My husband has found a new website called paltalk and now he stays on it from sun up to sun down and i only see him when he wants to have sex or eat and he dosent come to bed until two in the morning. He dosent pay any attention to me anymore and we dont conversate because hes always on the damed paltalk. Ive talked to him about how i felt, now im thinking about looking for attention elsewhere. am i wrong.
2007-06-19 15:58:28 · 21 answers · asked by domojj24 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no u need to get rid of that damn computer . i bet u he'll talk then
2007-06-19 16:01:40 · answer #1 · answered by poeticscribe1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH MY GOD!!! Are you married to my ex-husband? In my case, my husband quit his job and was on the chat lines at least 18 hours a day. It got so bad that he wouldn't even eat dinner with me. He would fill his plate and run back to the computer. He would sleep while I was at work. After nine months of this crap, I told him to get a job or I was disconnecting the phone and internet service, which I was paying for. He decided to leave me for a woman he met online. That was the nicest thing he ever did!!! Your not wrong to want and need a man's attention, but you are in a BAD marriage!!! Why cheat? File for a divorce. I guarantee, you will get all the attention you desire, either from husband or someone else that you have a right to be with. A man doesn't treat his wife the way your husband is treating you, if he loves you and wants to be married to you. Why would you want to put up with spending your life in a marriage like this??? Some day you just might come home from work and find your husband is gone and so is everything in your house that is worth anything. That's what happened to me. I should have kicked him to the curb after this had been going on for a month. I am so glad that I don't have to live this way anymore. I have my life back and I am happy again :)
2007-06-19 16:34:37 · answer #2 · answered by Betty M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are a neglected wife. Looking for what you want, from your husband, elsewhere, is not going to help the marriage. If you have spoken to him a number of times in a number of ways, than it is time for drastic measures. You might not get much time for murdering the computer. It would be crime of passion. Stage it. Make it look like it was a break in. Or, you could spare its life, but hold it for ransom. Leave a ransom note made by cutting out letters from a mag. Bottom line is, you want what you need, from him. So you must get his attention some how!! Good luck!!
2007-06-19 16:19:04 · answer #3 · answered by Wonderer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send him an email explaining your frustrations. Sometimes this will get the message across when talking doesn't. Also plan an evening out for the two of you- something other than a movie so you can reconnect. All the best. In the meantime catch up with some girl friends for company.
2007-06-19 16:06:38 · answer #4 · answered by Mim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tried paltalk for about a week awhile back. There are adult rooms where you can watch people having sex on cam.. that could possibly be holding his attention for so long. Does your husband have a cam? If you feel neglected, you have to tell him that. If he doesn't care, then you should consider councilling.
2007-06-19 16:09:47 · answer #5 · answered by my2shadowz 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are wrong to look for attention elsewhere. Sit right by him while he is on paltalk and find out what pal's he's talking to and what he is saying. If it is other women he is talking to, this is called on line infidelity. You can go on line and go to "on line infidelity" there is a lot of info on it. What to look for and ways to monitor everything he is doing on line.
Don't fix his meals or have sex with him until he stops this bad behavior. Find something else to do. Become distant and unconcerned. See if he doesn't start coming around to see what you are doing.
2007-06-19 16:09:09 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's definitely wrong and I doubt he's up all night having spirited discussions about the economy or religion. Make him agree to shut it down at a reasonable hour or take matters into your own hands and pull the plug.
If you really want to shake things up install a keylogger program and find out exactly who he is talking to and what the conversation consists of. Good luck.
2007-06-19 16:03:28 · answer #7 · answered by gailforce_wind 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two wrongs don't make a right. Having said that, if talking to him about it does no good. Cut him off on sex. If he's just using you, why bother with it? Also, let him know how you feel, and let him know you're going to end up cheating or leaving for good if he keeps at it. His actions after that will determine your path...but don't write a check with your mouth that your @ss can't cash. Mean what you say, and say what you mean.
2007-06-19 16:02:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait til he gets in the shower, and get rid of the computer. Just put it somewhere. Do not step out of the marriage, divorce him if that is really what you want. Take the problem out, and hen he gets ticked off at you, tell him that you were serious. Being on the computer is fime, but not that much.
2007-06-19 16:10:18 · answer #9 · answered by Ivy_Woman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-08 14:07:25 · answer #10 · answered by snetsinger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PALTALK is boring as hell unless he's found another honey on there. Smash the computer!
2007-06-19 16:02:50 · answer #11 · answered by poison_angel32 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋