is it time for me to move on ,or should I wait for her?

Question

after two years +seven of being friends ,my girl friend told me she was moving 1900miles away.She said I could go too,but I cant .both of our familys live here,and are in thier mid 70s.she is moving anyway,and has turned my world upside down because I love her,she is my life,and she says she loves me too,but this is something she says she has to do.what about us? is this how you love someone?leave them behind? she says that she'll most likely come back because we have such a conection and she can't see her life without me.GO FIGURE...this has devistated me,I am so hurt that this is something she is justifying with no regards for me at all.I don't know what to even do with myself cause she moved out and is with friends untill she goes.excuse me but...should this be telling me to move on?she still comes over and sleeps with me and still tells me she loves me,but this is something she has to do..whats really going on here?and this is how I came to my question.. Heart broken/angry ?

Answer 1

If she wanted to stay, she would stay. She doesn't.
She wants to go--so let her.
Make a new life for yourself.
If she was THE ONE. she would stay with you.
This is not the way true love
works. Let her go her own way.

Answer 2

Let me put it this way, if she does come back to you it'll be for good, permanently. Don't inquire as to what she was up to, it might hurt you. It's the same thing you hear in graduation, " time to spread your wings and find yourself". She's going on a soul journey to find out what exists outside of her hometown, but all she's going to realize is men are jerks. If she comes back it'll be with greater fondness for you, and she's going to hope you can forgive/understand her. Please refrain from the thoughts of anger because you could have a relationship that would never even fathom the possibility of divorce, a strong relationship, the kind where you realize who your kindred soulmate is ....I find this very beautiful. You my good sir have found a keeper, a strong willed woman who wants to know the secrets of life, and isn't afraid to confront them.

p.s. 9 years is a long time...no one can ever forget that

Answer 3

Sometimes in life we feel the need to do something that will benefit our careers, etc.. Unfortunately, sometimes that involves ending a relationship. If she loves you, she will miss you, and will possibly come back. Your only choice is to either wait and see, or move on. Take you time to make that decision, there is no need to rush into another relationship until you are over this one. I hope things work out for you.

Answer 4

Okay first of all im only 14 but tonight I had an amazing feeling of love. If you love her and want to be with her go. I dont play around with feelings. Thats what will hurt you. Let your heart make the decision but dont let other stupid things get in the way

Answer 5

i actually have a similar problem. your girl friend isn't bi-polar is she? i say let her go. if both of your families live there she'll be back anyway. Call her bluff, i bet she doesn't even really go in the first place. tough love guy.

Answer 6

Go on with your life....she's throwing you a HUGE hint...if it's meant to be someday it will.

Answer 7

If i were u i would leave her. You could do so much better than her.

Answer 8

if you truly love her let her go, set her free. let her find herself. dont be selfish, and do something else yourself.

Answer 9

dollar general is the best answer.

Answer 10

why don't you marry her? she will be with you forever.