My Ex wants me to raise my son. My current wife says NO. Can the court force me?

Answer 1

No they cant force you! Tell your ex she is stuck with him. Sheesh poor kid.

Answer 2

Hello,

No offence, but I don't understand why you would marry such a person that "tells" you that you cannot raise your OWN son.

Think about this:
1. You're an adult -- You can make your own decisions.
2. How do you think your child will feel without a father?
3. You need to set your priorities straight in your family. Kids always come first. They are harmless.

I don't want to be rude, but you should really tell your current wife to get a life and stop being so jealous and demanding.
How would she feel if you said no to raising her child from another marriage.

You should make up your mind soon, or if you cannot do it alone, seek out professional help, like a marriage counselor or a family psychiatrist.

Hope it helps!

Answer 3

Yes the court has the power to force you to take responsibility if your ex is not able to fulfill the childs needs.
I think this is all about growing up and accepting responsibility. You chose to have this child when you had unprotected sex with your ex. You have a responsibility to that child. This child did not ask you to make him, you did that. Now the human thing to do is, offer them a chance at a good life.
Your current wife sounds unreasonable and cruel, she has no right to deprive a child of his father. Remember, your son should be your first priority. If your wife cannot understand that, maybe it's time you found a new more humane wife with values, morals and a sense of responsibility. She sounds horribe.
I really feel sorry for this poor innocent little child.

Answer 4

No. The court cannot force you to raise your son, it can however force you to pay child support. Do you want to raise your son is the real question? If you do and your wife says no then that is the real problem, because she can't deny you the right to be there and raise your child. Do the right thing for your child's sake.The laws are different in each state.

Answer 5

I have to take a deep breath here...your WIFE says NO to raising YOUR son? Do you know how many fathers would love to be in your position - to actually have their child full time with no huge court battle, and fight? Let me guess the new wife wants your "own" family? You had your son before you were with her, you brought him into this world - step up to the plate. Tell your wife she accepts it or she starts packing, selfish B. Maybe you'd rather the court puts your son in a foster home? Would that better suit the new wifey?

Answer 6

If your ex does not want to raise your son and you feel like you are being forced to, I feel that makes both of you unfit to be parents. Sorry if this offends you but thats how I see it. I feel so bad for your son. Maybe adoption would be a better idea for the boy. Why in the heck would you let your current wife ... or anyone for that matter ...come between you and your child????/

Answer 7

Let me guess. Your current wife was the "other woman" when you left your ex wife. Now she does not want you to be a father to the child/ren that you had before her, yet she wants you and her to have your own kids and it's ONLY acceptable for you to be a father to the child she has by another man.

And let me guess, you are being "daddy" to another man's kid, yet you want to ask if the courts can "force" you to raise your own? Dude, what type of question is that?!! Did you feel stupid and ashamed writing such a question?!!

And let me guess, you're quick to want to use him as a dependent for tax purposes, yet you do not want him to be dependent on needing and wanting a father. I do not know what to say. You're cruel and horrible and so is your current wife. You went from bad to worse instead of upgrading to a better, current wife.

Do your son a favor and stay out of his life. You will be doing more harm than good if you are willing to deal with a wife like that. ESPECIALLY, if you need to ask such a question. No disrespect, but your self love is so low, that you can not love what is apart of you more than this chic you call a wife.

Answer 8

Did your current wife know you had a child before you married her? What is this that the woman has to be the one to raise the child? Unless your son is absolutely anti your current wife, tell her where she can go. That is your darn son for Christ sake!
You scare me to death. As a woman, I would be very afraid of a man who would not take care of his responsibility as yourself. The court should not have to force you, you should be honored. what kind of woman did you get yourself there dude. How old is your son-does your son hate her and do evil things to her?

Answer 9

Are you going to allow your wife to tell you that you can't raise your own son? What is wrong when someone can tell you that your own son doesn't mean that much to them, that your not allowed to raise him? She knew you had a son before she married you, for the life of me what kind of woman would act this way toward a child. Yes, the courts can make you if the ex takes it back to court. Both of you need to grow up.

Answer 10

Well if neither of you want to raise this child...who by the way did not ask to be born to parents who are refusing to care for him, then both of you need to sign away your parental rights, and allow this child to be raised by some one who will love him.

In my opinion, blood comes first no matter what the current wife says....he is your son...and you and your x wife have an obligation to him. I feel sorry for your son....I am sure that he is feeling unwanted, and it is sad for a child to feel this way.

Answer 11

I'm sorry, but if you need to raise your son then you tell your wife that is what is going to happen. I am the new wife of a man that has 3 other children, if his kids want to live here, then that is what will happen. I would never stand between my husband and his kids and your wife shouldn't either. She signed up for the package deal, so get used to it.