there are 3 of use, and one of my friends always lies to me & my other mate about her personal life, and then confesses like 3 weeks later and laughs about it, thinking its a joke, its not really, what do i do? please help, its really getting on my nerves!
2007-06-19 13:58:49 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
That is not a friend you need to keep.
2007-06-19 14:02:14 · answer #1 · answered by lady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever stopped and asked yourself , why your friend continues to do this? It's a pattern..you say a few weeks later she'll confess(so that show's she does have a concience as it's been bothering her so she'll confess to her fibs) as to why she would continue to do this...my guess is, her life is very sad right now, so she trys to get involved with you and your other friends, wants to fit in, wants you all to like her so much,...so she'll make up some storys (perhaps when you all are talking bout your lives, she feels she doesn't have one, so makes things up to sound interesting) but her concience then gets the better of her and she needs to confess the truth to you and try to laugh it off, embarassed by even doing it...She is not making it to be a "joke" she really is crying out for help, and for a true friendship*
I would try to spend some one on one time with her and see if she'll open up to you. Perhaps ppl have backstabbed her before or made fun of her life before....but sounds to me..she really wants a True Friend she can trust and be herself with , whom her True Friend will like her for who she is not where she came from~
Try to be more supportive and find out the facts before you allow someone to get on your nerves. Be patient..and be a True Friend(not someone who will use her misfortune in life to have a laugh and tell everyone).
Sounds like your friend needs a HUG*
Best wishes to you and your friend* Takecare* Reach out to this girl* (wouldn't YOU want someone to reach out to you if this were you?)
2007-06-19 14:09:05 · answer #2 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I DON'T KNOW WHAT SHE IS TELLING YOU FROM HER PERSONAL LIFE, BUT IT IS ''PERSONAL'' and perhaps she does not want ANYONE to 'know it all'. Be a real friend and ignore this habit of hers. SHE DOES IT BECAUSE YOU ALL ARE IRRITATED BY IT. START CARING LESS WHEN IT SOUNDS LIKE A LIE OR DURING THE CONFESSIONS.
IF she is telling you some really TRAGIC things going on in her life, THEY'RE PROBABLY TRUE. THEN SHE IS ASHAMED AND TAKES IT BACK AND LAUGHS TO COVER HER EMBARRASSMENT, PERHAPS. WHO KNOWS. IT IS NOT IMPORTANT.
PEOPLE DON'T 'HAVE TO KNOW EVERYTHING ABOUT A FRIENDS PERSONAL LIFE'. WHY, SOME THINGS ARE JUST TOO PERSONAL.
FORGET IT!
2007-06-19 15:39:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time she tells you something, ask her 'is that REALLY true?' if she says 'yes', and it turns out to be another lie, then gradually stop listening to her and being her friend.
If my friends lied to me, they wouldn't be anymore.
2007-06-19 14:02:39 · answer #4 · answered by Oros 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell them to stop it or u won't be friends with them anymore, I do that all the time and it seems to work 'cause they haven't lied to me yet... at least i think....
2007-06-19 14:02:07 · answer #5 · answered by Uchiha Sakura 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
obviously she or he isn't really a close friend as you thought.
2007-06-19 14:17:18 · answer #6 · answered by Ticked off American 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋