am i overreacting?

Question

my boyfriend hasnt given me any presents yet ive given him quite a few...we've been going out for 5-6 months

he doesnt buy me foor or ice cream he doesnt pay for me

Answer 1

Abbigail ,How bout slapping him up side the head and saying what ya feel?From the pic ya showing is a gift enough

Answer 2

He may have been raised in a home where presents were not given.
He could be tight with his money for financial reasons.
He could find it awkward to give gifts.

I think it is nice that you set and example for gift giving. But now I would put a stop to it.
How does he react to accepting those gifts from you?

Have you approached him on this issue?

It may not bother some women, however, I am wondering if your nothing but a cheap date for him and if he is getting something else from you other than gifts. It would seem that he would feel something for you by now and want to please you with a bunch of flowers or chocolates on special occasions.

Let see, you get nothing from him for Valentines Day or Holidays? Either get use to it or lose it before you go any further with this person.

Life and relationships should be worked on to keep the spice and interest going. If you wind up marrying such a person you will soon get bored with them due to their lack of creativity in keeping the flame going. IT TAKES TWO!!!

Answer 3

You may be .
If everything else in your relationship is good, you guys get along , don't fight, he treats you well, then i wouldn't worry. Give him some time, maybe he is the kind that like to give gifts on special occasions, Or maybe he is tight, in the $$ dept.
I would however hold off on giving him anything else, let him pamper you , i mean if you want to show you love him , a sweet gesture, or a romantic note would be great. Let him spoil you a little. No matter what any body says guys love a challenge, if you come on too strong and loose that little bit of mystery , he may just fizzle out you know. Play a little hard to get, get him thinking, Make him want you , and chase after you! Trust me. Have fun!

Answer 4

If you feel that you should get present in return, just stop given him present to express your feel for him. Its nice of you doing that, at lease you don't have any problem buying something for the guy you're with.

when you give a present because you want to give it, not to get a present in return. In my opinion, your reward should be the expression on his face and he his appreciation for the present (like a child open a birthday gift) hugs and kisses and thank you's.

Answer 5

This should be in Singles & Dating, instead of Marriage & Divorce.

If you are dating for the purpose of presents then you are dating for the wrong reason. If everything else in the relationship is good, then you just may be dating someone who isn't big into gift-giving. It isn't obligatory (or shouldn't be).

If it really troubles you, why not ask him about it? Unless he's missed some big gift-giving occasions though, you may come across as materialistic.

Answer 6

My bf pays for every single thing. I dont like that coz i believe it shud be equal but if he wants to lol why not. Well i buy my bf tonnes of presents but i dont want any in return coz he always spends on me when we go out. I think ur bf should spen for you too equally as much as u spend for him or even more, is he going to go dutch forever?? Talk to him or just quit buying the gifts dammit. Girl u gotta demand some respect or hes gonna climb and sit on your head

Answer 7

Well this is something you have to decide.

Are you happy in a one sided relationship?
have you told him what your expectations are?
does he know your not satisfied, or are you trying to stroke his ego, and telling him how great it was.

If your doing this then you have no one to blame but your self. being honest even if your talking about sexuality if just as important as communicating how you feel about other aspects of a relationship.

PLUS how do you know your filling HIS needs?

Suggest reading

His needs, Her needs, By Willard Harley Jr
The 5 Love Languages, By Chapman

Smart Love By Dr Phil

Are 3 are excellent relationship books and each has it's specialty.

God Bless

Answer 8

No you aren't overreacting. Try talking to him about it. Also, perhaps he doesn't know what to get you. There's an excellect book called 101 Nights of Great Romance that can give you both ideas for romance. It has these awesome tear out pages so you can keep your night a surprise!

Answer 9

Stop buying him things and giving him gifts then, or don't. It's your choice.

But, if you are giving gifts only for gift reciprocation, and not just because its something you truly wanted to do, then stop.

This is a game of I buy you something and you buy me something and in doing so to your expected reciprocation he has to "prove" himself buy getting you something in return. Stop playing games and be real. A gift should never be given with the expectation of any reciprocation. If that expectation is there, then its not really a gift.

Answer 10

It is very generous of you to be able to spoil your boyfriend and buying him presents. However, when you give you should give freely and don't expect anything in return. Maybe you will get a present for your birthday or for Christmas.

Answer 11

no, you are not. with a few presents you got him, you would think he would take a hint and get you one. just stop buying him things. if he pays for your dinner, lunch, coffee, ice-cream, etc then that is the same thing as if you got you a gift/s. make sure your not involved with a cheapo either.