Do you ever wonder if it's worth it to try and keep in touch with people who never contact you?

Question

Sometimes I think I'm wasting my time when I'm the only one who does the calling and visiting. I feel like I'm a loser and a user when I only call when I need something but that's the only way to reach people including my family. I feel like my love is in vain so often. What do you think?

Answer 1

well you should definitely let your family know that. yes, i do think that all the time, but then in the future, they cant say you havent been trying to reach them and youll be the bigger person :)

Answer 2

I know exactly what you mean. I am 38 years old and still feel the same way. I just recently gave up what I thought was my best friend because whenever I needed her the most she did not have time for me. Ex: when my mother died, when my mother-in-law passed and when my baby was born all in the last year. I finally text her that she has been downgraded to an aquaintance, she text me back that she was sorry but I am sooo tired of the excuses people give. I have my 2 other best friends and one is 1700 miles away and I have my husband and children. I guess that is all I need--- except I am such a people person and love to have lots of people around all the time... Oh well...

Answer 3

They are trying to tell you something dear, and it is like driving a dull nail through a thick plank. They don't like you all that much. If they did they would call, write and visit. They feel obligated to show up when you invite them, or to say "How nice to hear from you" when you call, but they would rather you didn't. Just because you share blood doesn't mean you share interests.

Find people who DO like you. Surely there are people who share something you do; kids the age of your kids, a religion, a passion for hiking, softball, politics, river clean-ups, civic action, little theater, rock collecting, or jut a neighborhood. Ask the people on each side of you over for dinner. See if they ask you back. If so, you've got a friend.

Answer 4

i'm in simple terms a sprint of a administration freak too and that i'm a great adrenaline junkie. i circulate skydiving in some weeks and that i'm additionally going into the CIA. Hah, so I sort of understand the place you're coming from. whilst i grew to become right into a baby i attempted weed as quickly as. I hated it. the lack of administration over your psychological state and the lack to easily decide to make it end weren't in any respect something i decide to journey lower back. i did no longer have a panic attack, yet its a universal certainty that weed can set off something on your ideas that could supply you with panic assaults even once you're no longer severe. Messing around with your ideas isn't something you go with to do, relatively while you're going into criminal justice.

Answer 5

The Answer is Yes. It is worth. Gnosis training teaches people to give without expecting rewards. There are two reasons for that i) is that we need to learn for our own growth to cultivate "conscious" love. ii) Second reason is because the given in people although it may have different motivation, the highest and most noble is simple because one's gives out of understanding and out our own inner richest. If you don’t have anything, even if you want, you can’t give.
Finally, from a Gnostic perspective a plainly selfish motivation is for the "law of retribution". What in the east is called karma. Paul said don’t deceive yourself whatever you plant that will you harvest.

Pleroma

Frater H de O

Answer 6

Well, I find that I too am the one who calls my friends and family. I have been told by most of them that they like it that way, because they are all too often caught up in their own 'lil world to find the time to call me, or visit me. I also have one old life long friend who calls me 200% more often then I call her, and that's ok. It shows me that my friend thinks about me from time to time.

All in all I think it is well worth it to be the 'glue' in a relationship.

Answer 7

Some are users some are receivers. That is how life plays the game. I find myself helping when I try not to. When I need help I have to beg for it. Go figure? Family, Friend, Acquaintances, it makes no matter.

Answer 8

Looks like you need to re-invent yourself! Find yourself a hobby and make friends there, you will have alot in common with them and this will make for a stronger relationship. Dye your hair! Buy some nice clothes! Go to a kareoke night and meet some interesting, wild, and eccentric characters (the best place to meet those kinds of people lol).

Give yourself respect darl, don't need people that don't need you.

Answer 9

i must say that if it's your family then it's not a waste of time, because that's your blood..
but if its those people that sometimes you consider a friend and sometimes they like you.. then yeah its definitly a waste of time.. move on and see what happens after like a week or month of you not contacting them.. if even after a month, they havent contacted you, then you know its all just a waste of time and you're soooo much better than them.
goodluck

Answer 10

don't feel lonely. i had this friedn i really liked in hawaii. she was my neighbor for two years and i just loved her to death. she was a clean freak and she and hubby were neat. anyhow for quite a number of years i wrote her and wrote and wrote never heard from them and kne wthey got it but oh well i have finally stopped i guess igot the hint. i also have girl friend who i was with in grade school an di know where she lives and written her so many times over the years only to have silence. its unreal. i like people and try but it never works and never hear frm the.w eird yes, but its those people who are missing

Answer 11

I agree and my brother never calls me. I used to call him and send his family gifts on different occasions. I just gave up when I saw nothing coming back in return. Let him live his life and I will live mine.

I can only do so much.