My ex wife and my best friend started seeing each other , should i be mad if so at wich one.....also i have to teenage kids involved how do you think they feel about it? I dont dislike my ex but it seems to be kind of weird between my best friend and me.......
2007-06-19 16:09:31 · 13 answers · asked by EDDIE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First all stop calling him a best friend because a best friend would know better than to tread waters like that......that is a sacred thing between real friends that he should not be even be going there. What the hell is he thinking, did he not think that it wouldn't be "weird" for you if not hurtful? My regards to you....
2007-06-19 16:27:24 · answer #1 · answered by Lynnae_1969 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one because I'm sure you care about your best friend. It's weird to have your ex dating him. I wouldn't be mad at them but I would ask that he keep details about their relationship private from you and your kids. Keeping things friendly is the best thing you can do for your kids. Kids can be pretty resilient and I think they will look to you and your ex for guidance about how they feel. If they see everyone getting along, they may take that as their cue to do the same. They may not like it either so just be there for support if they need it and be a good listener.
2007-06-19 23:15:40 · answer #2 · answered by amyaz_98 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi Eddie! As long as you do not have any love feeling for your ex. I do not look at it as a problem.I have a friend,and his ex wife married his best friend.It made it better for the kids because all 4 of them stayed friends having barbreques etc.That way the kids have the best of both worlds.The parents were acting in a mature manner,and the kids are able to see mom,and dad on a regular basis.It is alot better set up than, seeing the parents fight all the time.I wish you the best!
2007-06-19 23:18:48 · answer #3 · answered by Gin 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First I think you need to talk to your kids and make sure that they know that you are there if they need to talk... it must be weird for them if they have see this going on. Aside of that everything else is secondary... You can't really be mad unless they were seeing each other before the marriage ended... I'm sure it will be weird and you don't have to stay friends with him if it makes you uncomfortable but you do have to stay in touch with your ex-wife... sorry must be a horrible situation to be in.
2007-06-19 23:20:14 · answer #4 · answered by Let it go~ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all you have to evaluate if you ended in good or bad terms with your ex wife. Also how do they knew each other? Coincidence or one of them started the friendship. They knew who they were before knowing each other? These questions you have to answer yourself to be more clear. I have an ex husband and a best friend-lover, and they both were friends before I divorced, and for me it would be weird for them to be friends again. My best friend is not interested in been his friend again because of how he made me suffer in our marriage. I think there is something else behind. Be careful.
2007-06-19 23:17:37 · answer #5 · answered by Gila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not right at all!! Did your friend talk to you about it first? Everyone as the right to be happy but that is kinda like a betrayal of a friendship! I know that I would be torn apart if my best friend did that to me! As far as the kids are concerned ask them what they think! Good luck and I would rethink your friendship with your friend!!
2007-06-19 23:15:38 · answer #6 · answered by rere 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it happens. you're lucky it's not your brother. Life is life and sometimes things like this happen. Don't feel weird about it and explain to the kids this is normal. we shouldn't put taboos on things that aren't taboo. At least you know she's with a man that you trust. It could be much worse. Just ask yourself if he's good for her. Because if he is then you know that when your kids are with them then they are safe too.
2007-06-19 23:13:39 · answer #7 · answered by mimi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would call it life and be happy for them. You know that he will not abuse your children, and they have a comfort with him. I would look at it from the stand point of your children more than anything. They may think it is strange also, talk to them about it. You know what kind of things are going on, and that is the important thing.
2007-06-19 23:18:48 · answer #8 · answered by Ivy_Woman 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, it depends.
If you are mad at anyone, be mad at your friend, because your ex is your EX...your friend is your FRIEND.
But depending on how long your ex and you have been seperated, I wouldn't get mad.
⥠xoxo
2007-06-19 23:14:30 · answer #9 · answered by em<3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your "friend" has crossed the line. You can't really expect loyalty from an ex, but your best friend?!
2007-06-19 23:20:15 · answer #10 · answered by kradleoffilth 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋