:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My last baby was born with genetic defects (Charge Syndrome) and passed away at the age of five months, so I know where you're coming from.
My husband and I hope to get pregnant very soon and of course it has crossed our mind that it could happen again, but there's nothing you can do to control or change it, so just......let it go and give it to God.
That's all I can say. It has helped me tremendously. Just take good care of yourself and keep a positive attitude. That changes everything.
It will also help to get through your 1st trimester which is the highest risk time for miscarriage.
Bless you!
2007-06-20 01:50:24 · answer #3 · answered by Veritas 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just need to stay positive. I can understand why you would worry, I worried and I didn't have the history you do. It's normal to feel some anticipation, but you can't focus on that or something could go wrong. You need to relax and make sure you keep yourself not only physically healthy but emotionally and spiritually healthy as well. So go to the doc and make sure everything is okay, see if he can help in any way to absolve some of your fears and keep a positive attitude. Everything is gonna be okay. Good luck.
2007-06-20 01:49:27 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The unnecessary fear and anxiety that U are having right now may cause the problem in ur unborn baby. Emotional stress affects the way the brain functions. When the brain gets affected, hormonal balance that will make ur baby develop normally will also be affected and that will make ur fear come true.
Noone is able to predict what may happen to the developing fetus unless U have married a man whose genetic make-up when matched with U will definitely cause certain abnormalities. In this case, U must seek some genetic counselling.
Keep on praying and trust in the Lord and He will definitely grant ur heart's desire. Only God can make miracles. Also always put urself in a good emotional state and that will also be very beneficial to the baby. Science has proved it several times that this works!!!
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2016-11-07 00:34:21 · answer #6 · answered by bojan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Sorry I can't really answer your question but that is exactly how I feel, I'm 10weeks with my first and am so worried about miscarrying! I found out at 5weeks so it's been a nightmare and i keep thinking once i get to the 12 weeks mark i'll be fine but then i read stories about people miscarrying at 15 weeks and so on and i'm back to square one but i don't really think there is anything you can do. I think once i get my scan in two weeks time i'll feel a bit better. hope everything goes ok with you.
2007-06-20 01:52:56 · answer #7 · answered by Mummys Little Prince... 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
dont stress too much.i know its not easy.i lost my son almost 3 years ago aged 6 weeks after bein born 14 weeks early.and only over 2 weeks ago i miscarried at 5 weeks and 5 days after ttc for 18 months and only knew i was pregannt for one day..it truely is heart wrenchin but at the end of the day leave it in gods hands.stressin is not going to help any. i know u be worried but try stay positive.its the only way.the sayin in my life is whatever will be will be..losin two children already at the age of 23 ppl tell me that i have plenty time but it doesnt help the hurt of losin them and knowin i should have had two beautiful children.i hope everythin turns out ok for u..good luck
2007-06-20 02:23:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel im just past 7 weeks and am constantly worring about what might or could happen. every pain or cramp or twing i freak out. but im also noticing that every day closer to twelve weeks i get it lessens up a little.
have you been to dr yet? maybe that will put you at ease.
good luck and remember your not the only one. having fear about the unknown is very normal.
2007-06-20 02:20:34 · answer #9 · answered by blmbean 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi hun, you must try to stop worrying unfortunately no amount of worrying will stop a misscarriage its sad but nature is cruel sometimes. i can understand your anxiety as you had problems with your first pregnancy, talk to your doctor about how you feel ask as many questions about your first childs problems find out if it was genetic or just a cruel twist of nature. please try to relax more the baby will pick up on every single emotion that your body is going through. i wish you all the luck in your pregnancy lovey xxxxx god bless.
2007-06-20 02:16:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋