Please help?

Question

Wabby✿
Please help?...?
I'm 17 years old and everything in my life is f*cked up.

When I was 14 I was in a car crash and I was told I would never walk again. I can walk but I have permanent injuries and I can't go and do anything I enjoy or play any sports anymore.

When I was 15 I was sexually abuse and raped by a friend of mine. Then 6months later I was sexually abused again by a family friend.

I've moved around so much and been to so many different schools. I only have one true friend and i'm pushing him away.

My parents were divorced when I was 3 and my mum told my Dad he wasn't allowed to see my brother or I again. My mother re-married and abusive gambler/alcoholic and my mum now emotionally abuses me.

I do really well at school, that's all I have. Everyone thinks I can handle my life fine but I can't.

I've lost many friends to suicide and not been there to say goodbye.

I have all these secrets and no one to tell them to. My family have such high expectations of me too.

What can I do?

Answer 1

Wabby,you have certainly been through a lot and unfortunately nothing we say can change your past.Hopefully you will find some encouragement from our words.No one goes through life alone unless they choose to. You did nothing to cause any of these tragic events so don't feel guilty because you survived them.Bad things happen to good people.Continue to find the courage to persue your dreams,believe in yourself and know that you are loved.Remember you are allowed to have emotions and to show them, share your feelings and join a support group. Congratulations on focusing your attention on an education and having goals.I hope you are able to find the peace you are looking for.Take care.

Answer 2

Get out now. You do not have to put up with this abuse. Have you heard of childhood emancipation?
Emancipation is not available in every state in the United States. Where it is available, emancipation is a legal process by which minors can attain legal adulthood before reaching the age at which they would normally be considered adults (this is called the “age of majority”). The rights granted to legally emancipated minors might include the ability to sign legally binding contracts, own property, and keep one’s own earnings. However, each state has different laws governing emancipation and some states simply have no law or legal process concerning emancipation. In states where minors wishing to become legally emancipated will have to break new legal ground.

You are entitled to talk to someone such as a school councillor, or a solicitor/lawyer and can break away from this emotionally crippling relationship! Do it now. Life is too short to live like this.

Answer 3

With all that you have been through, it seems schooling is the best thing to concentrate on.
In a way, talking out about things that concern you could be of some help, to get things off your chest.
The answers you get are from people, both male and female of different ages, who are trying to be helpful.
So take out of the replies what you need to go on in life.
At 17 you have a lot of life ahead of you, and in time these things will fade, but only if you let them

Answer 4

wow, sorry to hear all that. are you able to wait till your 18 and move out. try and get a job to save money and get your own place. any relitives to help out or live with them for a while to save or to stay for good. if you really want, a judge can get a place for you with relatives. i wish i could help more. i never went through all that but my mom was abusive. i learned to be rebellious which is not good, but it got me away from home. i would suggest calling an aunt or someone. hope it gets better. praying also helps, by the way. just ask for protection and guidance. He'll be there.

Answer 5

Well, for me you can only find real comfort in God. I know it can sound trite but it is the truth. There is not even one person on this planet that is perfect and will not hurt you or disappoint you at one time or another. That's reality and you know it better than anybody else. While God is so perfect, he can never disappoint you. He is always there for you and He always loves you. He is not helpless like we are but can do anything He wishes. His presence brings happiness that you can never otherwise experience. I don't really know why people are so afraid of turning to God. What are they going to lose if they try? To me, believing in God has been the most wonderful and life-changing experience ever and I wouldn't replace it with anybody's friendship.

Answer 6

I really think that should go with your school counselor and tell him/her just that, I understand is hard, but if you don't take actions right now to get professional help and support your life will never change. I wish you good luck!

Answer 7

i am really very sorry to hear that!! but the only way to get out of this is listen to your heart!! as you are nice at studies you can apply to good colleges and begin with a hostel life!! and i think u should know some self protecting arts too!!we all are your friends and u can email me too!! any other problem please share!!

Answer 8

life will go on. Just keep up the work in school and build up on that. Find a support group in your area. You won't need a parent or anything for something like that.

Answer 9

that sucks. but at least your 17, so you can get out of the situation in a year. keep doing well in school, and apply 2 colleges.
sorry, u can email me if u want

Answer 10

study hard, find a good job, and leave your old life back to you... u look smart enough to have great opportunities, u don't need to be an athletic girl to have success... a college far from ur home could help u free ur wings