today an ex girlfriend called my boyfriend saying that she wanted to end their friendship because she did not want us together. i personally don't know her but all i know is that they have been broken up for almost a year & now she just acted that way. My BF & i have been together for 6 months now. And the whole time we thought she was okay with it & was talking to someone else. Turns out she wasnt. Now, my boyfriend feels really bad even though he hasnt done anything &he wants to try to work things out.
Personally, I think it is healthy to have cordial relationships with ex girlfriends. It shows some maturity & kindness to be able to pull it off. But shes acting like an ex-girlfriend who is really taking advantage of the situation and crossing lines. It may be easy to pity her situation, & she may be really unhappy, but I suspect these are her suggesting she might do something drastic (such as ending their friendship) if her needs arent met like emotional blackmail. What do we do?
2007-06-19 22:24:10 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Do nothing. If she wants to end the friendship then it is up to her. Both you and your b/f have done nothing wrong so its her problem and she can deal with it.
2007-06-19 22:30:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's your place to have to get her out of your relationship, it's HIM that needs to do that. This is the problem with people that are "ex's" they don't know how to just let go.
If your BF is with you, then he needs to STOP making himself avaliable to HER. By him doing this, only makes her think that she's still a factor in his life. If she is still a factor to him, then he doesn't need to be with YOU.
What he's doing is totally unacceptabe and whichever way he wants to spin it, he's wrong. In the long run, you will be the one that will end up being hurt, while they're back together and happy.
Good Luck!
2007-06-20 05:36:40 · answer #2 · answered by purrlywhites 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first you say its healthy, and then you say its emotional blackmail!
shes trying to steal your boyfriend, i think the relationship between you and him should be more important than the relationship with him and her! you need to put your foot down
2007-06-20 05:32:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as far as an Ex is concerned, it should remain an EX, so just ignore her, but if yr bf cannot ignore her then perhaps you need to relook at your realtionship with him ?
2007-06-20 05:45:04 · answer #4 · answered by aunt_webby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is time for him to choose--you or the ex.
2007-06-20 05:57:48 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋