Okay this is mad, I was just reading that article and had a question myself. My question was going to be along the lines of who is failing the children in our society. My thought is that there are many traumatized parents out there who are critisized for not having the skills the 'acceptable' parents have, by these I mean the one's that cope well, have good family relations and sound judgement. Then you have an increasing number of parents who have grown up in the social services system with emotional scarring that I don't know how they could have prevented.
I was a child essentially brought up in care and despite a great traditional upbringing, as an adult have always had an emotional deficit to a degree that has always seemed have an effect on my self esteem.
I have children myself now and it can be a daily struggle to achieve what other mothers would see as effottless emotional ability to parent. I think it is easy to critisize and hard to fix.
Funny how I also read this morning about how women are deliberatley looking for security in life and are turning to prison to fulfil this. Obviously somewhere along the line there are needy people and those subjected to a state upbringing are among those that have the biggest deficits later on
Systems will totally fail humanity if they simply remain a series of policies. It is often a case of needing to learn by example and I do not know a system that does this. Some of the best examples I have seen of this 'correction' of deficits are these boot camp for families type programmes that send you out of a bad normality for a while.
Supernanny is a fantastic insight but how mant parents who struggle have access to such a service if training for parents.
For the future, my suggestion would be to keep families together but MAKE them change through positive role modelling and continued input.
Some of society is just an awful reality.
2007-06-20 01:11:18
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answered by ? 6
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Any form of repression of the instinctual nature of our beings causes an inbalance that must be compensated. Amongst the fires of life, youth is undergoing such a vast change and developing at a rate comprensible to the evolving mind, subject as it is to the vast growth of new neurons daily. They are crossing a bridge, that bridge is today a whole new set of realities perforating amongst the whole being in constant change. Mental illness will generally come and go. The more civilization grows so too the need to procure efforts to repress any instinctual behavior and if this is not successfull those who fail to coordinate in a way acceptable to some,can be considered ill, usually by some law that makes it uncomfortable not to repress some instinct.
2007-06-20 00:50:57
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answered by JORGE N 7
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I think it is probably a 'cause of our society' and it worries me deeply.
I also believe that these problems have always been present in our youth, we have just got better at identifying them and recording our findings in the form of retrievable data that is then presented to the wider public, in our desire to be accountable for everything we do, for fear of being taken to task over ignoring a problem that we may be able to solve (a product of the 'lets sue the pant's off them' culture we inherited from our American cousins :)).
I also think that impressionable youngsters now (through their computers) have access to the 'www' community and as we all know their are some incredible cruel people out there, who take great pleasure in goading a vulnerable youngster into doing and believing things that they are not intellectually able to cope with.
I just wish there was something that could be done for these youngsters my heart goes out to them and their families.
2007-06-20 01:11:17
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answered by Suzy 2
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My son is one of those statistics.
He is 12 years of age.
He has a condition called trichotillomania, which is an anxiety based condition, basically he pulls his hair out.
There are a number of contributory factors:
1) Stress - in my sons case trying to deal with 11 subjects while still in primary school.
2) Puberty - Hormonal surge
3) Hereditary elements
4) Environment and peer pressure
5) Intelligence - mostly with children who have a higher than average intelligence, and feel they need to prove this. (my son has an above average capability in mathematics)
I can only comment on my own experience, in my sons case it has nothing to do with society or pressure from within the home, it has to do with his own perceptions of his surroundings and particularly a fear of failure.
He is under the care of an adolescent psychiatrist and team of psychologists, nutritionists and relaxation therapists. They are absolutely fantastic, he has improved greatly, but it is a slow process.
Before he attended the 'team' (as he likes to refer to them) he told me that he didn't think he would make it through his teens.
That is something a mother NEVER wants to hear.
Personally my feeling is mental disorders/problems have always been with us, but people chose to ignore them in the hope they would go away.
My advice is to listen to your child, address any problems and seek medical help.
2007-06-20 01:52:38
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answered by Milking maid 5
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a million. To be basic, we in all likelihood all be stricken by various ranges of psychological ailment yet usually use that label for persons that exceed the socially appropriate volume of psychological ailment. 2. specific, this is a barrier and that i think of the objective for the two aspects is to shame the otherside into changing positions. That technique does artwork and has been used on people who smoke. It use to be cool to smoke, now smoking has very much shrink by way of shame generated by utilising non-people who smoke. (i grew to become into never a smoker, yet I surely have observed the smoking lifestyle has replaced) i don't know that anybody is in seek of self-congratulatory justification as much as venting frustration on the otherside. you have christians who're pissed off approximately atheist no longer seeing what they see and you have atheists pissed off approximately christians no longer seeing what they see. it is all exciting to me that we live interior a similar worldwide with a similar journey, yet we are able to interpret those studies in such contrasting strategies.
2016-11-07 00:29:23
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answered by ? 4
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Just want to wish you and your son the very best Cozy.
I used to do that when I was younger, it was anxiety for me.
Still twist my hair when Im stressed or worried or scared, but dont pull it out.
He will be fine with his team and his Mum xx
2007-06-20 11:48:40
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answered by Iona 2
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