I am married now and all but my kids are not by him I have 4 wonderful children. My ex husband I have 3 by and the past 3 summers he has taken them he tries to find reasons to take them from me. He fills their heads with so many things its not funny. I have talked to a Lawyer but they want 2500.00 up front to even start the case. What can or should I do? There is more to the story and it gets unbelivable you wouldnt even wanna know bout it. Please help me figure this out.
2007-06-19 17:14:45 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Um...a solution to this is to talk to your children before they go see their father. Tell them that he is only telling them those things becuase he wants to take them from you and express to them how upset that would make you... You might also want to talk to this ex husband of yours, becuase that just shows that he is selfish and a bit immature... i mean people do this sort of thing is highschool...not in the adult world...thats my suggestion... good luck!
2007-06-19 17:19:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
BE REAL. HOW CAN WE TELL YOU ANYTHING WITHOUT KNOWING THE 'WHOLE' STORY. FOR ALL WE KNOW, YOU MAY DESERVE TO HAVE YOUR CHILDREN TAKEN AWAY.
Your 'desperation' reads like you have some grounds for him to get the kids and you are scared? Well, STRAIGHTEN UP YOU LIFE NOW~~if there are any issues.
It is extremely rare for a Mother to be denied custody of her kids, if she has no faults. Chill Out and find a way to get a lawyer, other wise.
AT ANY RATE, DO WHAT IS BEST FOR THE CHILDREN, NOT YOUR EX OR YOU.
2007-06-20 00:35:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no right to stop him being a father unless he physically abuses the children. He can argue you fill their heads with junk as well. That's part and parcel to divorce and children are true victims.
All lawyers want retainers and $2500 is common.
2007-06-20 00:48:29 · answer #3 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Save your money. No judge in his right mind is going to take children from their mother, unless she is proven unfit. You will have to sit your children down and try to explain to them as best you can about their fathers negativity toward you. I would also try talking to your ex about this. If he cared at all about these kids he wouldn't be hurting them by speaking badly about their mother. I wouldn't worry about a lawyer unless he gets one. Even then, you should look into LEGAL AID in your county. They help people get legal help depending on their income. Tell your children if they ever have any questions about anything for them to talk to you about it. Do not reciprocate the bad behavior of your ex. He isn't thinking about their welfare.
2007-06-20 00:24:27 · answer #4 · answered by glittereyedg 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on where you are as far as what you can do about it. Most places the only way that he can take them from you is to prove that you are an unfit mother. Contact your local Bar Association, and tell them your situation. They will be able to guide you as far as what you can do without going to court. If it does end up going to court you can expect to pay for an attorney, you could ask for supervised visitation, they can always put that as a condition of him losing the case that is to pay your attorney's fees. Whatever is left of them that is.
2007-06-20 00:30:04 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. Murphy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your county family court clerk, about getting physical custody, it costs very little 200 or less but you need to get going on it. There are interviews and paper work but initially I believe its 120 up front to start, and then you fill out a paper called a family plan. Good luck, theres a long line of applicants.
2007-06-20 00:22:42 · answer #6 · answered by kim 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe try talking to him. Let him know what he is doing is childish and it's time to move on maybe if you can find the right words to say to him he will stop. Time will tell your kids will soon see whats going on. It's sad to know that he is trying to make it as hard as possible and that's not good for the kids b/c they prob. don't under stand right now. but my mom always told me that I'm going to let you form your own opinion about your dad. may the best parent win they will soon understand. Good Luck
2007-06-20 01:54:52 · answer #7 · answered by Misti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop him from seeing them until he can act like an adult and look after them properly. Filling their head with rubbish about you is damaging for your children. If he wants to go to court to get access back then he can pay for it.
Good luck
2007-06-20 06:02:13 · answer #8 · answered by Dingle-Dongle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a proper talk with your children and always make sure you tell them how much you love them or how much they mean to you so that no matter how much he fills thier heads with, they won't believe it.
Good luck
2007-06-20 05:17:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can try all he wants...he has to find you unfit or your children can decide when they are older who they want to live with. He sounds like he is still mad and cant let go..he knows the only way to get to you is through your kids...trust me my ex does the same_
2007-06-20 00:23:52 · answer #10 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋