need some really, really good advice and tips.
2007-06-19 15:57:56 · 12 answers · asked by havingfun 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ego can be a destructive thing. I was the husband flirting with the woman next door. We did a lot of talking during the divorce stage of our 15 year marriage and I learned a lot. One thing I learned is that my wife never said anything when I did something to hurt her, so it was like giving a child permission to continue. On the other hand, I had no clue that some of the things I did upset her.
My advice is to tell your husband that this behavior hurts you and tell him how it really makes you feel. Speak from the heart. If he loves you, his behavior will change.
2007-06-19 16:14:42 · answer #1 · answered by Encantada 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From the looks of it, yes, he's starting to flirt on you. Learn to control yourself, you will observe that he will look for ways to allow both of you to be closer to each other every so often, so when this happens you should be wiser than him. A relationship with a married man is the biggest mistake you will ever do to your life. It will also ruin your momentum in pushing through with your studies. I sense that your teacher is the playboy type, trying to take chances with his students. Be aware though because, if your relationship gets deeper , and you will also flirt with him, there will be a time when he gets fed up with your ways, he may do things in your class that isn't proper that may irritate you some more. Take note that he has all the chances to give you hard to answer exams that you would even in return ask for him a favor. Never do this as this is his chance to take advantage of the situation. I suggest that you allow yourself to be together always with friends, those that understands your situation. Never provide even a small idle time to meet with him. Just imagine if his wife will ever know that you're meeting with this guy and she soon finds out you're having a forbidden affair with his husband, you could become the talk of the town if the wife's of the scandalous nature. If you have a best friend to accompany you always specially going home, then this can be one way to avoid your teacher. But if you've ever been caught up by him without someone along, learn to use alibis or white lies. When he sees he can't find any score in you, then he will feel you're not interested in him. It's just as simple as this.
2016-05-20 02:56:17 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to knock it off. Tell him you do not appreciate him flirting with the next door neighbor. Remind him he is a married man, and has no business flirting with her. Let him know it is upsetting you.
2007-06-19 16:03:10 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let them know how much it hurts. If that does not work then give them both a taste of their on Medicine and flirt with the other husband!
2007-06-19 16:08:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel! Tell him how much it hurts you to see him flirting with her, and ask him to stop... nicely. I like to flirt with other men, and my Hubby knows that I am not serious. I just like to get my ego stroked and still feel "wanted" so to speak. I am just a friendly person, that's all. Is your husband being serious, or just playful? If it really hurts your feelings then tell him about it. Maybe he just needs to still flirt to see if he has it. But if you think he is not playing, then tell him to stop. Tell him you feel uncomfortable about it and he should tone it down some. Good luck.
2007-06-19 16:07:42 · answer #5 · answered by looloo1122 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him that you want that flirting, If you fly off the handle he will not be nice about letting it go. Tell him that he's your man, and it does not make you feel wanted. You can deal with any man better when you are nive and treating them with respect. He is not meaning to disrespect you. Most men do noe think that flirting is disrespect.
2007-06-19 16:07:04 · answer #6 · answered by Ivy_Woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what his defination of flirting to make sure you are on the same page. Then tell you feel he is flirting with the neighbor and would like him to stop.
2007-06-19 16:03:37 · answer #7 · answered by momof4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! maybe he wants to make you jealous or something, pray for him, prayer opens the door for God to work in our lives.....Jesus loves you
2007-06-19 16:11:42 · answer #8 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to knock it off, that it doesn't feel good to you.
If he respects you, he'll stop. If he doesn't, then maybe he doesn't care, in which case, you might need to tell HER to knock it off, or send him to HER house and wash your hands of him.
2007-06-19 16:00:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him to choose one: Either Assets ( including yourself and kids) or just that lady. Can't have all.
2007-06-19 16:29:39 · answer #10 · answered by Ethan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋