I wanna know why men always think they have to have sex. Where is the whole love thing? I just dont get it they think sex is everything in a relationship and I just dunno why. Please explain ty.
2007-06-19 16:20:01 · 49 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't listen to the majority on here; most people are prejudiced. Men may have testosterone making them more prone to feel like "spreading their seed" but so what? The very same hormone tells them to kill any rivals and keep women in cages. Men can learn how much more fulfilling love and intimacy is and when they do, they crave that MORE than just sex.
Anyone who says "oh it's just the way they are, accept it" is being lazy. Don't buy into it. Plenty enlightened men crave intimacy and bonding and all that wonderful committed stuff MORE than just sex.
But don't get me wrong... sex is GREAT! I usually want it more and more often than my husband... he puts more emotional content into it than I do!
My other advice is; be aware that women are also raised to have more guilt and shame surrounding sex. So in some ways, it's not that men crave sex so much, it's that women try to deny sex so much!
My motto was always: if he makes me feel wanted, special and beautiful, then I can have sex and enjoy it. And you know, just because I might not feel like doing it when we start doesn't mean I won't like doing it once we get going!
2007-06-19 18:32:03 · answer #1 · answered by Cassandra G 4 · 4⤊ 2⤋
This question has many different answers depending on where you are comping from. For young men in their twenties or younger and are just in it for instant gratification.......that's why they want it; to satisfy their own pleasure.
You have to remember that men and women think differently.
Neither is wrong we are just programmed differently so that we can appreciate each others differences more.
Saying that there is a big difference between sex and making love..........a huge difference. A man wants to make love to his loved one often because he wants to please her and feels a great sense of satisfaction when he does. If he is a real man he understands the importance of connectedness and feeling as one in the love making process. His words and actions at this time, along with hers, make them feel closer....soul mates. Real men know that sex is just a release and that words can't even begin to explain making love to the woman that you love. They know that it takes more than sex in the relationship. It takes commitment, communication, and becoming the best that you can be together as a couple. And when you find him.......you will be the happiest lady on earth.
Keep looking, you will find him.
2007-06-19 16:56:03 · answer #2 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am married and I do not understand what the problem is.I think that men look at sex a lot like a woman. In his "sowing wild oats" days he had sex. But when a man loves a woman and share his life with a woman he sees it as an expression of love. Really, we are emotional creatures. Everyday, we say a million times, "Honey, I love you." and "Honey, what are you thinking." We get vocal confirmation. I think for a man that he shows a woman his love for her by making love.A man gets the confirmation by knowing that he is pleasing to his wife in that way. I think sex is everything for a man in love. Are you married? Really, sometimes you really rather to be watching Lifetime, but I do not think it too much to ask that when your husband wants to express his love for you in that way to comply. Think about how bad you would feel if your husband always turned you down. It hurts their ego, and a man is mostly that.
2007-06-19 16:31:12 · answer #3 · answered by 2fine4u 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's the way they were made & if you are smart you won't try to change him if you are married, just ask him nicely to let you know long before bed time that you are loved by him & then you will want the same
the trouble with some guys they wait til bed time to say how much they love you & that's their big mistake hey because we need to feel loved 24/7 not just at bed time
that makes some feel like its just all about sex :)
2007-06-19 16:28:23 · answer #4 · answered by ausblue 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In our species, to continue our population, man has this instinct. Because our population is so great, the instinct isn't appreciated, and may seem out of sync with our needs. If there were less people, this instinct would be highly valued.
Women have more choices now, than ever before. Their natural choice would be to respond to the male most enticing to them. Now it is friends, peers, groups, education, many choices affect women now. Some choose to not choose a partner, some put it off and pursue other things.
Try to think of why you find this unrealistic. Which priority do you have which you want to attend to instead of a man? Is one man interested in you? It's also the time of year many men mature romantically.
2007-06-19 16:27:00 · answer #5 · answered by Marissa Di 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There is a difference between having sex and making love. If you are with someone who you love then making love is an expression of that love. Men in general are not very good at expressing their feelings. Making love to someone who we love is an expression of that love.
If you are talking about being picked up in a bar, then that is usually what men want and we think that you want that also. Or else you would not let them "pick you up".
2007-06-19 16:40:59 · answer #6 · answered by texas mikey 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Pierre? LOL. I have rarely encountered that, and I've had a large number of gentlemen friends. Men are concerned that they are well endowed enough. That's a major point of insecurity because it's a potential inadequacy that they feel they can do nothing about.
2016-04-01 06:34:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because mother nature or God how ever you want to look at it made us that way think about you as a woman can expierence a climax that last how many minutes and be multiple orgasmic in one session we men our climaxs last what five, ten, may be twenty seconds if we are lucky and you wonder why we think about it all the time.oh and by the way for most men sex and love have absolutly nothing to do with one another i don't need to love you to be turned on by you i can have sex with you and have absolutly no feelings for you other than lust.
2007-06-19 20:08:40 · answer #8 · answered by windwalker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men like sex as much as women, but our testosterone causes men to be more aggressive and outgoing when it comes to it.
if we see an opportunity, we (most of the time) will go for it.
but it doesn't mean we hump every woman's leg in sight. (with STDs around, the brain up-stairs manages to win a battle or two against the one down-stairs).
I'd like to think I'm a little more able to control myself (which doesn't say much if I have to actually "control" something).
but that would be a lie, I am a guy,so I will like girls for things more than just there personality (not saying I wouldn't consider her perosnality).
although I have a girl friend, it doesn't mean I have to close my eyes every time another girl walks by (of course I wont ogle at her).
2007-06-19 19:28:16 · answer #9 · answered by it's National Security 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To men, sex is a way of reconnecting, of being intimate with their partner (that is more than just physical intimacy). Generally, if you have sex with a man, he is more willing to talk.
Whereas women, we generally want to talk first, then have sex.
Also, most men have a higher sex drive than their female partners do, so that may be why they seem to have "sex on the brain". It's their way of saying they love us (when sometimes we'd rather that they just do the dishes to show us that!!! LOL).
I wish you all the best!
2007-06-19 16:26:12 · answer #10 · answered by Cindy T 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋