Is it difficult to forgive and forget?

Answer 1

its difficult to forget,and impossible if its a big ordeal..
forgiveness depends on the individual..
forgivness is for your own well being, not the other person.
you only harm yourself holding on to anger.
its best to forgive, but dont forget(instead learn from it and move on)

Answer 2

If what the person did has had a profound effect on your life, then yes, it is difficult to forgive and forget. If, say, your friend stepped on your foot, I would hope that you would easily forgive your friend, and in a short time forget it even happened. If this same friend slept with your significant other, then it would be fair to assume you may never forgive them, and you probably will have a difficult time forgetting the incident.

Answer 3

Often it is difficult to forgive and forget. Sometimes impossible. You should start with deciding whether forgiveness is appropriate. Did the person wrong you? It is not appropriate to forgive someone for wronging a third person, only a person who has actually wronged you. Did the person express regret and take responsibility for the wrong? Did the person take appropriate steps to correct the wrongdoing? If they did not do these things, they are not in the position to expect forgiveness. Sometimes it is important to move on and move away from the person who wronged you. It's not necessary to forgive, but it may be in your best interest to to your best to forget, or at least put it in the background and go on with your life.

Answer 4

It can be difficult to forgive, but often necessary in order to allow yourself to let go of the anger and move on. However, you should NEVER forget! Forgetting a transgression means that you've learned nothing from the experience. Better to put the transgression into context and neither over react nor dismiss the event. Over-reaction negates any forgiveness you're trying to impart and dismissal sends the signal that it wasn't that important to start with. You don't have to "bring it up" for it to be there between you and whomever transgressed against you. However, if you tell them it's "forgotten", you're giving them a pass and implying they can do it again without any repercussions.

Answer 5

It all depends on what it is. Most of the time people should forget and forgive. A lot of times it is usually something stupid after they think about it.

Answer 6

Well...i think people are different when it comes to this question. For one group it's easy to forget but not to forgive. for the other group it's easy to forgive and not forget. for others it's never forget or forgive...and finally..the forgive and forget kind of people.
So i think it all depend on the person and the situation.
Peace.

Answer 7

Yes. Especially since we are socialized to believe that forgiveness is necessary. However, above and beyond what your religious beliefs or personal ideology tell you, hanging on to hurt ends up only hurting you -- and truly, whether you call it "forgiveness" or "letting go", moving beyond the hurt is beneficial.

Forgetting? Well, our brains are hard-wired to remember more easily that which is emotionally laden. Being hurt, therefore, isn't likely to be forgotten. Of course, it can be gotten past, and, while it takes work, ultimately it is up to you whether you are able to let it go, or not. That doesn't mean it is easy. It's not. It takes work.

Answer 8

It is very easy to forgive. Discuss the problem with a friend and solve it out.
It is better not to forget the problem, you might do the same thing. But it is best not to think about it.

Answer 9

It can be, depending on the situation.
However, there is a difference between forgiving and forgetting and letting it go.

If someone cheated on you, it's best to forgive, forget, and let go.

Answer 10

It depends on the situation and how bad the act is. People always tend to forgive but never forget.