why is everything so good when you date and then i got married and only lasted a year and half it took me 15 yrs to get remarried and now im seperated for 3 months now he was very abusive and drank alot think i should hang it up im 38 ty for your input jewels
2007-06-19 14:18:41 · 19 answers · asked by jewels 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Jewels, that is ALL up to you, Honey. When we overlook red flags waving, that's when we mess up. We excuse them thinking, oh...maybe it's not that big a deal, when we should have heard the bells ringing but we chose to be deaf to them. When you decide you are WORTH a million, and start thinking of life, and yourself in a positive, confident way, then you WILL meet Mr. Right. The trick is NOT just settling, but EXPECTING the best...and when you EXPECT things you make them happen. Good luck. (By the way, you're only 38, you still have PLENTY of time!)
2007-06-19 14:39:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GF never give up on love. Sometimes you have to run through a few deadbeats to realize the prize. Most likely there were signs of default in those relationships, you just let your feelings make them over. Friendship, I cant stress how important that is in a relationship. Build from that and you cant go wrong. Love is a powerful emotion, and the more you understand about it coming from within yourself, the easier it can be truely seen in others. Follow your heart and relax. The real thing takes time and unfortunatly it cant be pin pointed on a watch. Good luck.
2007-06-19 14:27:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you have to give yourself time to get over him. I was told you need about a yr to get over the marriage. That was pretty much right on! Get things straightened out in your head first. You will find that special someone. Not saying you are but don't rush things. You don't want to make that mistake again. You want it to be forever next time. Maybe you wont want to get married again. There is nothing wrong w/ just dating or maybe having a live in boyfriend. The only difference is the paperwork.
Good luck! Let me know how things go.
2007-06-19 15:34:14 · answer #3 · answered by isaducy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its time to quit the bars and clubbin and partyin hon. Its time for you to go to church and find a decent man.Trust GOD not your own intuition and ways of thinking. If a guy drinks, he may have a problem he is hiding. If he does dope he may have a problem.Date a yr.or 2 no sex and see what happens.If you shacked for 15 yrs, then thats why.The guy wanted to live with one foot out the door and YOU badgered him until he married you and it made him mad and he felt trapped and divorced you.Or were you just single for 15 yrs. and then married after dating less than 2 yrs?Better be more picky hon, you aint gettin younger.
2007-06-19 15:10:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am divorced after 23 years .I will never trust a woman again with my finances ,life or emotions ,its a shame because Im a great guy ,self sufficient ,Honest and I can do all chores around the including cooking .
So tell me why I should ever get taken again ????I forgot I one great lover too .
Sorry about being so modest .
2007-06-19 14:29:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
While I have to admit that guys, honest ones I mean, are few and far between, I also have to assure you that they exist and are out there, just waiting to be discovered and enjoyed. The problem lies in the fact that most women hook up with guys for the wrong reasons, i mean, most of the time because of good looks and such, or because they have money and all that. We rreap what we sow...
2007-06-19 14:29:08 · answer #6 · answered by Marcelo A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you will meet the right guy, but give yourself a chance. It's only been 3 months. Just try to learn from your experiences and stay away from heavy drinkers and men who don't treat you right.
2007-06-19 14:26:13 · answer #7 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look inward before you can wish for a prince on a white horse. Are you really a princess? If not, your personality and attributes determine the kind of outcome you get in marriage.
2007-06-19 14:40:47 · answer #8 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to the bars to meet men then that is a major problem. Meet them in a bar lose them in a bar. Put yourself first and focus on you and the rest will fall into place. GOOD LUCK!
2007-06-19 15:39:37 · answer #9 · answered by TABBY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will meet the right guy, it just takes time. :)
When you are truly ready to meet someone new..you will meet them. :)
Go out, have fun, set up a personals account and meet people :)
you can't ask "Will i ever meet the right guy" if you don't get out there and meet people already... :)
every pot has a lid that fits :)
Good luck..take your time though, don't rush into the next relationship :)
Give yourself some alone time, and when you're ready to meet a nice man here or there you will :)
Good luck. :)
2007-06-19 15:20:17 · answer #10 · answered by cnn360coffeebubbles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋