They had a discussion about how my dad was critical and my mom looked like she would cry. They said they weren't fighting, but i don't know. Any opinion plz. Whats going on?
2007-06-19 16:23:00 · 5 answers · asked by ✔ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Fighting in a marriage isn't necessarily bad....sometimes it's a good thing. It's a way to clear the air and put things back on track.
Tell you parents that you love them.....and then let them handle the marriage part.
2007-06-19 16:27:41 · answer #1 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communication is one of the most important parts of a marriage. Your parents are being honest about there feelings and your mom is hurt that your dad is so critical it may just be that he does not realize it or that he does not want to see that he is. In any event they are not fighting rather they are communicating which is very healthy for there marriage so dont worry if it bothers you go somewhere else while they have there discussion.
2007-06-19 23:34:44 · answer #2 · answered by M-n-M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think they're saying they're "not fighting" means that they're not to the point where they're real angry at each other or about to break up. They want to assure you that they're "OK" and working things out. You've accurately discerned that it is a fight, but it could well be a "fair fight" if they're not yelling, screaming and using hurtful language. It's likely one of the first time you've seen disagreement and intense emotion. I'm sure it's a little scary.
In a way, you've just been able to see something others aren't all that privileged to see. Your parents have a conflict, and they're expressing emotion, yet sticking with it. All good marriages have conflicts that need to be talked about, often with tears. So rest assured, they're not trying to deceive you, just assure you.
2007-06-20 00:36:20 · answer #3 · answered by waldguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know how old you are, but here it goes. These things need to be said between them. No, it's not a full blown fight, but your mom probably needs to stand up for her self. It does not mean that you dad is awful, it just means that she does not want this anymore. It is normal for a woman to cry when they are fighting or not. No matter how old you are, when it comes to them, you are the kid. Let them sort it out, they will.
2007-06-19 23:30:24 · answer #4 · answered by Ivy_Woman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever it is, it's their business, their issue to work out, and none of your concern (and certainly not your fault). Disagreements in a marriage are expected, and when handled maturely, healthy. If you're "unsure" of what the conflict is about, that's a good sign that they're not acting the fool (screaming, name-calling, or physically harming each other) which suggests they have a good handle on the maturity angle. Leave them to it. I suspect things will be okay. Trust them to be the people you expect them to be.
2007-06-19 23:33:36 · answer #5 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋