last week, my man and i went to a local bar for wings. we've been there on several occasions, and the female bartender flirts with him. but this time it went to far when he shared his wings with her, and then invited her to come over to ride motorcycles with us.(we took a break from riding for lunch) i felt almost degraded but, have a hard time expressing my feelings. he has a very dominent personality. any help??
2007-06-19 16:07:25 · 11 answers · asked by chwylvr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell him to knock it off or he's out the door.. Two can play that game.....
2007-06-19 16:16:51 · answer #1 · answered by Karen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that shtuff does not fly here. There is a standing rule with bartenders, flirting gets them better tips. Her flirting with him does not mean that she is interested. That is rarely the case with bartenders, they just want to make good money. A male bartender would most likely flirt with you, just not as bad. Better yet find a really good looking guy, flirt with him, and invite him to go ride with you guys. That should go over really well, but he would get the point.
2007-06-19 23:15:13 · answer #2 · answered by Ivy_Woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what i hate to say this but you may have very low self esteem. I really don't mean to sound harsh , but you need to SEE what's happening right in front of you , I'm pretty sure this is not the first incident, and reality is you shouldn't even have to point out to him what is appropriate behavior and what isn't HE should know! He is obviously getting a kick out of this and the longer you stay in this relationship the more of YOU , you;ll end up loosing.
It takes 2 to feel and want the same things and he apparently want to play. My advice is get out he isn't worth it no matter how hard it will be you will be better off. If you stay your just in for more pain, add a domineering personality in this like you say and your in for trouble .. Please Get out now!
2007-06-19 23:17:36 · answer #3 · answered by Magic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he was just being nice. I mean he was talking to her right in front of you when men cheat they tend to hide that fact. Follow the advice of the women on this board and you will definitely make him want to cheat. He asked her to come ride motorcycles with both of you not by themselves. If this was me and you brought this up that you thought I was a cheater because I talked nice to a bartender I would dump your insecure *** in about 5 seconds.
2007-06-19 23:25:13 · answer #4 · answered by jacalope22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to open your mouth and tell him how all that made you feel. He has no business flirting with her. He is a married man. He has totally disrespected you. But if he is that kind of guy that will flirt right in front of you, wow, what will he do behind your back? Don't let him walk all over you. You go to her and uninvite her. Tell her you don't appreciate your husband and her flirting with each other. Be brave or he is going to keep walking all over you. No one will stand up for you except you. Go for it!!!
2007-06-19 23:17:38 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh quit being such a whiny cry baby. He shared some wings, offered to ride motorcycles with her? If you are so insecure that you think he's going to cheat, then you need to just break it off with him, and move to a convent, cause you are never going to be any good to a man.
2007-06-19 23:17:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
make him jealous. most of the time if you talk about a situation like that the guy says " you're bitching". but if you show him how it feels--------they understand.
2007-06-19 23:19:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put your foot down. Before her foot becomes more powerful then yours.
2007-06-19 23:11:01 · answer #8 · answered by MotherMayI? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cheated once, he will do it again. If you have a gut feeling that he is cheating, he's cheating.
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/247576/how_do_you_deal_when_your_exhusband.html
2007-06-19 23:13:45 · answer #9 · answered by veronica 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's inappropriate for him to flirt with other women. tell him that
2007-06-19 23:12:58 · answer #10 · answered by The Naughty Librarian 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋