Why do people feel important when they control other people?

Question

Isn't every life just as precious and special as the next?
Why do people enjoy bossing around others?

Ok, let me clarify.
I'm not talking about a man acting like a man and being a leader with his family.

I have been recently promoted, and thinking about this. I understand the need for direction and order in life.
But why is success dictated by numbers and level of control. Just wondering :)

I think every single person is special and unique. That doesn't mean I don't think a man should look after his household.

Answer 1

I imagine it appeases their sense of distrust for others and serves in their own mind a validation for their opinion for their own competency. Of course the concept for competency and competency for doing something are two completely different facts. I wonder if it compensates for a childless state in life, but the production for ones own children is not good proof for competent parenting. i.e. sex is fun. Like most neurosis an avoidance for unpleasantness is usually active in the psyche and confirmed compliance, as I have suggested before, relieves that tension. Some people do not know how to act cooperatively as equal competent adults, i.e. e.g. they have no training for it, i.e. parenting.

Answer 2

This feeling of being important........... I think....... is just a facade. A front to hide the deeply entrenched feeling of low self esteem. Each one can apply this to himself/herself and find the real truth behind this.

It is my observation that if we look closely these so called "controlling " people will a. actually, be controlling persons far , far below their equals. In the households , I have seen. they try to boss over the helpers, the assistants. In the working environment they will boss over the hapless assistants and subordinates.

I feel these people feel inferior to the others in many respects. This is especially true when one constantly lives under the shadow of a more rounded off personality, a constant reminder of inferiority complex.

Answer 3

To begin with, the need to control comes from fear. The would-be controller is afraid that people won't like him or think well of him. When they are under his control, he doesn't have to worry if anyone is going to call him on something, or disagree with his statements. Thus covered from the battle, he can just go along being sure that everyone is still afraid of him and no one will find him out as a fearful, weak person which he is.

Answer 4

As many of the other users have stated, the need and desire to control others stems from fear and insecurity, this is quite obvious. What is not obvious is what are these people who act this why so afraid of.

Take a man who controls his wife for example, he knows that his wife will not stay around out of love, so he must use fear and scare tactics to weaken the will of his wife in order to bring her down to a level in which she is dependant upon him for survival. By breaking her down, she becomes weaker and feels she needs him in order to survive, and then he has her in his grips.

What does a man do who acts out of love? He builds his wife up, he encourages strength and growth because he wants to see his wife flourish and become a better human being. He is secure in his own humanity and values the life he sees before him. He doesn't need to control his companion because he knows he is deserving of being loved in return.

Yes you are correct, every life is special and of no more value than the one before or after. If you love someone set them free, help them to grow and you your self will grow. There is no love in fear.

Answer 5

Power is primal. The alpha male in a pack of primates or canines gets to breed and gets the lion's share of resources. The rest have to do what the alpha wants, fight him, or sneak around him. Power gets access to resources, which equal survival.

Never forget that people are on some level animals.

Answer 6

Simple - Ego.
The only way these bullies feel superior is by belittling everyone else. May also be a sign of insecurity on their part.
By exerting control upon others gives them the sense that they have authorization above all else.

Answer 7

While some people shy away from responsibility, others get a thrill from being in power. That is the main difference between a leader and a follower.

Answer 8

Some people are repeating a behavior they experienced as a child.

Some people get physical and/or psychological enjoyment by having power over people. These people are sick.

However, most are people who feel insecure use whatever power they have to protect themselves and hide their inadequacies.

Emotionally and psychologically secure people use their power to improve things all around them.

Answer 9

It depends what type of control you mean. Some people need to have more money than others to feel important; to get it they control people rather than choosing ethics

Answer 10

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