how old was your newborn when you first left them overnight with family.?

Question

my fiance wants to go on a weekend tip about a month after the baby is born, and he would be with my grandma, but i just don't know if im going to feel comfortable leaving him for that long so soon.

Answer 1

He will be fine. It's better with a family member than a stranger. just write down YOUR instructions for the baby, that will help you feel better.
when to eat
sleep routines, etc.

Answer 2

I didn't leave my daughter overnight until she was 20 months old and it was with my mom in my house. I also am a nursing mom, and she didn't night wean until she was 15 months old...so that had something to do with it.

I personally wouldn't be comfortable leaving a baby that young w/o me unless it was an absolute necessity (ie hospitalization, must work to support family w/o maternity leave, etc.).

For about the first 6 months of life at least, babies do not know that they are their own creature. They are biologically programmed to think you and them are one in the same. Therefore, it is VERY stressful for a baby to be w/o it's mother.

There is also other research that suggests that a young baby, when left w/o mother but w/ a good caregiver, for more than 5 days, begins to physically and emotionally react as if mother has died. Our babies need us, literally.

I know that's probably not what you wanted to hear, but it is worth thinking about. You'll have years and years to get away w/ your fiance/spouse. You'll only have these moments w/ your baby.

It's a hard decision. Good luck.

Answer 3

my baby is 7 months and i wouldn't leave her overnight even at my moms who lives 2 doors down and she sees all the time. I"m just not comfortable with it.
I might be a little to overprotective.
with my oldest i left her for the first time over night when she was 1 1/2yrs
sorry this was probably no help huh.
Good luck.

Answer 4

Well, I have always breastfed my kids. Therefore, staying away for more than just a few hours was not even a question. I tried going to a concert when my first born was a month old. After about 6 hours, my breasts were squirting all over me and my shirt was soaked. The little breast pads were pointless. I guess about 6 months old would be m answer. I also didn't want to go anywhere if I couldn't take my kids with me.

Answer 5

Usually babies start to sleep all the way through the night at about 4 months old or so. I would wait until after that, unless your grandma is really comfortable with the idea of getting up a few times during the night.

I left my first baby with my mom when she was two weeks old. We called to check on her and she (the baby) was crying. I got upset and went home. I spend the last few months of pregnancy dreaming about taking a cruise and then when push came to shove. I couldn't actually go.

If you are already thinking it might me too hard, just wait until you fall in love with your little one. It sounds like you already know how you feel about this. Listen to your heart. You will know when you are ready. Congratulations and Good Luck!

Answer 6

My daughter would spend about every Saturday night starting at about 1month and half old with my mom. But of course I only lived two minutes away and could be their any time. I'm 32 weeks pregnant will be 33 weeks tomorrow. I run and in home day care I plan on taking 10 weeks off and my husband and I have planned to take a weekend get away before I return to work. If your not comfortable going the weekend maybe you can turn it into a night getaway.

Answer 7

I took my son with us when he was three weeks old. When went for a weekend trip to Toas NM. I however had him with me. My oldest would stay with my mom over night right after I brought him home from the hospital since I had to work. He was also bottled feed. It really is up to you and how you feel. the baby is your child, not ours who are answering your question. If your aren't comfortable right away don't feel bad and don't allow dad to pressure you. You'll just be miserable and thinking about your baby the whole time so it would be a wasted trip. Good Luck.

Answer 8

If your nursing, that's going to cause all sorts of problems to be away for the weekend. And even if you aren't, I can just bet you wont feel ready. I think my daughter was 7 mths or so the first time she spent over a few hrs away from me (a weekend with her father and his family), and it was hard. I didnt feel comfortable being so far from her. Everyone is different though, so maybe you will be OK with it.

Answer 9

2 months, as quickly as I had breastfeeding familiar? i don't undergo in concepts precisely, yet actually I considered it part of my activity as a discern to help my toddler be useful with extra relied on adults than merely me, and to confirm that, case in point, she wasn't distressed by utilizing being positioned to mattress by utilizing different persons. i'm afraid I merely do not understand this prefer some human beings seem to could make their toddler thoroughly based on them and in easy terms them. What in case you're sick and could pass into hospital, and having never left her for extra desirable than an hour or so, without notice that is a week? destructive little youngster, too youthful to comprehend why you're actually not there and having _never_ transferred her have confidence to a distinctive person till now. a minimum of you pass away yours including your companion. i be attentive to folk who won't even try this...and who brag approximately it. Do it _before_ that is an emergency. Do it frequently. Your toddler is far extra advantageous off having 3 or 4 carers who she loves and trusts than if she has in easy terms you. would not could be for a evening on the city, although. i'm with you on not looking that somewhat eye-catching - and what a peculiar and wonderful element to ask a heavily pregnant female!

Answer 10

I think your baby will be ok with your Grandma. I left my first child with my Mom when he was just a few weeks old. Every mother feels that way after their baby is born its natural. I felt that way too. However it is your choice. Good luck.